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Sleep!

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It’s simple and inexpensive.  You can get it at Walmart! And, oh, the sleep is lovely and sound.

I have been a light sleeper through my adult life and have struggled to stay asleep.  I learned about Valerian root and it has been a Godsend.

Read up on this lovely supplement and maybe it will give you a little help when you need it!

Best wishes for a healthy summer!

Jacque

P.S. You must take responsibility for your health decisions because as you know, I am not a doctor. That said, I must be responsible for myself as well. Take care!

Make Today Count

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You know the old saying, “No success can compensate for failure in the home?”  That admonition has given me pause on many, many occasions, and kept me going back time and again to embracing my role as a wife and mother and community leader over and over again.

Taken one way, it can kind of sound like, don’t blow it!

On the other hand, one thing this inspired thought says to me is, there isn’t anything else that will bring you as much joy as finding success in your relationships at home!

There are satisfying rewards in many endeavors.  Creative opportunities and money-making ventures can be exciting, and sometimes necessary, but finding success in those activities doesn’t  touch the happiness and peace of having solid relationships with those we love.

And having solid relationships takes time.  A lot of time.  And not a small amount of sacrifice and constant efforts to maintain our focus on what matters most to us.

So I guess the bottom line is, don’t take your eyes off the prize!

 

I hope today you can take a moment to exult in the opportunity you have to build a family, something of such enduring, inspiring and joyful value that it is worth our greatest efforts.

What a blessed opportunity.

May God bless your efforts today!

Jacque

 

Worthy of Help

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It’s risky business being human isn’t it?

And working on making real and lasting connections with others can be tricky and a bit worrisome!

Do you find that you’re going about your life, doing pretty well and then all of a sudden you find that you need help with something? Do you freeze and feel awkward about asking for help? Does that make you feel “less than?” But then, do you hesitate to lend a helping hand or offer to help someone else? Probably not!

Well, what if you or I truly need help?  What should we do? Try to over-extend and wear ourselves out? Let things slide and try to play catch-up later? Crawl into a hole and let the thought of what needs to be done bury us until I have come to a complete halt and unable to do anything?

What do you think?

Is it ok to ask for help?  Are you somehow less of an adult, less of a woman, less of a mother, less of a wife, less of a person if you let someone know you need assistance?

 

I think the difficulty sometimes is showing vulnerability.  Or maybe it’s that we fear we may seem “needy.” Maybe it’s not wanting to feel obligated to offer help to someone else in the future or in other words, indebted to them.

A woman I heard talking about, BRAVING, or learning to make connections with others, (and I wish I written their name by the note I made to myself!), made this statement: “If we devalue ourselves for asking for help, then we will devalue others when they need help.”  (And can’t we feel it when that devaluing attitude is present when we are on the receiving end of things?)

She said that, besides asking for, or offering help, there are many things we can do to cultivate real human connections that will help us to have healthy, life-affirming connections with our friends and family.

We can continue to learn to have greater love for ourselves; greater trust in others; more ability to guard the vulnerability of others by keeping their confidences; more practice at doing what we say we will do; taking responsibility for our words, actions and mistakes and cultivate an attitude of assuming the best about our friends and their motives.

It is a lonely and insecure world when we try to live in it alone.  Heaven help us to learn, by baby steps if necessary, to love and to be loved.

My love and best wishes to you my friend.

Jacque

P.S. If you know who came up with BRAVING, please comment so that we can give them kuddos!

Time Blocking Wisdom

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“Perhaps the most

valuable result

of all education

is the ability

to make yourself

do the thing

you have to do,

when it ought to be done,

whether you like it or not.”

Thomas Henry Huxley

 

Rewire Your Circuits

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Our thoughts fly!  They fly so fast we can’t comprehend it!

And those thoughts create pathways.  Neural pathways that then become conditioned responses.  In other words, if you have the same response over and over, pretty soon, you don’t even think about how to respond, you just automatically respond with feeling a certain way.

And that’s great, for responses that make you happy or help you to feel good about yourself.

But how about all of the painful kinds of responses that we have become conditioned to?

Here’s an example.

I’ve been working on rewiring a pain/fear response.

That is, I have had nerve pain that is so intense that when it hits, I automatically find myself in a state of fear, which then creates more tension and leads to more pain.

So, I am practicing interrupting my conditioned response, so that I can break the cycle. When I feel pain, I tell myself that I am well and whole, over and over.  And quickly, almost every time, the pain stops.  Changing my thoughts simply keeps me from launching into a feedback loop of fear which leads to getting tied in knots with the terrorizing thoughts of more pain. My new mantra also serves simply as a distraction to keep me from sliding into worry about the future.  And I believe that this tactic is changing the future!

Is there something in your life that you have become conditioned to think about in a negative way?  Are you dreading things you need to do or need to face?

I challenge you to interrupt the cycle of pain and fear (whatever yours might be) by thinking new thoughts, and by saying new phrases to yourself to create a different, more productive response.

Catch yourself when you realize you are feeling fearful.  Think backward to what thoughts you were just having.  Change those to something positive.  Repeat it.  Then do it again the next time.  And the next time.  And the next time, until the pattern begins to change.

I wish you all the best, today and everyday!

Love,

Jacque