General inspiration

Servant Leader Loves


We sometimes get confused. We might ask ourselves, “If I commend myself for a job well-done, am I proud?” or “If I berate myself, does that make me humble?”

I’d say, no and no.

I just finished cleaning the kitchen. It was one job in the middle of 15 others that was calling for my attention this morning. But I am on a path of “first things first” and I knew that leaving dishes behind breakfast would be unsettling and detrimental to the rest of the day. So I took myself by the hand, shut out the clamor of other projects and needs making a play for my attention, and I led myself to the sink. When I finished, I said, in my head, “good job Jacque, you focused in and got the kitchen clean. Way to go!”

Is that prideful? No, it’s coaching. It’s acknowledging a small success that I plan to build upon today. It’s self-help at it’s finest to comfort and encourage oneself.

What if I had gone into a tirade about all the things that need to be done and beat myself up for not being further ahead or taking on too much or, or, or….. Would that be helpful? Would I feel enlivened and buoyed up? No!

Funny thing is, when we live in the negatives, when we cultivate a voice of despair and discouragement or self-loathing, that awfulness oozes out onto the people we love even thought we don’t want it to! We feel lousy about ourselves and aren’t they an extension of us? We criticize as a past time. We find fault out of habit.

Servant leadership is about true humility, which is knowing who we are in relationship to God, and being willing to be led and taught by Him, which leads to being filled with His love for ourselves and others.

We can serve best when we are in His love.

We must hear and correct the way we speak to ourselves if need be, in order to be in love!

What loving words do you have for yourself right now, today? Please, please say them! You deserve words that are encouraging and positive. Find them and say them, and let them spill out to your children and your spouse!

Sending you my appreciation for the love you give every day that makes the world better for us all! Thank you!



P.S. I would love to hear the words you come up with in the comments! Please share and inspire the Lioness community!


Worthy Pursuits


Any sacrifice you are making to teach and support and nurture and strengthen your family will pay you in the end. We’re here to grow together. Even the greatest pain- childbirth, temporary separation, saying you’re sorry and asking forgiveness, finding the strength to forgive; all will be nothing compared to the joy that comes to those who love.

“(Mortals) say of some temporal suffering, ‘No future bliss can make up for it,’ not knowing that Heaven, once attained, will work backwards and turn even that agony into a glory,…The Blessed will say, ‘We have never lived anywhere except in Heaven.'”

C.S. Lewis, The Great Divorce

Fight for your family’s success!

Keep going.

Heaven is cheering you on! Can you hear it?


Strength In Us


Every family has challenges. No, every family has multiple, on-going, at times life-threatening and or soul-threatening difficulties they are trying to work through.

And, while none of us are without challenges, there is so much strength in moving through them together! 

Funny how we really come to understand the strength of togetherness, when we witness or experience the death of a relationship or family unit.

Many of you have experienced this pain and my heart goes out to you! You know what it is to be without your people; without the structure and stability that each person contributes to the whole. For instance, you understand the subtle balancing of two parents as they combine strengths and accommodate for weaknesses, so much that you don’t know who does what, they’re just singularly, mom & dad.

Yes, our bonds, so profound and complex, are worth fighting for!

In part simply because facing life together is such an extreme blessing! We can collectively work and sweat and bleed if we have to in order to make it through, knowing that we are far stronger together {yes, even when someone in that together is driving you batty!} and that, with God’s help, we can weather the storm. Together.

I thank heaven for the together that is our family. There is no greater blessing in my life.

Be strong.
Be committed.
Be fierce in defending and supporting one another.
Guard and protect your union.
The dividends of togetherness are endless.



Fall In Love


I love this fall-time of the year!

The skies are softening. The angle of the light is changing and the colors are looking richer every day.

I love the abundance of vegetables and fruit! And it’s such a wonderful feeling to put some things by for the winter. “All safely gathered in.”

I am grateful for the new beginnings that launch in the fall; for new opportunities to expand talents; for chances to commit to learning new things.

I’m making friends with the word practice.

When I misjudge a situation, I think, I am practicing, it’s ok, I’ve gained more experience in this situation, now move on.

When I put my foot in my mouth, I think, I am practicing, I am learning to be more tactful and kind, I apologize and move on.

When I realize I haven’t set up my environment to support my current goals, I think, I am practicing and I make the needed changes and try again.

I send you love and hope today, and wish you a wonderful season of gratitude and thanksgiving.



Kitchen Coach Jenny- GF Cheese Bread


Here’s another great idea- thanks Jenny!

GF cheese bread

1/2 C. tapioca starch
1 C. sharp cheese, shredded (like fresh Parmesan or Asiago)
2 T. melted butter
1 egg
1/2 tsp. baking powder
rounded 1/4 tsp. salt
1/4 tsp. garlic powder
1/4 tsp. onion powder
3 T. finely chopped fresh herbs (optional)
Preheat oven to 500 degrees. In a bowl, mix tapioca starch, shredded cheese, baking powder, salt, onion powder and garlic powder until combined. Stir in melted butter, egg, and fresh herbs until dough forms a ball. (dough will still be slightly sticky. If it’s not sticking together well, add water a tsp. at a time until it forms a ball.)
Roll into ping-pong sized balls and bake for 7-10 minutes, until lightly browned. These are best right out of the oven.