Mothering

Inspiration on parenting

Ginger Lemon Honey Tea

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Seems as though there a lot of people who have colds and flu right now. No fun!

One thing we make that has helped to “thin the junk out” during colds and flu is a nice warm cup of tea. (Not hot, let it cool before drinking.)

Put water on to heat, then squeeze juice from 1/2 a lemon into your cup. Add 1/2 teaspoon powdered ginger (or fresh grated ginger if you don’t mind texture), 1-2 teaspoons raw honey, 1/8 teaspoon cayenne. Add water to the top of the cup when it is heated. Stir and let the tea cool until it is just warm.

You can certainly back off the cayenne if this tea is for a little one, but if a person can take the heat, it makes the ginger much more efficient.

I hope you are well my friend.

Take good care,

Jacque

P.S. You can make this into a nice cough syrup by leaving out the water and adding a few Tablespoons of apple cider vinegar. Spicy and good! And very good for a sore throat.

No Time to Waste

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Here’s a thought question for you: Is there something that is keeping you from “feeling” your life?

Just the normal, every day stuff. Do you feel glad to see your baby’s smile or have warmth flood you when you see your kids playing peacefully together? Can you feel satisfied at the end of a productive day or let yourself cry when things are sad or disappointing?

If you can, I’m so glad! If you struggle, I’d admonish you to take a look at what may be in the way.

Sometimes we don’t allow ourselves to feel because we’ve been hurt and so disappointed that we’ve wrapped ourselves in some form of insulation for protection.

Or maybe we have built a wall of busy-ness and distraction and we don’t even know that we’re living in a sort of numbing bubble.

Maybe the expectations, most likely unrealistic ones, are overwhelming and not humanly possible to reach! Then, disappointment may be a part of every day.

If you can relate to what I’m saying, would you consider taking some time to journal your thoughts and see if you can identify the issue? Then, if needed speak to a trusted friend or if necessary a trusted counselor and ask for assistance?

When you look back over your life, you will applaud your efforts to be well, because it is so very important to the functioning of your family!

When you don’t feel, you don’t connect with others, you don’t come to understand them and sadly, you don’t have the memories of those connections later.

I pray that you will work to be your healthiest self here and now. Healing is such a wonderful journey and so worth the effort!

Love to you,

Jacque

 

What Do You Want?

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What are the desires of your heart today? This month? This year?

Do you want to learn something new or start a new habit?

Do you want to get better at speaking kindly to yourself or exhibiting more patience with your kids? Do you want to learn a new language or read more or exercise more regularly?

Once you identify what you want, you just need to pick the actions or behaviors that will lead to that consequence.

Sometimes we think of the equation the other way ’round…we do what we do and hope the consequence will be good or at least not too painful.

But thinking first about the consequence we want, makes the path to getting there pretty clear.

Get the teacher, tutor or mentor. Make a plan with a friend to be accountability buddies. Identify someone who is a good parent and spend some time talking with them and observing their skills in action. Write a declaration about the joy of achieving your goal. Write out a list of kind words to say to yourself, put it in your pocket and read it out loud every time you eat {or some other thing you do multiple times during the day that will remind you to look at your list}. Decide on a simple reward for reaching your daily goal.

Whatever behavior will lead to the end you want, that’s the plan. You can change. I can change. We were designed to move forward.

Love to you!

Jacque

 

Loose Ends

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You know the saying that housekeeping is like beading a string with no knot in the end? In other words, as soon as you get the laundry done, someone takes off a pair of dirty socks…

Well, I’d suggest tying as many knots as you can in your housekeeping strings!

And the best way I know to do that is to anticipate as much as you can. What does that look like?

It looks like:

*Having a plan of how and when and who will do the laundry, regularly, at your house; Which loads happen on which days; Who is in charge of getting them through the washer and the dryer; Who is in charge of folding and putting them away. {Oh, don’t stop at washing and drying or you’re asking for a mountain to bury you in unfolded, clean clothes! And then after awhile, who knows which are clean and which are dirty?} And don’t forget to consider when the bed clothes will be changed and who is in charge of re-making which beds.

