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Can You See It?


This month in seminar we’re doing three assignments to train ourselves to manage the conversation in our heads and also to decide and then focus on what we want. It’s exciting stuff!

If you think about it, everything in life is a mind game isn’t it?  What we believe always comes out in our behavior! What we think about becomes the words we speak.  The opinion we have of ourselves and our circumstances determines our choices.  So it certainly makes sense that we would spend a good amount of time and resources on learning to win at this game more often!

This morning I heard a song I haven’t heard in a very long time.  It is one that my son used to listen to when he was a young basketball loving boy who dreamed of playing in the big leagues.  He loved this song, and I loved observing his determination and grit!


How does an athlete manage to push hard enough and long enough to become great?  How does a pianist stay on the bench long enough to become accomplished? It certainly isn’t by being lazy in their thoughts!  It isn’t by entertaining thoughts of defeat and impatience and fear.  It isn’t by thinking of other things and being distracted and discouraged and desperate!

So why do we think sometimes that we can let in whatever voices happen to pop into our minds and berate ourselves and dwell on how hard things are or how put upon we feel?  That is not the path to success or greatness and we know it!

What are you doing every day that is stellar?  C’mon!  Taking care of little people can be intense to say the least!  Physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and socially DEMANDING.  Good grief, we ought to be high-fiving each other and pumping the air with our fists every day we keep order reigning and everyone alive and relatively happy!

What do you want?

What do you want to accomplish and what do you want to learn and how do you want your relationships to be like?

Let’s get our mental game on and figure it out! Then make a visual representation of it and SEE it coming to pass with your spiritual eyes.

Then when you have identified and visualized your aim, get mentally tough and push through the difficulties and set backs and make headway!!!

No sitting on the proverbial bench whining about how hard it is to reach our goals.  Ha!  I’ve tried it and it just doesn’t help!

There are so many battles we are fighting in our minds every day.  I hope we can get a lot better at seeing this role we have for what it is….you know what they say about the hand that rocks the cradle?  It is true.  You rule the world.  You are the glue that is holding your family together.  You can’t afford to lose time and momentum by losing focus.

Go ahead. Be great! Whatever you want to be will require becoming great at being the Lioness at the Door of your mind.  If you will, 9/10’s of the battle will be won.

You’re amazing and you were born to win!


Pablo Picasso: Noteworthy Quote


“You must always work not just within but below your means. If you can handle three elements, handle only two. If you can handle ten, then only handle five. In that way, the ones you do handle, you handle with more ease, more mastery, and you create a feeling of strength in reserve.”

What do you think?  Was he suggesting we all become slackers?  I think he was simply suggesting that we use our time and abilities with wisdom. Though this idea truly flies in the face of our current run-until-you-drop culture.  Something to think about!



Deciding Feels Fabulous Darling!


What is it about indecision that makes it so easy for us girls to get stuck in it so often?  (Well, maybe women don’t have a corner on it, but it seems to me that we just might.)

When you’re in the middle of that grungy, indecisive feedback loop, your chest feels like it is full of festering, swirling, no-place-to-go energy that is waiting for release!  I write of this with authority. I’ve been there far more than is good for a body.

But, that’s experience for you.  Once you register what it feels like to be in a state that is less than desirable, you can learn how to get out of it!  And while I can attest that the feeling of indecision is awful, I can also state that deciding feels great!

I am amazed at how much creativity follows a firm decision!  It’s like a vortex of ideas and stamina and strength come rushing in on the heels of, “I have decided.”

I’ve had a cluttered little corner in my kitchen this week and as I think of it, I know that it is just a physical indication of indecision, and the signs of a time of transition. So, shall I be bent out of shape over recognizing that little stagnant pool?  Heaven’s no, lest I create more of the slowed-down energy I don’t want!

My first decision is to walk into the kitchen, no, really my first decision was to pray for a calm mind. Then, second to walk to the kitchen and third to take up that little pile and effortlessly and clearly decide where those items need to go, get them there in as little time as possible, and offer a prayer of thanks for the ability to move ahead.

Sometimes I think indecision is just stalling for time.  It’s being afraid of the forward motion for some reason.  It’s holding back time and not having to face future events.  It may be not wanting to own our own power, or to be accountable for our spaces and decisions.

