General inspiration

Grow On Purpose


You know when you are growing flowers or a vegetable or herb garden and you are trying to keep the weeds pulled, it becomes really clear that it’s easier to plant what you want and have only a little space left where weeds can sprout and get a lot of sun.  The more that is in the garden that you want, and put there on purpose, the less difficult it is to deter new weed growth.

That is why managing the conversation in your head by throwing out the negatives and planting the positives (declarations!) at the same time is so important!  What do you want to think about yourself?  Plant those thoughts on purpose.  What do you want to believe about your marriage? Plant that belief now, and don’t wait until your spouse changes or until x,y or z is perfect. How do you want to spend your time? Plant those decisions or at least a vision of you doing the things that are really meaningful to you.

It’s also very powerful to write out your declarations and keep them on your person! Put them in a pocket or in your phone case or in a purse. Wear them and think on them and repeat them and learn them until they are popping into your mind or coming out of your mouth without effort.

Plant the life garden you want and spend less time wandering aimlessly around in the weeds.

This is acting or playing the part of an agent, not being acted upon or playing the part of a victim.

I love it! And I love you!

Be well,



“You’re Doing It Peter!”


What it is that I see you doing is keeping on keeping on!  I know that you are up at all hours and sometimes feel hungover, but you keep going. You may have moments of overwhelm, but you pull it together and take the next step. You have demands coming at you all day and you are finding time to be quiet and regroup.  I applaud you for talking yourself down for the ledge of comparison, and off the precipice of doubt and fear and back onto the safe ground of hope and courage.

Being “in the trench” of mothering is not a place for the faint of heart.  It is a place for those that will, as the slogan I heard for a football team today said, Rise and Roar! That’s appropriate for Lionesses don’t you think? Well, that’s exactly what I would encourage you to do!

You’ve got a problem you need to figure out?  You’ve got more to do than can be done by one person?  You’ve got challenges in your relationships and wonder if you’re cut out for all of this? Please don’t slip into victim mode! Rise and Roar! Tell those problems you are going to shake them and dissect them until you figure them out! Say no to the stuff on your schedule that doesn’t really matter and mean it!  You’re in charge!

Negativity kicking you around?  Rise and Roar! No more being victimized by those influences who would steal your peace and crush your confidence.

Let the world know that you are directing your own show and making good things happen.  That you are paying attention to blessings and focusing on goodness. Let the family know that you need their help, but, no roaring at them…just make sure your behavior is kind, gentle, respectful and FIRM, and they’ll know you mean business and that they are loved and valued at the same time.

You’re doing it! One day at a time, you are making it and I applaud your efforts!

Love, love, love,


Hook might be the most quoted movie at our house!  If you haven’t seen it, I recommend it for a fun family movie night. Hurrah for the 90’s and Dustin Hoffman, Robin Williams and music by the amazingly talented John Williams!



Do you love to create things?  Or do you not feel like the creative type?

Here’s a thought on creativity for all types:

We don’t have to be artists or musicians or poets to create. What about creating a room of order?  Maybe even a corner at first?

How about creating a lesson or a schedule or a list of attributes you’d like to develop?

We can create happy conversations, wave bubbles into the air for a toddler, plant a flower garden or build a playhouse!

Making something beautiful or orderly where there was drabness or chaos is an act of creation.

Connecting to friends and family or volunteering to help someone is a creative process.

I believe that we are daughters of the greatest creative Being in the universe, and so creating is our birthright!

Let’s leave things better than we found them!



Think Tweak


On occasion I do too much.  I expect too much of myself and I get high on checking off a to-do list, and I really love to see big results!  Can you relate to that at all?

Yesterday, as I was doing a little weeding in my flowers (with a long handled hula hoe), I was thinking about the fact that things are starting to look pretty nice out there because of the daily, little, efforts that we have made over the last few weeks.

We decided that we would spend 5-10 minutes weeding in the mornings, me in my flower bed and herb garden and my husband in the vegetables. Well, he has helped me a lot with mine, so so much for a division of labor.

When weeding is daily, all it amounts to is tweaking things. The weeds are so small you really have to look for them! And pulling them, or hoeing them takes almost no effort at all.

I absolutely love dealing with “problems” while they are tiny and “tweak-able!”

Most of the time we don’t give ourselves credit for the small things we do that make such a big, positive difference in our lives or in the lives of our family members. And, I believe, that sometimes we don’t deal with them when they are small because we want to see big changes later even if it means expending more energy to make it happen later. What do you think? Do you see any evidence of this mentality in your life?

I mean, you can see the difference between going out to a garden that is overgrown with weeds, tackling them and then standing back to see the reward of your efforts as a massive improvement. Versus, taking a tool and walking around for 5 minutes, if that, and keeping the weeds away before they are even really visible! It doesn’t create a striking change, but it keeps you from needing one.

The amount of effort required is minimal when you are working on the side of prevention.  And the rewards are huge when you consider the fact that you can then attend to other small, tweak-able items with the time and energy you have saved by working on things a little at a time, and before they are overwhelming.

What other items can you think of that could be almost effortlessly tweaked on a pretty consistent basis, that would free you up to relax and do more of what you want to do?

What about anticipating meal times earlier? (Before the kids are crying and hungry, and before you are hungry and short on time!)

Or, getting children ready for bed before they are exhausted and behaving badly?

How about saying ‘no’ on occasion to one more committee or request, if it isn’t in the best interest of your family for you to be stretched a little further?

I hope that you are taking some time to think and ponder and breathe as you are going about your days. My hat is off to you for all of the good you are doing every day of the world!

Much love to you!