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Sweeten Your Speech

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I’ve had a few experiences lately with seeing the destructive reality of using sarcasm in our daily speech.

When I was  teenager, sarcasm was king! It meant you were in “the know” you understood the subtle undertones of snarky (now that word hadn’t been born yet, but it’s a dandy isn’t it?) teen talk. It also meant you weren’t a “goodie goodie” heaven forbid.

But really, sarcasm is victim talk.

It’s a, here’s-to-everything-wrong-with-the-world cheer.

It’s cutting and wretched and devoid of hope and positivity.

So I challenge you to cut it out. Out of your casual speech and out of your thinking.

Is this how you want to be remembered? From Greek, sarkasmos, “to tear flesh, bite the lips in rage, sneer, gnash teeth, speak bitterly?”

Sounds pretty violent, and you know it surely can be if you’ve ever been the brunt of sarcastic remarks.

But it’s especially wounding to those innocents who are not privy to such derision (ridicule, mockery) and deceit.

In the last few weeks, I’ve been on the receiving end of several sarcastic comments, and it has reminded me that I never want to give someone the potentially hurtful sting that sarcastic comments deliver.

Beyond comments that are directed at someone in particular, sarcasm is equally as destructive in the general sense. Even if we are talking about a large group of people or an incident or commenting on someone else’s beliefs or habits, sarcasm adds foul blackness to the air and calls in darkness rather than inviting greater light.

If you are accustomed to using sarcasm in your communications, (I know I can do better), it may take deliberate practice or asking someone close to you to bring it to your attention when you slip into sarcastic speech. But it is worth our best efforts. Being trustworthy pays direct dividends to all our relationships.

I wish you all the best this wintry night.

Be well,

Jacque 

Lioness Planners!

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This year, {I’m so excited to say!} you can choose between two styles of Lioness planners! Next year we will keep these two current styles, and add two more, making four styles in all. {A big thanks to Shantel Peaden at Red Ladder Design for her thoughtful work!}

Here is another sneak peek at some of the pages we designed with you in mind!

But first, a few thoughts. These books are 214 pages of simplifying, systematizing, self-care logging, sanity-saving bliss. Not to mention that they are feminine and beautiful, to suit you.

We’re working on a landing page for these babies, so that you can quickly order one if you would like, but for now it’s just, “hey Jacque, I want one of those!” in the comments or in an email ok?

And just a note to all you free-spirits out there that feel that having a plan is going to cramp your style: quite the opposite is true! Having plans means life is lighter and easier and gives you more time to do the creative things you want to do! I think you’ll find that even making plans, as it turns out, is a creative pursuit!

I hope you had a great Tuesday. Mine was a whirlwind! Whew, time for bed!

Take care,

Jacque

Chili By Pictures

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We had a lot of chili this holiday season, so I thought I’d pass on the recipe that seemed to go over well!

Start with browning turkey or beef with garlic and onions. If you prefer a meatless chili, just lightly

cook an onion and a few cloves of garlic.

Add veggies and beans, and of course you can really change this up as you prefer. Here are some ideas:
pinto, black, red, great northern beans, and better yet, a combination of a few; green chili’s, jalapenos, corn (you can see mine was frozen), diced tomatoes, celery, or whatever you think sounds good.

Add vegetable juice and then 1/4 that amount of water.

Season with cumin, salt, red pepper flakes and chili powder. (I just dump these in now, but a good starting place would be: 2 tsp cumin, 2 Tbs Real salt, 4 dashes red pepper flakes and 1 Tbs chili powder. All chili powders are not created equal! The one I have now is super hot, so I have to start small and add more to get to the desired level of kick I want!

Let it all simmer!

Garnished here with tortilla chips, cheese, olives and for some, saltines. The only thing missing that I love is avocado! And of course you could add sour cream.

I hope you are well today.

Thank heaven for new days, new months and new years! We all need starting over spots don’t we?

Take good care my friend.

Jacque

 

 

 

Massage, Marinate, Memorize

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Here’s a mantra idea for this beautiful new year: massage, marinate and memorize!

First, massage your plan! Yes, take the time to work out your goals and plans, be dedicated about your time-blocking and then as you’re living those plans, massage them to make them enjoyable and doable! If things end up feeling too harried, rethink that part of your schedule, wiggle it until it’s a better fit. Pay attention to the kind of “stress” you have, whether it is heavy, under-the-gun type or the anticipating and somewhat excited kind! If you can mentally flip it around from heavy to light, by all means do it now! {If not, see the last suggestion for another idea.}

We all need self-care. But if you are living a life of care giving, make sure that you are marinating in self-care as much as you possibly can! {Marinating is thoroughly soaked!} I read a line today from C.S. Lewis, “we must think of a King at peace, enthroned, taking his leisure, serene.” That struck me. While we aren’t kings with servants and constant royal treatment, we are, in the big picture, God’s daughters and therefore royal. Maybe we could consider creating self-care that matches that title! Are you worthy of peace and serenity? Of course! So do all you can to cultivate peace and serenity in your day to day life. Be present and enjoy all of the simple blessings in your life!

Need a bit of a lift in the way you see your responsibilities or in your ability to set a few goals or to dream about how you would like things to go? Now is the time to memorize the declarations you need to support those shifts! In order for them to be really effective, you need to be able to repeat them often, so make them:
-short and sweet
-direct and powerful
-present tense and positive!
Then rehearse, rehearse, rehearse!

“I am happy and content.”
“I am grateful and constantly counting my blessings.”
“I am loved.”
“I take time to nourish myself.”
“I am worthy of constant care.”
“I break my goals into bite-sized pieces.”

I hope that you have your sights set on a great year ahead, doing small things {for yourself and others} with great love–which adds up to leaving a loving legacy of dignity, serenity and joyful peace.

Be well.

Love,

Jacque

 

 

 

 

Manna

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Hello there! I hope this short post finds you well!

I’ve been thinking about some of the crucial things we need in order to live well that we must give and take in small increments.

Things like sleep, good food, encouragement, fun activities, journal entries, good health and even inspiration. Things like these can’t be consumed once or stocked away or served in a one-time scoop.

They are daily, gathered little by little into the storehouse of our bodies and our memories.

You may have a great day at the beach with your children, but then as that fun becomes a memory and you all change and grow, you will have need of other trips and outings together.

You may prepare good food and give or receive encouragement today, but tomorrow will have need of new energy, nutrients, kind words and support of many kinds.

It’s the metered days, the sun crossing the sky, night falling and the moon rising. It’s a bigger shoe size this month and baby teeth falling out and a voice warbling as it finds it’s new, lower place.

What do you need to ask for today? What can you give today? Ask it and give it and then rest and look for newness in all things tomorrow.

Much love to you, you’re wonderful! Please don’t forget to speak kindly to yourself and then to your little ones.

Jacque