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Learn to Smell It Quick!

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Negativity creeps in. A little pessimistic thought here, a worry there. Soon the sarcasm starts coming out.

Once it becomes a full blown mess and other people and negative emotions are involved, it can be quite difficult to  turn around. {Understatement right?}

The goal is to learn to recognize the slight turning of our thoughts.The hint of pseudo-guilt. The self-incrimination. The wave of blame. It takes practice to tune in faster and faster. But the sooner we can smell the rottenness the better! Just when we sense that our minds are barely leaning toward the negative, we can stop it there!

Yes, it is easier to do if you aren’t dog-tired.

Yes, it is easier to do if you have been rehearsing your truth in declarations.

But in any case, quickly catching smell of “stinkin’ thinkin'” as I heard someone call it, will save you and your loved ones time, money, emotional distress, and so much more!

The goal is to get better and better at recognizing the first thought! And do you know what to do when you do?

You immediately speak the truth!

“I am of worth.”
“My feelings matter.”
“Someone cares about me.”
“I am loved.”

Bam! The negativity vanishes. The truth is your best defense.

Love to you this beautiful day.

Jacque

 

Standing Ready

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Who are you? Beyond what you like or who you married or what school you attended or who your friends are or what you “do.”

Who are you deep down?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Here are a few declarations about your identity that will keep you standing ready to:
-Face new challenges
-Maintain your confidence even when someone else may be behaving badly
-Receive the peace you desire even when things don’t seem to be going your way
-Give a soft answer in times of stress
-Care for yourself when you are tempted to neglect your needs
-Care for others when it isn’t convenient or easy

Here they are!

I am a daughter of God.
I am loved and cherished.
I reflect His light to others.
I am a speaker of truth; always in love.
I am a force for good.
I am a great validator.
I am healthy and strong.
I am a life-long learner.
I am grateful and my words and actions show it.

What declarations are you employing every day to arm yourself with strength and courage?

Your family needs the strength you will gain when you remember who you are.

Sending you lots of love today!

Jacque

Taking Counsel From Your Faith

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In seminar, we are working on mindset. Why? Because your mindset is crucial to the health and functioning of your family!

By this I mean that when you are in a place of positivity and learning, when you are defending yourself against negative thinking and deception, when you are resilient and able to deal with adversity, then you are leading your family by example to greater growth and health.

Cultivating a positive outlook is a task that requires practice, practice and more practice. Do you know how many negative thoughts you have every day? What do you do with those thoughts?

In seminar, we are practicing the skill of recognizing negatives, mentally shifting them to positives and sending them back out in new, true positive statements.

It’s a boundary thing.

No more wallowing in self-depreciating, self-pitying mind chatter.

No more listening to doubts and dramas and fears, as if they are the counselors who are giving us a shot of what we might think of as hard reality. But are negative thoughts really helpful? Should we take counsel from our fears? No.

No, they just keep us down and struggling.

I hope you’ll join us as we learn with humility and sobriety, to right the wrongs that may be habitually happening in our thought processes.

You could ask a friend to hold you accountable. You could share the challenge with one of your kids and work on it together.

I wish you the strength that will come as you spend more and more of your energy in thinking of the true and the beautiful in your life!

You are beautiful my friend!

Love,

Jacque

Spirituality

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What does spirituality mean to you? Some see spirituality as a practice, maybe a time to be alone in nature or to quiet the mind. Others feel it is learning to meditate or exercise. Yet one definition I read lately, that really strikes true to me, read along these lines:

Unselfishness.
Courage of the soul.
Expressions of love.
Surrender for something higher than self.
Loyalty to goodness.
Doing, being and living for good.
Victory over self.
Communion with the Infinite.

Since we are in the thick of a self-in-the-center culture, this kind of outward-looking, service-mindedness and priority driven behavior offers great perspective. Expecting personal growth and progress without learning interdependence and teamwork is like trying to become a winning soccer player without a team.

Our world is full of people like you who are giving and loving. I believe you are the majority though you may not seem to receive a lot of public attention.

I hope our society can cultivate a level of spirituality that will help us to hold onto the good in everyone we meet, learn to forget self, reach out to others and continue to expand our most generous instincts.

Love to you today!
Jacque

P.S. Reaching out and “forgetting self” does not mean self-neglect. {After all, how can we give when we are exhausted or ill?} It’s a tricky concept, but because we are human and have constant needs for sleep and food and exercise, we have to learn to balance caring for self and caring for others. And all we can do is try and practice and learn as we go!

One rule is to first fill your cup, then go about sharing with those around you. If you are trying to function with an empty cup, your ability to give generously will be stifled or cease. What ways do you need to be fed? Rested? Nurtured? Please plug some of those needed things into your schedule today. Call the chiropractor. Make an appointment to get your eyes checked. Take an hour for a massage. Whatever it is that you currently need in order to be in balance, take the first step to put that care into motion. Today.
P.P.S. I hope you have a great week finding ways to strengthen yourself in order to contribute your gifts to your family, friends and community! I wish you well!

 

Picture Your Life

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I had the opportunity to visit with a client as school was starting a few weeks ago. She wanted to clarify her goals and talk about a few trouble spots that were causing her some uncertainty and a little frustration. It was a great visit!

I admire that kind of “I-am-a-life-long-learner” attitude! How much can be gained by proactively asking for feedback, taking opportunities to think out loud and then claiming responsibility to move things forward.

Wherever you are, I hope that you feel that you are teaching and learning. There will never been a moment when we won’t need to learn something new! Or to learn something again. That is life.

I wish you health and happiness as you strengthen yourself and your family.

Be well.

Love,

Jacque