*Making decisions about what food you will prepare through the week; Knowing who will be cooking and who will be cleaning up.

*Expecting family members to clean-up after themselves; Backpacks are put in a designated space; Shoes and coats come off and get quickly put in their places by the wearers; Beds are made, even by the littlest members and toys are the responsibility of those who have pulled them out in the first place.

*Sharing the load when it comes to yard work and taking out garbages and cleaning the family car, inside and out.

*Starting when children are very young, invite them to participate in the maintenance of the home and of their own belongings. It is wonderful to be considered part of the family team!

I wish you all the best in your on-going efforts to create a house of order and a place of peace at home.

You are making a great difference in the lives of so many!

Be well.

Love,

Jacque

P.S. We can’t honestly complain about what we agree to, either by not setting boundaries or not following through with them! {Well, we can, and I have, but it doesn’t hold much water does it?}

P.P.S. Maybe everyone else won’t do “their jobs” exactly like you would, but they will learn if you will allow them to try! Share the load and share the evolution of skills and confidence that will follow.

 

You’re Doing It!

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Funny, isn’t it, that society isn’t sending you {Mama} messages that what you are doing in your every day life is exactly what the world needs most? There should be capes for people like you who are elbow deep in taking care of the needs of the next generation day in and day out, not to mention: All. Those. Sleepless. Nights.

We hear about tragedies and war and crazy weather and shootings and chaos here and abroad…but almost never do we hear about the people who are making all of the daily living happen, or even making it possible at all! And sadly, that also means that there isn’t a lot of attention or adulation for the great work you are doing at home. So I wonder if you at times wonder if you should be doing something else, something that seems to count more socially or give you more of a sense of accomplishment by paying you or promoting you? To that I ask: if you aren’t present to fill the mothering role for your children, who will be?

On a broader scale I would ask: Do we as a society need more gun control? More laws, or restrictions and tighter controls? Do we need broader media coverage or more options for jobs or greater representation for women?

To these questions and many like them, I would say, what we really need is more of you.

I think that you are the secret weapon we need to make the biggest positive impact on the future socially, spiritually and even economically!

When I read a scary news story about someone who has been in the criminal justice system since they were a teen and now are on trial for murder, or see enraged young people who are completely out of control and looking back, we can see that they have been screaming for help, I think– that person badly needed something they didn’t get. Whether that was kindness, good food to eat, a safe place to live or in some cases medical care, there were deep holes in the fabric of their upbringing.

So, if you have given a child a safe space in your home and in your heart, the time to be carefree and childlike; fed and clothed them and given them a smile and affection, then today you have positively impacted the world. And if you are doing the jobs of both mother and father by yourself, I pray that God will bless you and strengthen you!

Today, you have contributed to a safer, brighter future for your family and community.

You have elevated happiness and learning and endless possibilities for you, your children and for society.

You have stretched yourself, finding needed patience and courage, and come out stronger.

Yes, just by doing the normal everyday parenting things, I believe that you are making the difference we need the most.

Thank you!!!

Love,

Jacque

P.S. An awesome quote by a psychological performance expert, Steve Siebold:

“Over the past 34 years, I conducted interviews with  more than 1,200 parents. While the focus of my interactions with them was to study how they handed down their beliefs about money to their kids, one thing always stood out: the closest, most successful, best behaved and smartest kids are the ones whose parents made it a priority to really be involved in every aspect of their children’s lives.
Mothers, fathers and children sat down to eat dinner together, or simply have together time every day. They talked about their days, discussed any big wins, their struggles and whatever else was on anyone’s mind.
I also talked to a few children of various ages in my studies, and all across the board deep down there were only two things they wanted from their parents: love and attention. The ones who got it typically were more fulfilled and stayed out of trouble.
The bottom line: get involved in every way you possibly can. You are a parent and it’s your responsibility. The more involved you become in your children’s lives, the better off they’re going to be and the safer our schools will be.”