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Fight Smarter!

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I’ve been thinking a lot about yesterday’s post and the idea that it may not be enough to speak our declarations each day.  According to Mr. Peale, we have to take them to another level, like 10 notches up if we want to gain the self-mastery, confidence, health and the “creative faith” we desire.

So what does that look like?  What does it mean?

I’m thinking that it means that I am posting my declarations in multiple locations.  It means that I will go back to using grand music in the background as I say them.  It means I will begin again to carry them on my person, probably on a note card in my pocket.  (That is a powerful habit, not sure why, but it really does well to remind you many times through the day, what you have chosen as your focus.)

It means that I’ll give myself permission to obsess about the positives!  To sound like a nut, contradicting the odds, seemingly denying the present state of affairs and keeping my gaze on only the present positives and the future I want to create.

It means rolling up our sleeves and getting seriously settled in the driver’s seat.  It means getting a little feisty about what conversations we intentionally have and recognizing how we feel more often. It means kicking up our self-care even higher and gratefully accepting more help when we need it.

Too often, we make minuscule efforts to guard our minds and hearts and then wonder at the unfairness when we get solidly knocked to the ground by a difficult challenge or even by a fleeting negative thought!

More ammunition!  More energy in preparation!  More “creative faith!”  More determination!  This is where we put our “stubborn!”  We plant our feet and say to the powers that be: This is where I stand, and I will not be moved from my chosen path.

God bless us each to catch the vision of our personal power and then to use that power to move heaven and earth to fulfill our personal missions here.  If it is right, God will grant our desires if we ask in faith.

You’re amazing!!  And I send your my love and confidence.

Be well!

Jacque

 

Unfold

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What is your favorite flower?

Think for a moment until you decide.  Then for a few moments, close your eyes and imagine watching that flower unfold, from a bud to becoming it’s most open, reaching, beautiful self!

Isn’t it glorious?  It just knows what to do and it’s blooming is accomplished almost as effortlessly and lazily turning over in bed or running your hands through your hair.  It naturally expands to it’s full blown beauty and just “is.”  It is naturally lovely it doesn’t have to try.  And so often, when I see a bush full of blossoms or a beautiful flower bed bursting with life and color, I imagine that all of nature is glorifying God and shouting Hosanna!

Now for a wild question:

Do you ever feel like a flower that is stuck closed, like you’re trying so hard to do everything right, but your petals won’t budge?

Like you don’t know how to push yourself out? (And are you ever afraid or anxious about actually beaming so much beauty around?)

Today, I challenge you to take 60 seconds to close your eyes and envision yourself while, breathing slowly and deeply, actually being your favorite flower.  Inhaling, envision yourself relaxing your petals, softening your face, then exhaling, see yourself begin to unfold.  You are colorful.  You are fresh.  You are alive.  You are doing what God made you to do; you are standing tall, fully extended, fully aware, with only peace and confidence to be what you already are.

Let peace come out of your smiling eyes and fall upon your children.  Let joy and radiance and adoration beam upon your husband.  In the vortex of your happiness, let the small daily tasks feel rewarding.  Feel the success of simply and naturally being who you were born to be.

Whether you are lily or iris, rose or peony, daffodil or tulip, be.

Effortlessly, be yourself.

Fill your home with color and fragrance and light and YOU.

Lots of love!

Jacque

In The Gap

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You know that moment when you really want to do something that you know isn’t good for you, and you feel yourself slipping into that semi-conscious state of not caring and then of not being fully awake in the moment you begin to indulge?

Like when sugar is calling… (Sorry, I realize that this may be a sensitive day for this post!)

But you know it could be one of a hundred things calling.  It could be indulging in despair or self-criticism or chocolate or sadness or *false guilt or narcotics or whatever vice rings especially “helpful” in the moment.

What is a girl to do?  Depending on your chemistry and your thinking habits, spending time in any one of these “pseudo coping options” could mean a loss of precious time and potentially loss of precious health or a loss of trust and intimacy in a relationship.

May I recommend making a list of diversions for such moments?  And when you feel the sliding begin, you know, just an inkling that the quick sand is close by, you can refer to your list and launch yourself out of harms way!  Fast!

It seems that often times, the need to be filled is simply dealing with some kind of boredom.  So giving yourself some productive task or permission to take a break, like a chance to take a walk and breathe fresh air or some other activity you enjoy, really fills in the gap nicely and can make a big difference at the end of the day.

Say the Easter candy is calling to you, (hopefully you didn’t buy a month’s supply and if so, hopefully you really won’t keep it in the house that long) but you realize that what you really need is a big drink of water and a diversion!  You need to put your headphones on and listen to your favorite movie soundtrack while you make dinner.

Or maybe, what you really need to do is tackle some small job that has been hanging over your head and causing you to feel undone in some way.  And just by tackling that you have the liberating feeling you need so that you can move on to something you really want to do!

