Mothering

Inspiration on parenting

Make Friends With Small Bites and Baby Steps

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Life is a process.

There’s no such thing as leap-frogging over daily needs…at least not without unhealthy consequences.

We must eat. We must sleep. We grow. We need new clothes. We get tired. We need change.

Sometimes we think we can take life by storm and forego the necessities. We get ahead of ourselves, run too fast and burn out.

Sooner or later, we will do well to learn that our progress will most often come in small bites and baby steps.

That most days will feel “ordinary” and that the meaningful milestones come after long, persistent, dedicated effort.

And it’s the same for everyone.

You’re doing great. Keep on moving and hoping and working and praying.

And see if you can cheer for each small bite and baby step you and others take!

Love,

Jacque

 

Hospitality

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Derives from the Latin hospes, meaning “host”, “guest”, or “stranger”. …

hos·pi·tal·i·ty; noun the friendly and generous reception and entertainment of guests, visitors,or strangers.
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ynonyms: friendliness, hospitableness, warm reception, welcome, helpfulness, neighborliness, warmth, kindness, congeniality, geniality, cordiality, courtesy, amenability, generous.

What awesome words–friendly, generous and warm! What about a little hospitality at home?

Where people feel comfortable and cared-for?

Seems like the little things count so much in creating that kind of welcoming atmosphere.

Food, always food!

Cleanliness.

A small note of appreciation.

A snack waiting.

This kind of graciousness is something that children can and want to join in because the are already kind and thoughtful!

Consider ways you would treat a guest, then do those things for yourself and those you love best…

You’re amazing! I pray for you and send you my love and best wishes for a wonderful day.

Sincerely,

Jacque

Loving Life Now!

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Do you live where lilacs grow?

These beauties came from my yard and my dad’s yard.

They only last for a short time and they are beautiful and smell heavenly!

Like these flowers and so many important things in life, the beautiful moments must be seized before they are gone! Seasons come and go before you know it’s happening.

Little boy voices grow into deep men’s voices. Little hands become big and far away. Opportunities to read stories and sit in sandboxes and look at rocks and take naps disappear before your eyes.

It really doesn’t matter much if you’re in the middle of a mess. Or if the garage hasn’t gotten straightened up yet. Or if you have work that seems to never end. Or if the kids aren’t in great harmony with each other all of the time. It’s ok. Life is still beautiful now. But you have to shift your focus to see it. {How I wish I could have written these words to my 30 year old self!}

Today, I challenge you to hear and see and smell and feel and rejoice in your world and in your family! Just as they are today.

Tomorrow comes too soon.

Sniff. Sniff. {My children know that means real tears!}

You’re doing great!

Love,

Jacque

Is There an Adult in The House?

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Who is in charge at your house?

That seems like a quirky question I know, but really, who calls the shots?

I’ve been reminded several times in the last few days that a parent’s role is so critical that it can’t be part of a popularity contest!

Do we want our children to like us? Sure! Do we want them to be happy and have good things come their way? Of course!

But, if we’re so worried about rocking their boat, so-to-speak, that we habitually hesitate to offer course corrections or let them wade through the consequences of their choices, especially when they are difficult, we are doing them a great disservice.

Yep, there might be other people that can have casual, light and fun relationships with our kids, but they aren’t in the parenting role. We are.

Sure, kids can benefit greatly from friends and coaches and mentors and extended family members and that’s awesome! But let’s not get misguided in thinking that we want to be liked and have life be fun and smooth so much that we don’t step in and parent our kids.

I am overjoyed {often!} as I observe parents who are supportive and clear. Tough and tender. When they are willing to deal with a child who is temporarily upset by needing to deal with correction and consequences. You are doing an amazing work! I salute you!

Our children are depending on us to be kind, gentle, respectful and firm. {Do you know which one of those words is most difficult for you to “do”? I do and I’m working on it!} I’m convinced that our children’s welfare is the most motivating reason out there for us to grow-up ourselves and take responsibility for our own words, actions and basic behavior! They need us to be adults, so we need to do whatever it takes to move forward.

Best wishes to you as you practice, practice and practice some more. I’ve been parenting for 30 years and I am still practicing!

Don’t quit! Just take it a day at a time and you’ll become, over time, the solid, happy parent you can envision yourself being.

Love to you today my friend,

Jacque

P.S. Being a Lioness at the Door of you home is much easier when you are taking breaks, feeding yourself good food and keeping things as simple as possible. It takes solid self-care to make a solid parent! Bless you for your efforts!

A Little Bug

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Just a reminder on this summer day:

Yes, you can (and should!) correct your children’s behavior.

Remember the validation checklist though as you prepare to make yourself and your boundaries clear. Is what you need to say and how you will say it, kind? Gentle? Respectful? And firm?

When you have those four elements, not just one or two, but all four, you’re good to go.

Kids need boundaries and thrive on knowing where those boundaries are. It feels safe and makes life more predictable.

I hope you will feel success in your efforts today!

Love,

Jacque

P.S. If you aren’t using the four validating words with yourself, chances are you won’t be able to employ them well with your family. Be kind, gentle, respectful and firm in your own head, about yourself. Model boundaries in this way and watch your kids respond to you more positively. You’re doing great!