Marriage

Marriage help

Worthy Pursuits

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Any sacrifice you are making to teach and support and nurture and strengthen your family will pay you in the end. We’re here to grow together. Even the greatest pain- childbirth, temporary separation, saying you’re sorry and asking forgiveness, finding the strength to forgive; all will be nothing compared to the joy that comes to those who love.

“(Mortals) say of some temporal suffering, ‘No future bliss can make up for it,’ not knowing that Heaven, once attained, will work backwards and turn even that agony into a glory,…The Blessed will say, ‘We have never lived anywhere except in Heaven.'”

C.S. Lewis, The Great Divorce

Fight for your family’s success!

Keep going.

Heaven is cheering you on! Can you hear it?

Love,
Jacque

Strength In Us

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Every family has challenges. No, every family has multiple, on-going, at times life-threatening and or soul-threatening difficulties they are trying to work through.

And, while none of us are without challenges, there is so much strength in moving through them together! 

Funny how we really come to understand the strength of togetherness, when we witness or experience the death of a relationship or family unit.

Many of you have experienced this pain and my heart goes out to you! You know what it is to be without your people; without the structure and stability that each person contributes to the whole. For instance, you understand the subtle balancing of two parents as they combine strengths and accommodate for weaknesses, so much that you don’t know who does what, they’re just singularly, mom & dad.

Yes, our bonds, so profound and complex, are worth fighting for!

In part simply because facing life together is such an extreme blessing! We can collectively work and sweat and bleed if we have to in order to make it through, knowing that we are far stronger together {yes, even when someone in that together is driving you batty!} and that, with God’s help, we can weather the storm. Together.

I thank heaven for the together that is our family. There is no greater blessing in my life.

Be strong.
Be committed.
Be fierce in defending and supporting one another.
Guard and protect your union.
The dividends of togetherness are endless.

Love,

Jacque

Those Wrong Songs

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I say “wrong” because they aren’t true, and I’m referring to the songs in our culture that worship people, even those we love.

The music that says, “If you leave me, I won’t have any reason to go on.”

Or, those that sing along the lines of, “If you decide to be unfaithful to me, it would kill me.”

I reject those messages. For those of us who put our faith and hope in God, they are wholly untrue.

Instead, I would suggest lyrics and declarations that speak of our commitment and steadiness. Of our decisions and behavior. Of the divinity of our souls and the eternal purposes of God. And of the strength that comes from putting good faith and hope in the promises and fidelity of others, with the understanding that because of humanness, we ultimately lean and depend on God and His promises to us.

If the day ever comes, or already has come, that someone you love abandons their commitment to you, or in some way is unfaithful, I hope you will determine now that you will stand in strength; find forgiveness, beauty and newness in life because of your faith in and dependence on your Heavenly Father. For ultimately, giving the responsibility of our happiness to another person is a misuse of our agent-hood.

We all make mistakes. We all fall short. Only He is worthy of all praise and adoration.

Love and blessings,

Jacque

“With God all things are possible,” even surviving, rising, discerning, forgiving and healing. God bless you!

Learn to Smell It Quick!

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Negativity creeps in. A little pessimistic thought here, a worry there. Soon the sarcasm starts coming out.

Once it becomes a full blown mess and other people and negative emotions are involved, it can be quite difficult to  turn around. {Understatement right?}

The goal is to learn to recognize the slight turning of our thoughts.The hint of pseudo-guilt. The self-incrimination. The wave of blame. It takes practice to tune in faster and faster. But the sooner we can smell the rottenness the better! Just when we sense that our minds are barely leaning toward the negative, we can stop it there!

Yes, it is easier to do if you aren’t dog-tired.

Yes, it is easier to do if you have been rehearsing your truth in declarations.

But in any case, quickly catching smell of “stinkin’ thinkin'” as I heard someone call it, will save you and your loved ones time, money, emotional distress, and so much more!

The goal is to get better and better at recognizing the first thought! And do you know what to do when you do?

You immediately speak the truth!

“I am of worth.”
“My feelings matter.”
“Someone cares about me.”
“I am loved.”

Bam! The negativity vanishes. The truth is your best defense.

Love to you this beautiful day.

Jacque

 

Standing Ready

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Who are you? Beyond what you like or who you married or what school you attended or who your friends are or what you “do.”

Who are you deep down?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Here are a few declarations about your identity that will keep you standing ready to:
-Face new challenges
-Maintain your confidence even when someone else may be behaving badly
-Receive the peace you desire even when things don’t seem to be going your way
-Give a soft answer in times of stress
-Care for yourself when you are tempted to neglect your needs
-Care for others when it isn’t convenient or easy

Here they are!

I am a daughter of God.
I am loved and cherished.
I reflect His light to others.
I am a speaker of truth; always in love.
I am a force for good.
I am a great validator.
I am healthy and strong.
I am a life-long learner.
I am grateful and my words and actions show it.

What declarations are you employing every day to arm yourself with strength and courage?

Your family needs the strength you will gain when you remember who you are.

Sending you lots of love today!

Jacque