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Servant Leader Loves

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We sometimes get confused. We might ask ourselves, “If I commend myself for a job well-done, am I proud?” or “If I berate myself, does that make me humble?”

I’d say, no and no.

I just finished cleaning the kitchen. It was one job in the middle of 15 others that was calling for my attention this morning. But I am on a path of “first things first” and I knew that leaving dishes behind breakfast would be unsettling and detrimental to the rest of the day. So I took myself by the hand, shut out the clamor of other projects and needs making a play for my attention, and I led myself to the sink. When I finished, I said, in my head, “good job Jacque, you focused in and got the kitchen clean. Way to go!”

Is that prideful? No, it’s coaching. It’s acknowledging a small success that I plan to build upon today. It’s self-help at it’s finest to comfort and encourage oneself.

What if I had gone into a tirade about all the things that need to be done and beat myself up for not being further ahead or taking on too much or, or, or….. Would that be helpful? Would I feel enlivened and buoyed up? No!

Funny thing is, when we live in the negatives, when we cultivate a voice of despair and discouragement or self-loathing, that awfulness oozes out onto the people we love even thought we don’t want it to! We feel lousy about ourselves and aren’t they an extension of us? We criticize as a past time. We find fault out of habit.

Servant leadership is about true humility, which is knowing who we are in relationship to God, and being willing to be led and taught by Him, which leads to being filled with His love for ourselves and others.

We can serve best when we are in His love.

We must hear and correct the way we speak to ourselves if need be, in order to be in love!

What loving words do you have for yourself right now, today? Please, please say them! You deserve words that are encouraging and positive. Find them and say them, and let them spill out to your children and your spouse!

Sending you my appreciation for the love you give every day that makes the world better for us all! Thank you!

Love,

Jacque

P.S. I would love to hear the words you come up with in the comments! Please share and inspire the Lioness community!

 

Worthy Pursuits

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Any sacrifice you are making to teach and support and nurture and strengthen your family will pay you in the end. We’re here to grow together. Even the greatest pain- childbirth, temporary separation, saying you’re sorry and asking forgiveness, finding the strength to forgive; all will be nothing compared to the joy that comes to those who love.

“(Mortals) say of some temporal suffering, ‘No future bliss can make up for it,’ not knowing that Heaven, once attained, will work backwards and turn even that agony into a glory,…The Blessed will say, ‘We have never lived anywhere except in Heaven.'”

C.S. Lewis, The Great Divorce

Fight for your family’s success!

Keep going.

Heaven is cheering you on! Can you hear it?

Love,
Jacque

Strength In Us

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Every family has challenges. No, every family has multiple, on-going, at times life-threatening and or soul-threatening difficulties they are trying to work through.

And, while none of us are without challenges, there is so much strength in moving through them together! 

Funny how we really come to understand the strength of togetherness, when we witness or experience the death of a relationship or family unit.

Many of you have experienced this pain and my heart goes out to you! You know what it is to be without your people; without the structure and stability that each person contributes to the whole. For instance, you understand the subtle balancing of two parents as they combine strengths and accommodate for weaknesses, so much that you don’t know who does what, they’re just singularly, mom & dad.

Yes, our bonds, so profound and complex, are worth fighting for!

In part simply because facing life together is such an extreme blessing! We can collectively work and sweat and bleed if we have to in order to make it through, knowing that we are far stronger together {yes, even when someone in that together is driving you batty!} and that, with God’s help, we can weather the storm. Together.

I thank heaven for the together that is our family. There is no greater blessing in my life.

Be strong.
Be committed.
Be fierce in defending and supporting one another.
Guard and protect your union.
The dividends of togetherness are endless.

Love,

Jacque

Learn to Smell It Quick!

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Negativity creeps in. A little pessimistic thought here, a worry there. Soon the sarcasm starts coming out.

Once it becomes a full blown mess and other people and negative emotions are involved, it can be quite difficult to  turn around. {Understatement right?}

The goal is to learn to recognize the slight turning of our thoughts.The hint of pseudo-guilt. The self-incrimination. The wave of blame. It takes practice to tune in faster and faster. But the sooner we can smell the rottenness the better! Just when we sense that our minds are barely leaning toward the negative, we can stop it there!

Yes, it is easier to do if you aren’t dog-tired.

Yes, it is easier to do if you have been rehearsing your truth in declarations.

But in any case, quickly catching smell of “stinkin’ thinkin'” as I heard someone call it, will save you and your loved ones time, money, emotional distress, and so much more!

The goal is to get better and better at recognizing the first thought! And do you know what to do when you do?

You immediately speak the truth!

“I am of worth.”
“My feelings matter.”
“Someone cares about me.”
“I am loved.”

Bam! The negativity vanishes. The truth is your best defense.

Love to you this beautiful day.

Jacque

 

Standing Ready

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Who are you? Beyond what you like or who you married or what school you attended or who your friends are or what you “do.”

Who are you deep down?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Here are a few declarations about your identity that will keep you standing ready to:
-Face new challenges
-Maintain your confidence even when someone else may be behaving badly
-Receive the peace you desire even when things don’t seem to be going your way
-Give a soft answer in times of stress
-Care for yourself when you are tempted to neglect your needs
-Care for others when it isn’t convenient or easy

Here they are!

I am a daughter of God.
I am loved and cherished.
I reflect His light to others.
I am a speaker of truth; always in love.
I am a force for good.
I am a great validator.
I am healthy and strong.
I am a life-long learner.
I am grateful and my words and actions show it.

What declarations are you employing every day to arm yourself with strength and courage?

Your family needs the strength you will gain when you remember who you are.

Sending you lots of love today!

Jacque