Self-care ideas

Ideas and inspiration about the need to care for ones self

Focus On Joy!

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Is there a challenge in your life that has you nervous or scared?

Are there gatherings to plan or lessons or exams or late nights or difficult days coming up?

I have been reminded that focusing on the difficulties, the soul-stretching experiences that we aren’t quite sure we’ll survive, can expand our anxiety and make our burden heavier.

But, when we focus on the joyful outcome of our labors, we are lifted and strengthened and all is joy now!

To you little mothers especially, hold in your mind the joy of seeing your children growing and becoming their best selves! They will grow out of tormenting each other and become loyal friends; they will return again to you with gratitude; they will give you many, many reasons for gladness along with the sleepless nights and challenging days that are part of the package.

Just go straight for the joy in your mind now, and it will catapult you into a positive, anticipating space where you can effectively teach and train and love and accept your little ones on their unique journey.

You are doing a great work. Our society needs you like we have never before.

Sending you much love and thanks for your unending efforts and dedication to the success of your family, and our collective family.

Jacque

C.S. Lewis, The Great Divorce

“Son,’he said,’ ye cannot in your present state understand eternity…That is what mortals misunderstand. They say of some temporal suffering, “No future bliss can make up for it,” not knowing that Heaven, once attained, will work backwards and turn even that agony into a glory. And of some sinful pleasure they say “Let me have but this and I’ll take the consequences”: little dreaming how damnation will spread back and back into their past and contaminate the pleasure of the sin. Both processes begin even before death. The good man’s past begins to change so that his forgiven sins and remembered sorrows take on the quality of Heaven: the bad man’s past already conforms to his badness and is filled only with dreariness. And that is why…the Blessed will say “We have never lived anywhere except in Heaven, : and the Lost, “We were always in Hell.” And both will speak truly.”

Make Friends With Small Bites and Baby Steps

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Life is a process.

There’s no such thing as leap-frogging over daily needs…at least not without unhealthy consequences.

We must eat. We must sleep. We grow. We need new clothes. We get tired. We need change.

Sometimes we think we can take life by storm and forego the necessities. We get ahead of ourselves, run too fast and burn out.

Sooner or later, we will do well to learn that our progress will most often come in small bites and baby steps.

That most days will feel “ordinary” and that the meaningful milestones come after long, persistent, dedicated effort.

And it’s the same for everyone.

You’re doing great. Keep on moving and hoping and working and praying.

And see if you can cheer for each small bite and baby step you and others take!

Love,

Jacque

 

Hospitality

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Derives from the Latin hospes, meaning “host”, “guest”, or “stranger”. …

hos·pi·tal·i·ty; noun the friendly and generous reception and entertainment of guests, visitors,or strangers.
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ynonyms: friendliness, hospitableness, warm reception, welcome, helpfulness, neighborliness, warmth, kindness, congeniality, geniality, cordiality, courtesy, amenability, generous.

What awesome words–friendly, generous and warm! What about a little hospitality at home?

Where people feel comfortable and cared-for?

Seems like the little things count so much in creating that kind of welcoming atmosphere.

Food, always food!

Cleanliness.

A small note of appreciation.

A snack waiting.

This kind of graciousness is something that children can and want to join in because the are already kind and thoughtful!

Consider ways you would treat a guest, then do those things for yourself and those you love best…

You’re amazing! I pray for you and send you my love and best wishes for a wonderful day.

Sincerely,

Jacque

Corrie Ten Boom

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A great reminder from a great woman:

“When a train goes through a tunnel and it gets dark, you don’t throw away the ticket and jump off. You sit still and trust the engineer.”

Corrie Ten Boom, The Hiding Place

Love to you today!

Jacque

{Thank you for the quote Becky, Godspeed!}

Mr. Peale’s Steps

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Here is a little to-do list from The Power of Positive Thinking.

On changing a mental attitude from negative to positive: or in other words, “for shifting from error patterns to truth patterns.”

“1. For the next twenty-four hours, deliberately speak hopefully about everything, about your job, about your health, about your future.  Go out of your way to talk optimistically about everything. This will be difficult for possibly it is your habit to talk pessimistically. From this negative habit you must restrain yourself even if it requires an act of will.

2. After speaking hopefully for twenty-four hours, continue the practice for one week, then you can be permitted to be “realistic” for a day or two. You will discover that what you meant by “realistic” a week ago was actually pessimistic, but what you now mean by “realistic” is something entirely different; it is the dawning of the positive outlook. When most people say they are being “realistic” they delude themselves: they are simply being negative.

3. You must feed your mind even as you feed your body, and to make your mind healthy you must feed it nourishing, wholesome thoughts. Therefore, today start to shift your mind from negative to positive thinking. Start at the beginning of the New Testament and underscore every sentence about Faith. Continue doing this until you have marked every such passage in the four books, Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John. Particularly note Mark 11, verses 22, 23, 24. They will serve as samples of the verses you are to underscore and fix deeply in your consciousness.

4. Then commit the underscored passages to memory. Commit one each day until you can recite the entire list from memory. This will take time, but remember you have consumed much more time becoming a negative thinker than this will requires. Effort and time will be needed to unlearn your negative pattern.

5. Make a list of your friends to determine who is the most positive thinker among them and deliberately cultivate his/her society. Do not abandon your negative friends, but get closer to those with a positive point of view for a while, until you have absorbed their spirit, then you can go back among your negative friends and give them your newly acquired thought pattern without taking on their negativism.

6. Avoid argument, but whenever a negative attitude is expressed, counter with a positive and optimistic opinion.

7. Pray a great deal and always let your prayer take the form of thanksgiving on the assumption that God is giving you great and wonderful things; for if you think He is, He surely is. God will not give you any greater blessing than you can believe in. He wants to give you great things, but even He cannot make you take anything greater than you are equipped by faith to receive…

The secret of a better and more successful life is to cast out those old dead, unhealthy thoughts. Substitute for them new vital, dynamic faith thoughts. You can depend upon it–an inflow of new thoughts will remake you and your life.”

Pretty powerful thoughts huh?

I think a few tips or clarification might be helpful too:

1. When you are working on memorization, like memorizing the scripture verses Peale suggests, add a kinesthetic component like walking or bouncing a ball or jumping on a trampoline etc. There is something magical about moving and memorizing. The movement seems to make our minds function better and the words seem to stick faster and longer!

2. When working on number six, (countering negativity with a positive), consider where validation comes into play too. If someone is upset and spouting off and just needs to be heard, countering with a positive seems counter-productive to me. Instead, validating by listening using validating phrases and questions may be better. Chances are, in a few minutes the listened-to person will drop the issue and move on to finding solutions to the problem….being heard was all that was needed. Positive mental attitude “comebacks” can be distressing to someone who needs to be heard, not feel judged or like someone is trying to shift their thinking. In other times, be the “angel’s advocate” and spout off PMA statements to your heart’s content.

3. Craft declarations that will assist you in making this shift! If you’re like me, the whole idea of changing the way you’ve always thought can be totally overwhelming and the temptation to quit before starting can be great!! Statements like, “I can learn new ways of thinking” or “I am making progress on my new thinking patterns everyday!” will be helpful and support taking baby steps until real change is underway and your momentum is showing in the way you think, speak and act.

I have felt and seen this shift happen for me and others and I know it’s possible! I hope this reminder is helpful for someone out there today!

I wish you every good thing!

Love,

Jacque