Whatever it is, it ain’t pretty!

What small step could you take today to move yourself forward with decisive action?

I’m cheering for your success and happiness!



We Have a Love Story


Can you imagine having grandchildren?  Well, depending on where you are in the grand scheme of things, it may be years away or right around the corner.  But let me just say that being a grandparent is an absolute joy!  And what do you want to pass on to those beautiful, shining souls that will be part of your life someday?  I know that I want to give them a legacy of family love beginning with the relationship I have with their Grandpa! And that means that years and years of work have been done long before those little cherubs make their entrance into the story!

So about that love story; Do you ever wonder if you are having to work harder at your marriage relationship than other people do in their relationships?  And does it ever seem that the equation that pops into your head is: a relationship that requires hard work = incompatibility?

Do you find that you have opposing opinions and preferences to those of your spouse, and are you frustrated by that?

Well, I’d like to say, congratulations!  And, guess what? You aren’t different than the rest of us!

If you see someone that has what appears to be a stellar marriage relationship, I’ll bet it’s because they have worked at cultivating it! (And I say appears, because none of us knows what is really happening in anyone else’s relationship! Which makes the comparison game even more ridiculous!!!)

Along the lines of what makes a marriage great, I’ll tell you what we’re going for:

1 Openness and honesty.  When one of us is confused or upset by something the other person has said or done, we want to talk about it quickly, openly and honestly and be done with it before misunderstandings make things more complicated and messy.

2 Show courtesy. I know the things that drive my spouse crazy, so I do my best not to do them! Little things like, starting a conversation when he is trying to get out the door or waiting too long to get myself ready to walk out the door when we have an important set time to be somewhere, or any number of things I have learned are stressful to him.  And that goes two ways.  He makes great efforts to keep his things put away or to thank me for a meal or to ask me what he can do to help when I have a lot going on at home.

3 Show affection, often!  When he walks in the door, my goal is to stop what I am doing and greet him with a kiss.  When we leave each other we hug and give a goodbye kiss, and just when we are passing by we may grasp hands or offer an encouraging pat on the back or just sit close to each other in the evening and hold hands every opportunity we get.  You really can’t be miffed at someone and be affectionate can you?  Touching keeps you real and well-fed emotionally.

4 Be complimentary.  I have learned that men enjoy compliments as much as women do. We strive to say kind and encouraging things to one another as often as we can. “You look nice today.”  “I love your smile.”  “Thank you for remembering that.”  “You are really good at that.”  “I really like you.”

5 Pray for each other.  This year has been challenging and I have felt the power of the prayers of my husband for me.  He has told me on several occasions that he has petitioned God to allow him to take my pain.  Writing this brings me to tears again, because I don’t think love gets richer than that.  Praying for your spouse changes things, mostly I think it changes you.  It is hard for me to pray for my husband without getting teary eyed because the words bring my love to the surface and I feel God’s love for him too.

6 Stay committed. When difficulties arise, we restate our commitment to working things out. That means not bolting out the door when there is a difficult problem to solve, or talking to someone else about the problem.  Little by little, the time it takes to put things right gets shorter and shorter.  And boy, progress feels wonderful doesn’t it?

I encourage you to keep trying and keep loving!  Keep on letting go of pride and stubbornness. Don’t stop learning and taking responsibility for your own problems and issues.

With practice and work and patience we will have a beautiful love story to pass on to our posterity.

Love is a beautiful thing!

I wish you the best!




I am amazed at the courage that is lived-out in front of me every day.

For some, it is facing a new day of pain, taking it head on, taking the first step, and putting one foot in front of the other until another day is well-used.

For others, it’s building another relationship after a painful ending. Or asking for help after a humbling mistake.

Could be deciding to quiet the discouraging voice that has been dragging you down.

What about the internal forward motion it takes to take risks that others find easy?

To rise in the night for years in a row to comfort a child.

To face a new pregnancy after struggling through the last one.

To answer the fiftieth question if a small person, with patience and kindness.

To say “I am sorry” or “please forgive me” when personal pride is at stake.

I see you showing a great deal of courage in your every day challenges. I am humbled and inspired and encouraged to have more grit and fortitude myself.

You are a tremendous force for good!

Thank you.