Self-care ideas

Ideas and inspiration about the need to care for ones self

Learning Any Way


Whether we are telling our brains to think and speak well of ourselves and others, and we’re rehearsing positives on purpose day in and day out {and reaping the happy benefits} or, if we are telling our brains to listen to negatives and believe negatives and speak of negatives and rehearse negatives, {and suffering the outcome of that focus}, either way we are training our minds. 

So I guess the only question to ask oneself is: in which state do I want to live my life?

I love that starting-with-the-end-in-mind idea! Decide on the consequence you want and do what it takes to get it!

Here’s to cultivating- yes, that’s a verb, and verbs mean effort- a happy, healthy mind and heart that leads to a happy, healthy you.

What a joy it is to be around people who are in love.

Love to you!


Rx For Overwhelm


Do you ever wake up on Monday morning and hit a wall of overwhelm in your mind?

Feeling like you have too much to do?

Or new goals that you’re not sure how to incorporate into an already full schedule? It has happened to me on too many occasions!

I’d like to share with you the best way I know to nip that heavy feeling in the bud!

But first, see if you can relate to this pattern. To some degree a person might:

1 have challenging circumstances to face, or simply want to add in a new challenge on purpose.

2 begin entertaining thoughts of, “I don’t know how I’m going to manage this,” or “There’s no way I can add in one more thing.”

3 go into mental hyper-speed, considering the impossibility of the situation. (Nope, this temptation habit doesn’t go away when kids are out of diapers, so waiting for circumstance to change versus getting head clear on this process is delaying the inevitable!)

4 when the spinning thoughts reach overwhelm on the dial, circuits become jammed. By that I mean, the ability to receive inspiration and support and strength becomes sluggish or stops. It’s like a heavy lid has been placed over spiritual receptors and minds can swirl in a backwash of negative, limiting thoughts, inward and downward.

5 in lock-down and away from the source of help, a person can become fearful, angry, despondent.

6 begin to say cutting things, to self and others. Judge self for an inability to cope, judge others (mostly closest loved ones) for not getting how hard life is! {A person may even feel angry toward or betrayed by anyone who challenges them to a goal that seems like doing more, when their effort is actually to help them to be more.}

7 feel justified in bad behavior toward self and others in part because they are emotionally bleeding from self-inflicted wounds that come from cutting self-judgement and comparisons to those who seem happy and functioning. OUCH!

8 at this stage, life just gets plain hard. Tears. Hormone imbalance. Suffering.

Can you relate to this pattern? If you’ve never experienced it, I’m so glad! If you have or are, I hope the following will be a massive assist for you! Ready for the prescription?

It is simple. It takes next to no time. It is free. It can change everything in a matter of split-seconds. Anyone can do it.

In fact, it is so simple that you may be skeptical at the efficacy of the remedy. But here it is:

It’s a declaration.

Just one.

“I love my life.”

Would you read that and say it out loud?

“l love my life.”

Don’t try to qualify it in your mind, thinking of all the things that are wrong that need to be settled first before that sentence will be true.

Even if the garage needs cleaning.

Even if you are tired.

Even if the dishes have gotten away from you.

Even if you are moving through a period of grief.

Say the words. Let them be your mantra. Anytime your thoughts take a negative turn, cut into the mental chaos with these words, “I love my life.”

Your brain isn’t in charge. You are. Tell it what you want it to think.

On purpose, choose the mental path that will:

Stop the mental inward and downward spinning
Stop the comparisons
Stop the jamming of spiritual circuits
Stop the self-abuse
Stop the use of sharp words aimed at those you love

And start feeling the love. It’s there! It’s full of energy and light and inspiration!

The love (that is already around you everywhere) will broaden your mind and spirit. And being open to the love of God will put you on the receiving end of His abilities and strength!

It will multiply your abilities. It will strengthen your determination. It will guard you against spiritual enemies.

Love will lift your burden; help you to be loving and kind; draw others to your aid when you need assistance.

Love will strengthen your body and help you to move and circulate and assimilate and boost your immunity.

“I love my life.”

This short sentence is full of gratitude. It is goodness washing over you.

Love is the antidote for heaviness; rancor; strife; pain; frustration; anger and self-loathing, but we have to drink it in.

This beautiful Monday morning, I wish you love.

Please know how we need you! Your family needs you. Your friends and neighbors need you.

And society at large is being greatly blessed by your efforts to raise strong, capable, loving children.