What about getting that book you’ve been excited to read and giving yourself half an hour to read a bit?  Or what about giving your body a nutrient dense snack that helps you feel satiated and well-fed? (I’ve seen some pretty darn good recipes for peanut butter cups that you freeze! There is a recipe on this site for a whole food version that is very nutritious, but there are some out there with fewer ingredients and therefore easier to whip up!)

Which brings me to the last point which is: have healthy alternatives prepared for yourself and for your family!  Hey, if you have a choice between junk and food and they both are tasty, you can go for the good stuff and not have to chastise yourself later! And oh the joy of self-mastery!

By implementing some of these ideas, you will be creating an environment that supports your best interests, and that supportive environment can be a massively, powerful influence.

I pray for your health and well-being!

Love,

Jacque

P. S. What is *false guilt?  It is feeling guilty for not being perfect.  Not even close to Godly sorrow when you have really done something wrong, but just a time-wasting, miserable funk to jump into that is neither productive nor real.

P. P. S. If you have some luck with creating diversions, please share!

P. P. P. S My favorite diversion lately is a video I took of Garth dancing with and singing to one of our little granddaughters.  I find that I can’t help but smile at that!

P. P. P. P. S “He must reign until he hath put all enemies under His feet.”  He can enable our success.  Ask for His help! Happy Easter!

You’re Not Alone

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It seems to me that one of the most, if not the most, discouraging “fiery dart” is the thought and then consequent feeling that you are experiencing life alone.  That you are isolated for one of a million reasons and that leaves you wondering if anyone has ever felt as disconnected as you feel at times.

Sometimes it’s the sense that everyone else knows what is happening in a conversation or in the world for that matter, but you.  Sometimes it’s the weird zone of going to a gathering and feeling ignored.  Oh, feeling invisible is horrible.  On the other hand, being the center of attention for something you don’t want to get any attention for isn’t fun either.

Do you ever wonder how other people’s children seem to be so obedient and helpful and why you have to ask multiple times before you get your children’s attention and help?

Or does it seem that your friend’s spouses are helpful and supportive and you wonder if your spouse knows how much you need them and are missing their attention and support?

Whatever the reason you may have felt “out of it” or less than or somehow inferior to others you know, I want to reassure you that you are not alone.

We are ALL striving and wondering and at times feeling sad and at times rejoicing.  We are all riding through the ebb and flow of life, sometimes feeling tossed in the air with no handhold, and sometimes in the middle of white, rapid water and occasionally we are riding on a the smooth, glossy green surface of a serene pool, with the sun on our faces and feeling relief for a season.

I am you and you are me.  We are so much alike, frail and fragile while also strong and extremely resilient!

Please know you’re not alone.  We’re all just doing the best we can with the  knowledge we have now.  And no one is better or lives an enchanted life.  Just different challenges at different times that have different names.

Know I’m sending out my love to you today.  I love knowing that I am not the only one living here.  You are with me and I am with you.

Sincerely,

Jacque

“I like myself, I love myself and I forgive myself.  I am never alone.  I am loved and valued.  I am not better or worse than anyone else.  My needs are important.  I am worthy of having them met. I am not in competition with any of my sisters.  We are all human and doing our best.  I cannot see all of the challenges of others, just as they cannot see mine.  My heart goes out to all of God’s children.”

 

7 Steps Seminar Coming!

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To those of you who have attended the Lioness at the Door 7 Steps to Family Wellness, seven-month seminar, may I ask a favor of you?

Would you think for a bit about the most important take away you had from your experience in seminar and share it in a comment here?

God willing, we will start the 2017 series this month and I’d love for those who are thinking about registering, to hear your favorite or most life-changing lessons.

Our 2016 groups were stellar and I love all of you!

Here is a sneak peek at what you will find in the 7 Steps Workbook:

“Now, if you’re a champion at hearing negatives, believing negatives, and feeling crippled and then paralyzed by negatives, you will have to understand that this process of learning to take control of your mind, or rather to redirect it over and over until the negative default habit is curbed,will actually make chemical changes in your body and you may encounter resistance to this new way of thinking.  Not to mention that since you have believed these untruths for so long, the truth may sound downright fake and utterly wrong!  That is, of course, more nonsense!  We are God’s children, full of promise and infinite value possessing the power to choose and to learn from our experiences.  It follows then that to progress, to move forward, we have to become our own best advocate, hear the blatant lies we have believed, and proverbially kick them to the curb!  We are Lionesses!  We are family leaders!  This is the battle to fight; the interior battle for peace within. Then we can begin to tackle other problems in our personal and family terrain.”

No more being victimized by negative thoughts. No more!”

That is a good reminder for me today. I hope it is good food for thought for you too.

If you know of someone who would thrive in seminar, please spread the word! I look forward to another growing year with another great group!

Jacque