Mothering

Inspiration on parenting

Manna

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Hello there! I hope this short post finds you well!

I’ve been thinking about some of the crucial things we need in order to live well that we must give and take in small increments.

Things like sleep, good food, encouragement, fun activities, journal entries, good health and even inspiration. Things like these can’t be consumed once or stocked away or served in a one-time scoop.

They are daily, gathered little by little into the storehouse of our bodies and our memories.

You may have a great day at the beach with your children, but then as that fun becomes a memory and you all change and grow, you will have need of other trips and outings together.

You may prepare good food and give or receive encouragement today, but tomorrow will have need of new energy, nutrients, kind words and support of many kinds.

It’s the metered days, the sun crossing the sky, night falling and the moon rising. It’s a bigger shoe size this month and baby teeth falling out and a voice warbling as it finds it’s new, lower place.

What do you need to ask for today? What can you give today? Ask it and give it and then rest and look for newness in all things tomorrow.

Much love to you, you’re wonderful! Please don’t forget to speak kindly to yourself and then to your little ones.

Jacque

 

 

 

You’ve Got It!

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It’s like brightly glazed earthen bowls by a glowing fire. It’s clean windows and simple, beautiful food.

A yellow kite flying in a blue sky. A curly dog, so happy to see you that he wags ‘his whole self.’ It’s the steady, warm flame of a candle at dusk or a sky strewn with stars deep in the country. It’s like bright pink blown glass or a baby’s laughing blue eyes. It’s like a bed of bold, fragrant flowers or the weeping leaves of a willow in a soft breeze.

Your intuition is a bit of the feminine magic that turns ordinary days into inspiring memories. Yours is the gift of sweet connections, warm smiles, soft hugs and the quiet strength of knowing and being known and loved, freckles and all.

Be still and and listen to your knowing. It is there.

Be yourself because you are inspiring and beautiful! Cultivate your inward smile and let it shine on those you love.

Love,

Jacque

Turn About Isn’t Fair Play

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I know this goes without saying, but we live in a victim-minded culture! So sometimes it is hard to see things as they are.

One thing that stands out to me over and over in the many situations I see playing out in the news, in my clients lives and in my own family is that of what I’d call the victim turned perpetrator cycle.

Next time you are angry or frustrated and feel to give someone a piece of your mind, maybe with a loud voice, consider why you feel it is ok to treat someone like that.

Or when you witness anger or rudeness in social settings or in a movie or in politics, consider why the justification for bad behavior?

Take the women’s liberation movement. Though much good has come from having women’s voices heard and opportunities more readily available, at the extreme, why would women feel justified in speaking of men as if they are un-needed and collectively inferior and disappointing? This is certainly an attitude that has caught on in our culture, most especially visible in TV programming where dad’s are often portrayed as lacking, bumbling characters.

Of course it all boils down to feeling victimized. It’s the belief that turn about is fair play; a you hurt me, I’ll hurt you attitude.

One more reason to examine any beliefs that we have about being victims in our relationships, including our relationship with ourselves. How you speak to yourself is a great indicator of where you are on the victimized- feeling scale. When we put ourselves down and berate ourselves, we are treating ourselves as victims and adding to the faulty belief that we don’t have control over our own lives.

The goal is to treat ourselves kindly. To treat others as we want to be treated (not in response to how we perceive we’ve been treated).

There’s a pretty short distance from victim to perpetrator. Let’s work to heal from a victim mentality and claim our own power to learn and chart our own course–while NOT feeling justified in behaving abusively toward others or ourselves.

God bless you!

Jacque

P.S. Next time you want to react or lash out, think back in this situation to where you first started feeling “less than,” flip that thought around to a positive truth and then decide your response to the situation.

P.P.S. Already know what triggers you? (I do!) Create a declaration around that specific belief or situation and work to shift your belief about yourself before the trigger strikes– then employ your declaration in the middle of the trigger too if/when it may strike! (That other person is just helping you to see what you already believe!)

 

My Prayer

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Dear Father in Heaven;

I thank Thee for the opportunity to be acquainted with wonderful women, Lionesses who are an inspiration to me!

I thank Thee for their goodness and their grit. For their exuberance and excellence.

I am so grateful that they are here at this time, making a difference for good!

Please Lord, help me to speak the truth in love; to encourage and to bless them in every word I speak.

Please bless us all to have Thy inspiration as we set our goals and create our vision for the coming year.

May Thy light shine through us to lift and bless every soul we meet. May we be Women who rejoice and are glad! Who look for the good and who speak kindly of and to ourselves and others. Who recognize our errors, and are quick to forgive, quick to apologize and to seek forgiveness.

May we honor the Men in our lives each day and give our appreciation freely for the gift they are to us and the vital role they fulfill for our children.

May we leave Victim-hood behind us forever and become stronger Agents each day.

Please help us to know Thy will and remind us often that we can do all things through Thee.

In Jesus’ name,

Amen.

Building Home

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“The family is the building block of society. It is a nursery, a school, a hospital, a leisure place, a place of refuge and a place of rest. It encompasses the whole of society. It fashions our beliefs.

It is the preparation for the rest of our life.”  Margaret Thatcher

Creating a safe place; a place for learning and fun; a nourishing refuge; a place where we feel heard and loved; this is creating home and it’s the greatest work we can do while we are here. This kind of “construction” requires self-understanding, self-acceptance and feeling great love, which for most of us means, there’s work to do within before we will be successful in reaching out!

One of the most beautiful things about families though is that this can all happen simultaneously. We don’t have to be perfect first! We work toward our highest good together. Together is where the magic lives! Together is where we learn to see ourselves as we really are. Together is where we give and receive forgiveness. Together is where love spurs us on to fight our internal battles and win. Together is the key to profound growth and opportunity.

God bless every effort you are making to be healed (whole) and to give, in your growing wholeness, a day at a time, to those who matter most.

Be well.

Jacque