“I love MY life!”

In part, because of you.

Have a wonderful week blessing the world my friend!


P.S. Using the declaration, “I love my life” may lead you to asking for greater help. If you feel so inspired, don’t delay in finding someone you can trust to talk to and receive any aid you may need. Depending on the need, you may find a therapist, a spiritual leader or a coach. “I love my life” means in part, not wasting time in letting go of burdens you can fly without; getting clear on boundaries; gaining greater understanding of your life experiences which will lead to greater peace and acceptance.

P.P.S. If, by chance, you feel inspired to fast from social media for awhile, think of the time you will gain to devote more time to feeding your soul! Spending more time in light means more energy and strength. This is addition, not subtraction! More! Multiplying your time, not dividing it. Just a thought to consider…

Servant Leader Loves


We sometimes get confused. We might ask ourselves, “If I commend myself for a job well-done, am I proud?” or “If I berate myself, does that make me humble?”

I’d say, no and no.

I just finished cleaning the kitchen. It was one job in the middle of 15 others that was calling for my attention this morning. But I am on a path of “first things first” and I knew that leaving dishes behind breakfast would be unsettling and detrimental to the rest of the day. So I took myself by the hand, shut out the clamor of other projects and needs making a play for my attention, and I led myself to the sink. When I finished, I said, in my head, “good job Jacque, you focused in and got the kitchen clean. Way to go!”

Is that prideful? No, it’s coaching. It’s acknowledging a small success that I plan to build upon today. It’s self-help at it’s finest to comfort and encourage oneself.

What if I had gone into a tirade about all the things that need to be done and beat myself up for not being further ahead or taking on too much or, or, or….. Would that be helpful? Would I feel enlivened and buoyed up? No!

Funny thing is, when we live in the negatives, when we cultivate a voice of despair and discouragement or self-loathing, that awfulness oozes out onto the people we love even thought we don’t want it to! We feel lousy about ourselves and aren’t they an extension of us? We criticize as a past time. We find fault out of habit.

Servant leadership is about true humility, which is knowing who we are in relationship to God, and being willing to be led and taught by Him, which leads to being filled with His love for ourselves and others.

We can serve best when we are in His love.

We must hear and correct the way we speak to ourselves if need be, in order to be in love!

What loving words do you have for yourself right now, today? Please, please say them! You deserve words that are encouraging and positive. Find them and say them, and let them spill out to your children and your spouse!

Sending you my appreciation for the love you give every day that makes the world better for us all! Thank you!



P.S. I would love to hear the words you come up with in the comments! Please share and inspire the Lioness community!


Worthy Pursuits


Any sacrifice you are making to teach and support and nurture and strengthen your family will pay you in the end. We’re here to grow together. Even the greatest pain- childbirth, temporary separation, saying you’re sorry and asking forgiveness, finding the strength to forgive; all will be nothing compared to the joy that comes to those who love.

“(Mortals) say of some temporal suffering, ‘No future bliss can make up for it,’ not knowing that Heaven, once attained, will work backwards and turn even that agony into a glory,…The Blessed will say, ‘We have never lived anywhere except in Heaven.'”

C.S. Lewis, The Great Divorce

Fight for your family’s success!

Keep going.

Heaven is cheering you on! Can you hear it?


Those Wrong Songs


I say “wrong” because they aren’t true, and I’m referring to the songs in our culture that worship people, even those we love.

The music that says, “If you leave me, I won’t have any reason to go on.”

Or, those that sing along the lines of, “If you decide to be unfaithful to me, it would kill me.”

I reject those messages. For those of us who put our faith and hope in God, they are wholly untrue.

Instead, I would suggest lyrics and declarations that speak of our commitment and steadiness. Of our decisions and behavior. Of the divinity of our souls and the eternal purposes of God. And of the strength that comes from putting good faith and hope in the promises and fidelity of others, with the understanding that because of humanness, we ultimately lean and depend on God and His promises to us.

If the day ever comes, or already has come, that someone you love abandons their commitment to you, or in some way is unfaithful, I hope you will determine now that you will stand in strength; find forgiveness, beauty and newness in life because of your faith in and dependence on your Heavenly Father. For ultimately, giving the responsibility of our happiness to another person is a misuse of our agent-hood.

We all make mistakes. We all fall short. Only He is worthy of all praise and adoration.

Love and blessings,


“With God all things are possible,” even surviving, rising, discerning, forgiving and healing. God bless you!