Do you ever feel that you are holding your breath until the current difficulty is over, and do you figure that then, after whatever the current stress is past or healed or solved, then you will breathe?
It’s a mind-warping truth, that is getting more and more difficult to wrap our heads around in our culture of hurry and worry and instant fixes, that right here and now is the time to breathe and to find happiness. Even in difficulties. Even in challenges. Even in the unkempt or chaotic, in transition and change.
Because when we are waiting, we aren’t really living. And all those days waiting add up to years of postponed life!
Isn’t it crazy that only in this moment can we think and feel and live? Not in the future, and not in the past.
The challenge is to live and love right now. Embrace that stubborn child. Smile at the sky. Take a break. Turn off the noise. Think about your blessings. Congratulate your family’s progress. Taste your food. Slow it all down.
This month in seminar we’re doing three assignments to train ourselves to manage the conversation in our heads and also to decide and then focus on what we want. It’s exciting stuff!
If you think about it, everything in life is a mind game isn’t it? What we believe always comes out in our behavior! What we think about becomes the words we speak. The opinion we have of ourselves and our circumstances determines our choices. So it certainly makes sense that we would spend a good amount of time and resources on learning to win at this game more often!
This morning I heard a song I haven’t heard in a very long time. It is one that my son used to listen to when he was a young basketball loving boy who dreamed of playing in the big leagues. He loved this song, and I loved observing his determination and grit!
How does an athlete manage to push hard enough and long enough to become great? How does a pianist stay on the bench long enough to become accomplished? It certainly isn’t by being lazy in their thoughts! It isn’t by entertaining thoughts of defeat and impatience and fear. It isn’t by thinking of other things and being distracted and discouraged and desperate!
So why do we think sometimes that we can let in whatever voices happen to pop into our minds and berate ourselves and dwell on how hard things are or how put upon we feel? That is not the path to success or greatness and we know it!
What are you doing every day that is stellar? C’mon! Taking care of little people can be intense to say the least! Physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and socially DEMANDING. Good grief, we ought to be high-fiving each other and pumping the air with our fists every day we keep order reigning and everyone alive and relatively happy!
What do you want?
What do you want to accomplish and what do you want to learn and how do you want your relationships to be like?
Let’s get our mental game on and figure it out! Then make a visual representation of it and SEE it coming to pass with your spiritual eyes.
Then when you have identified and visualized your aim, get mentally tough and push through the difficulties and set backs and make headway!!!
No sitting on the proverbial bench whining about how hard it is to reach our goals. Ha! I’ve tried it and it just doesn’t help!
There are so many battles we are fighting in our minds every day. I hope we can get a lot better at seeing this role we have for what it is….you know what they say about the hand that rocks the cradle? It is true. You rule the world. You are the glue that is holding your family together. You can’t afford to lose time and momentum by losing focus.
Go ahead. Be great! Whatever you want to be will require becoming great at being the Lioness at the Door of your mind. If you will, 9/10’s of the battle will be won.
“You must always work not just within but below your means. If you can handle three elements, handle only two. If you can handle ten, then only handle five. In that way, the ones you do handle, you handle with more ease, more mastery, and you create a feeling of strength in reserve.”
What do you think? Was he suggesting we all become slackers? I think he was simply suggesting that we use our time and abilities with wisdom. Though this idea truly flies in the face of our current run-until-you-drop culture. Something to think about!
The mission of Lioness at the Door is to uplift, strengthen and encourage women of all ages to magnify health, hope and happiness at home. We do so boldly, with humility and gratitude for the opportunity!