Mothering

Inspiration on parenting

Enjoy!

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Spending time with grandkids and loving some new funnies we’ve found! If you haven’t seen this one yet, I hope it will make you smile. I hope you are well!

Love,
Jacque

Pushing a Noodle

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If you have little people, I think you’ll understand what I mean when I say that you can lead a horse to water but you cannot make him drink! {When it’s nap time, you can lead a little one to their bed but you cannot make her sleep can you?}

In thinking about this today, a funny picture jumped into my mind of someone trying to push a freshly cooked noodle! It really illustrates the level of frustration one may feel when going behind someone and trying to get them to do what you want them to do. There’s no body to it, nothing to push, particularly if this person is a toddler!

How then do you go from “pushing a noodle” to walking ahead while dangling the proverbial carrot in their sight? How do you lead out and encourage others to follow?

Here are a few ideas I hope you’ll find helpful. I believe they could be employed by anyone trying to lead anyone!

1. Create a clear goal. Not for you, but for them! Yes, you want to get everyone down for a nap so that you can think for a minute or rest or get lunch dishes done. But what do they get out of it? Yes, they’ll get rested and feel better for the duration of the day if they take a nap, but they don’t know that nor are they able to care about that. They don’t have the ability or executive functioning to understand that yet!
So if this time of day is a struggle for you, what could you create to be their goal and then reach it?

First, you must clearly teach what behaviors you need them to do in order, such as; a) lie down with a quiet toy; b) maybe visit for a few minutes with you in a quiet voice; c) then close their eyes and lay fairly still until they drift off to sleep.
Next, what could help them catch your vision and be motivated to accomplish the task? A sticker on a chart? A fun activity with you? A time to play with a special toy? A simple treat? Do your best to give them a reason to comply with your request. Sinply doing something because you say to do it is lovely, but training along the way will give them a feeling of control over their actions and eventually success and an earned reward.

2. Share your goals with them! Not just the I-need-a-nap-so-badly goal, but also your bigger thoughts and aspirations! They will see you as a leader who is worthy of emulation and as someone who is interested in life and engaged in learning and continuing to evolve. If the people you are leaving happen to be your children, I believe they will automatically see themselves as learning and evolving just because you are.

3. Engage family members in your goals. Can little Sis sit on your feet while you do sit-ups? Can big brother grab the water bottles to load in the car when you’re all heading out for a run? What do you want to accomplish this week? This month? This year? It doesn’t matter if your goals stay constant or if they morph into new goals, just be as forward thinking as you can and share the journey with your loved ones. You may be surprised at how much they want to pitch in to help you succeed. Of course you can also up your game on being thoughtful about how to show your interest in their individual interests and goals and do what you can to support them!

Children want to please you. They want to see you smile at them. They want to be your delight and feel that they are important to you! And you know, I think I could say the same thing for your spouse! How wonderful it is to sit in the smile of your mate.

Helping others to achieve simple goals will get you through your days more peacefully and cooperatively and can help everyone at your house to feel that they are living in a learning and happy place.

Love you! You’ve got this!
Jacque

Wow!

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Hello friends. It’s been a few days of a technical difficulty and now we’re back online. Thank you for your patience!

Today I’d simply like to say, wow! You ladies amaze me!

You are fighting the good fight of finding time for self-care in the midst of very challenging circumstances. You may not feel like you are winning, but remember that every thought and every glance in the direction of caring for yourself is taking you closer and closer to your best self. Think on it, speak of it, enlist the support of your family and make it happen little by little.

You are learning from mistakes. You are learning about what makes you tick, what you natively do well and what you have to work to achieve.

You are learning that sometimes you react in ways you’d like to change. You see that you are susceptible to “button pushing” and you’re striving to be ever more in control of yourself.

You are gaining experience, the kind that brings wisdom with time, through each difficulty and in each realtionship.

You are hanging on and in the end, showing your true, beautiful colors.

You are tough. You are brave. You are, while human and ever-learning, a great force for good.

You are also learning to cut yourself some slack and to speak to yourself in a more tempered and gentle voice. You are also learning about the struggles of others which makes you feel less in competition with them and more charitable toward them.

You’re making it. Keep going. Find simple solutions to the small problems and you will find greater peace and success in the seemingly large issues before you.

Mostly, keep you eye on the prize. The prize of building a family and finding your best self and joy in the process.

With love and confidence,
Jacque

Smoothies With The Kitchen Coach

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I am so tickled to link you up with a Jenny the Kitchen Coach video today. I love her and her ideas and food are always amazing!

And me, I’m propped up looking into the face of our newest little grandchild who is sleeping next to me. I am in awe again at the sanctity of life and the wisdom, creation and progress made possible within the family unit. All I can say is praise be to God for the opportunity to be in this flesh, learning at an accelerated pace by what we are experiencing here together. Life is precious.

I wish you a bright and happy Monday!

Love,

Jacque

P.S. Here are the recipes you’ll be seeing Jenny make on this video! Don’t they sound amazing?

Shamrock Shake (aka: healthy mint chocolate chip smoothie)
-3 C. milk of choice
-1/2 an avocado
-1C. greens of choice (more if you’d like!)
-1/4-1/2 tsp. monk fruit powder (or other sweetener, to taste)
-sprinkle of salt
-4-5 drops peppermint essential oil, or you can use 1/4-1/2 tsp. of peppermint baking extract.
-8-12 ice cubes
-unsweetened or dark chocolate pieces (as much as you want!)
Blend everything together for 20-30 seconds. Sometimes I will blend everything but the chocolate and then blend that in separately at the end; this will give you slightly bigger chocolate chunks. Getting the amount of sweetener just right is key to making this taste amazing- if it tastes a bit bland, add more sweetener until it tastes right 🙂
Mango Basil Smoothie
 
1/2 C. frozen mango chunks
1 C. milk of choice
small handful of basil (about 1/4 C.)
sprinkle of salt
dash of vanilla
1/8-1/4 tsp. monk fruit powder, stevia, or other sweetener
5 pitted dates
Blend everything together for about a minute. The dates take some time to become fully incorporated. If you don’t have a high-powered blender, soak your dates for at least an hour first. (You can also omit the dates and just add a little extra sweetener!)

Coming Soon!

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Coming soon to Lioness is a stunning bouquet of declarations set to music and illustrated with inspiring pictures! The intent is to fill your mind with words of truth about who you are with music that will bring those words to life and make them mentally “sticky” along with colorful visions about your creative journey and a reminder of the beauty of each day. I will challenge you to watch or listen to the video daily and let the messages lift your spirits and train your brain.

Can’t wait to share it with you!

Meanwhile, how is this week going for you thus far?

May I challenge you to set a timer on your phone at several intervals throughout the next few days to remind yourself to take a few deep breaths? To lower your shoulders and relax your jaw? In those few moments, also consider running a few hand-picked declarations through your mind that will keep you on track with your current goals. They might be as simple as,
“I am smiling at my children,” or
“I am moving forward” or
“I am calm and happy.”

By deliberately using your agent-hood, you will diminish the temptation to feel like a martyr taking up the slack or like a victim to the circumstances of your life.

Your words are your power.

Love always,

Jacque