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Be-deviled!

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This is a picture story. Start from the bottom and work up!  Mix in your favorite flavor when you stir in the mayo if you’d like!  (I really like curry and wasabi!) Enjoy!!!

In The Gap

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You know that moment when you really want to do something that you know isn’t good for you, and you feel yourself slipping into that semi-conscious state of not caring and then of not being fully awake in the moment you begin to indulge?

Like when sugar is calling… (Sorry, I realize that this may be a sensitive day for this post!)

But you know it could be one of a hundred things calling.  It could be indulging in despair or self-criticism or chocolate or sadness or *false guilt or narcotics or whatever vice rings especially “helpful” in the moment.

What is a girl to do?  Depending on your chemistry and your thinking habits, spending time in any one of these “pseudo coping options” could mean a loss of precious time and potentially loss of precious health or a loss of trust and intimacy in a relationship.

May I recommend making a list of diversions for such moments?  And when you feel the sliding begin, you know, just an inkling that the quick sand is close by, you can refer to your list and launch yourself out of harms way!  Fast!

It seems that often times, the need to be filled is simply dealing with some kind of boredom.  So giving yourself some productive task or permission to take a break, like a chance to take a walk and breathe fresh air or some other activity you enjoy, really fills in the gap nicely and can make a big difference at the end of the day.

Say the Easter candy is calling to you, (hopefully you didn’t buy a month’s supply and if so, hopefully you really won’t keep it in the house that long) but you realize that what you really need is a big drink of water and a diversion!  You need to put your headphones on and listen to your favorite movie soundtrack while you make dinner.

Or maybe, what you really need to do is tackle some small job that has been hanging over your head and causing you to feel undone in some way.  And just by tackling that you have the liberating feeling you need so that you can move on to something you really want to do!

What about getting that book you’ve been excited to read and giving yourself half an hour to read a bit?  Or what about giving your body a nutrient dense snack that helps you feel satiated and well-fed? (I’ve seen some pretty darn good recipes for peanut butter cups that you freeze! There is a recipe on this site for a whole food version that is very nutritious, but there are some out there with fewer ingredients and therefore easier to whip up!)

Which brings me to the last point which is: have healthy alternatives prepared for yourself and for your family!  Hey, if you have a choice between junk and food and they both are tasty, you can go for the good stuff and not have to chastise yourself later! And oh the joy of self-mastery!

By implementing some of these ideas, you will be creating an environment that supports your best interests, and that supportive environment can be a massively, powerful influence.

I pray for your health and well-being!

Love,

Jacque

P. S. What is *false guilt?  It is feeling guilty for not being perfect.  Not even close to Godly sorrow when you have really done something wrong, but just a time-wasting, miserable funk to jump into that is neither productive nor real.

P. P. S. If you have some luck with creating diversions, please share!

P. P. P. S My favorite diversion lately is a video I took of Garth dancing with and singing to one of our little granddaughters.  I find that I can’t help but smile at that!

P. P. P. P. S “He must reign until he hath put all enemies under His feet.”  He can enable our success.  Ask for His help! Happy Easter!

Take Care

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One of the goals I accomplished last year, was to read a meditation every day from a book called, The Language of Letting Go, by Melody Beattie. It was a great help to me and I highly recommend it.

This week, my mom reminded me of one of the most profound pages:

“Rest when you’re tired.

Take a drink of cold water when you’re thirsty.

Call a friend when you’re lonely.

Ask God to help when you feel overwhelmed.

Many of us have learned how to deprive and neglect ourselves.  Many of us have learned to push ourselves hard, when the problem is that we’re already pushed too hard.  Many of us are afraid the work won’t get done if we rest when we’re tired.  The work will get done; it will be done better than work that emerges from tiredness of soul and spirit. Nurtured, nourished people, who love themselves and care for themselves, are the delight of the Universe.  They are well-timed, efficient, and Divinely led.

Today, I will practice loving self-care.

I am practicing taking better care of myself…I hope you will have success in being good to yourself now and in the days and years to come.  If you can learn it now, your family will be so much better off!!!

 

Love always,

Jacque

You Are A Gift

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A new book from Lioness, just for the young Lioness in your life!

This is mostly a picture book, with instructions on how to write and use declarations as a wellness tool.

Wouldn’t you love to have known how to write declarations for yourself when you were 16?

What declarations are you writing for your benefit now?

If you are interested in having one of these books let me know!

Love,

Jacque

“I am training my mind. I think in positives.  I believe in miracles.”

What Is

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Do you ever recognize ingratitude, or brattiness in yourself?  Ha!  I do!

It’s usually when I’m feeling slighted, like something (and maybe even a very big something) has gone wrong and I realize that I can’t call back the time and fix everything for myself or for anyone else, and frustration is looming!

And then I may have a good cry and let all of that frustration out in a questioning prayer to God, who I believe is willing to listen, even if I’m ranting or confused or sad. And somewhere in my tears and talking I feel peace and perspective beginning to distill on my heart.  And sometimes, I see in my mind’s eye, some of the people who have faced far greater challenges than I have.

All those who have never had the opportunities that I have had.  Who have never walked or ridden a bike.  Or those who remain childless or have suffered through war and famine, or those that have left us too soon.

And I begin to see how narrow my perspective has been.  How my feeling entitled to some quality of life or to some outcome has colored my vision.  And those people I envision, who have dealt with far more difficult challenges, look at me with the wisdom they gained from taking life and it’s limitations head-on.  And I can feel the strength they gained from accepting what is.  And how many of them made the most of every day.  And enjoyed the simple pleasures of living as they were able.

What a humbling vision.

Thank heaven for all of the good souls who have gone before us, and those who are standing beside us, who have and are doing their best to live happy lives in the midst of accepting, the sometimes painful and difficult realities of life in this world.

Heaven help us all to live as fully as we can, with enthusiasm for our opportunities and gratitude for our  blessings! And may the lens of entitlement and ingratitude get smashed under our feet!

I pray, for myself and for you!

Love,

Jacque