Self-care ideas

Ideas and inspiration about the need to care for ones self



Hello there! I hope this short post finds you well!

I’ve been thinking about some of the crucial things we need in order to live well that we must give and take in small increments.

Things like sleep, good food, encouragement, fun activities, journal entries, good health and even inspiration. Things like these can’t be consumed once or stocked away or served in a one-time scoop.

They are daily, gathered little by little into the storehouse of our bodies and our memories.

You may have a great day at the beach with your children, but then as that fun becomes a memory and you all change and grow, you will have need of other trips and outings together.

You may prepare good food and give or receive encouragement today, but tomorrow will have need of new energy, nutrients, kind words and support of many kinds.

It’s the metered days, the sun crossing the sky, night falling and the moon rising. It’s a bigger shoe size this month and baby teeth falling out and a voice warbling as it finds it’s new, lower place.

What do you need to ask for today? What can you give today? Ask it and give it and then rest and look for newness in all things tomorrow.

Much love to you, you’re wonderful! Please don’t forget to speak kindly to yourself and then to your little ones.





Big Sigh


I was reminded in my meditation practice yesterday that, “life is always unfinished.” Then the sweet voice asked me, “can you just sit with (knowing) that today?”

How does it make you feel to know that things are going to go on being unfinished?

What does it mean to you? For me it reaffirms that life is dynamic, not static. And when things are always changing and growing or atrophying, there aren’t many points, if any, that we could say, “it’s done.”

There is relief in knowing that no matter how fast we run, there will always be more to do, or in other words, you don’t have to expect yourself to get it all done. Ever!

The other thing that helps a lot is knowing that I can get pieces of things done and move on. Like, I can get the things on my time-blocking list done every Monday. Then I know that even though those loads of laundry will need to be done the next week, for right now they are done and I can move my mind to the next day and it’s tasks. Having small things to check off my list gives me the sense of accomplishment I crave, even when my homemaking job description has been likened to, “beading a string with no knot at the end!”

Here we are in our life’s raft floating down the river…the water is ebbing and flowing…we move around rocks…we may encounter white water at times…but the water keeps rolling and we keep floating and choosing how we will respond to the changing of the scenery.

I remember the days when the water felt deep and there were few breaks from paddling! I hope you can take a deep breath in, smile and close your eyes, let the breath out and know that you’ve done all you need to do today. Tomorrow will have it’s own challenges and rewards.

Be well my friend.




You’ve Got It!


It’s like brightly glazed earthen bowls by a glowing fire. It’s clean windows and simple, beautiful food.

A yellow kite flying in a blue sky. A curly dog, so happy to see you that he wags ‘his whole self.’ It’s the steady, warm flame of a candle at dusk or a sky strewn with stars deep in the country. It’s like bright pink blown glass or a baby’s laughing blue eyes. It’s like a bed of bold, fragrant flowers or the weeping leaves of a willow in a soft breeze.

Your intuition is a bit of the feminine magic that turns ordinary days into inspiring memories. Yours is the gift of sweet connections, warm smiles, soft hugs and the quiet strength of knowing and being known and loved, freckles and all.

Be still and and listen to your knowing. It is there.

Be yourself because you are inspiring and beautiful! Cultivate your inward smile and let it shine on those you love.



Turn About Isn’t Fair Play


I know this goes without saying, but we live in a victim-minded culture! So sometimes it is hard to see things as they are.

One thing that stands out to me over and over in the many situations I see playing out in the news, in my clients lives and in my own family is that of what I’d call the victim turned perpetrator cycle.

Next time you are angry or frustrated and feel to give someone a piece of your mind, maybe with a loud voice, consider why you feel it is ok to treat someone like that.

Or when you witness anger or rudeness in social settings or in a movie or in politics, consider why the justification for bad behavior?

Take the women’s liberation movement. Though much good has come from having women’s voices heard and opportunities more readily available, at the extreme, why would women feel justified in speaking of men as if they are un-needed and collectively inferior and disappointing? This is certainly an attitude that has caught on in our culture, most especially visible in TV programming where dad’s are often portrayed as lacking, bumbling characters.

Of course it all boils down to feeling victimized. It’s the belief that turn about is fair play; a you hurt me, I’ll hurt you attitude.

One more reason to examine any beliefs that we have about being victims in our relationships, including our relationship with ourselves. How you speak to yourself is a great indicator of where you are on the victimized- feeling scale. When we put ourselves down and berate ourselves, we are treating ourselves as victims and adding to the faulty belief that we don’t have control over our own lives.

The goal is to treat ourselves kindly. To treat others as we want to be treated (not in response to how we perceive we’ve been treated).

There’s a pretty short distance from victim to perpetrator. Let’s work to heal from a victim mentality and claim our own power to learn and chart our own course–while NOT feeling justified in behaving abusively toward others or ourselves.

God bless you!


P.S. Next time you want to react or lash out, think back in this situation to where you first started feeling “less than,” flip that thought around to a positive truth and then decide your response to the situation.

P.P.S. Already know what triggers you? (I do!) Create a declaration around that specific belief or situation and work to shift your belief about yourself before the trigger strikes– then employ your declaration in the middle of the trigger too if/when it may strike! (That other person is just helping you to see what you already believe!)


Building Home


“The family is the building block of society. It is a nursery, a school, a hospital, a leisure place, a place of refuge and a place of rest. It encompasses the whole of society. It fashions our beliefs.

It is the preparation for the rest of our life.”  Margaret Thatcher

Creating a safe place; a place for learning and fun; a nourishing refuge; a place where we feel heard and loved; this is creating home and it’s the greatest work we can do while we are here. This kind of “construction” requires self-understanding, self-acceptance and feeling great love, which for most of us means, there’s work to do within before we will be successful in reaching out!

One of the most beautiful things about families though is that this can all happen simultaneously. We don’t have to be perfect first! We work toward our highest good together. Together is where the magic lives! Together is where we learn to see ourselves as we really are. Together is where we give and receive forgiveness. Together is where love spurs us on to fight our internal battles and win. Together is the key to profound growth and opportunity.

God bless every effort you are making to be healed (whole) and to give, in your growing wholeness, a day at a time, to those who matter most.

Be well.