Self-care ideas

Ideas and inspiration about the need to care for ones self



“It’s always too early to quit.”
Norman Vincent Peale

And guess what? Everyone is tempted to do it sometimes!

Everyone has problems. Everyone has seasons of needing to push against a stiff wind.

Those people you see who seem to have a carefree life or marriage or career or children…don’t. None of those things are easy!

The people that you see who are happy and resilient are choosing to be happy and are learning to be more resilient.

Don’t fall for the smoke and mirrors of comparison.

We are all “going through” something! You’re not alone!

The deal is: in order to move beyond the current challenge, we have to keep walking forward. Keep learning, keep seeking, keep asking for help and perspective. And keep choosing to find the joy in your life.

I totally agree; it is always too early to quit.

All my love to you.


P.S. The mother of all declarations is one we would all benefit from speaking each day:
“I am a child of the God of the universe. I am loved by Him. I am His.”




What Do You Want?


What are the desires of your heart today? This month? This year?

Do you want to learn something new or start a new habit?

Do you want to get better at speaking kindly to yourself or exhibiting more patience with your kids? Do you want to learn a new language or read more or exercise more regularly?

Once you identify what you want, you just need to pick the actions or behaviors that will lead to that consequence.

Sometimes we think of the equation the other way ’round…we do what we do and hope the consequence will be good or at least not too painful.

But thinking first about the consequence we want, makes the path to getting there pretty clear.

Get the teacher, tutor or mentor. Make a plan with a friend to be accountability buddies. Identify someone who is a good parent and spend some time talking with them and observing their skills in action. Write a declaration about the joy of achieving your goal. Write out a list of kind words to say to yourself, put it in your pocket and read it out loud every time you eat {or some other thing you do multiple times during the day that will remind you to look at your list}. Decide on a simple reward for reaching your daily goal.

Whatever behavior will lead to the end you want, that’s the plan. You can change. I can change. We were designed to move forward.

Love to you!



You Can Fly


“Be like the bird who, pausing in her flight awhile on boughs too slight, feels them give way beneath her, and yet sings, knowing she hath wings.”    Victor Hugo

You are resilient and brave and up to facing the challenges in your life.

Be strong.

Love, love, love,


Break It Up


How many different ways can you think of to give your mind and body a rest?

The saying goes that a change can be as good as a rest, so at times simply changing the order or composition of your day might be a good idea!

But there are also times when you really need to be away for awhile! I’m referring to the times, minutes or hours or days, when you need to rest from the constant concerns and challenges that are about you each day. {They creep up don’t they, even when you don’t realize it!}

Here are a few ideas for you to consider. See if any of them might inspire you to schedule some down time in the next little while!

Spend an afternoon in the library
Schedule a massage and then keep the sitter long enough for a nap too
Plan an overnight getaway with your spouse at a location in your town or close by
Go to a place of worship and spend time elevating your thoughts
Go for a drive and see the signs of spring
Paint or draw or write about the things you are learning as a parent
Take a dance class
Go to a park with a friend to swing and talk
Take a class on something that interests you- feed your curiosity
Trade baby sitting regularly with a friend and know that each week you will have time to catch up or do nothing at all
Read a biography about someone who accomplished something great for humanity- take notes about what obstacles they faced and overcame

Being refreshed and renewed makes us so much more capable of dealing with life!

Don’t hesitate to create and take breaks regularly! This parenting gig isn’t a sprint, it’s a long, long run, so give yourself permission to rest at regular intervals.

Love to you!



Remember Her?


Do you remember the girl you were?

When hopefully, life was simpler and there were childlike joys to be found?


For some, even for many, there were also wounding times during childhood that, over time, can plague even the most stalwart, driven and loving heart.

And somewhere in all of the complexity of our minds and bodies, there can be lodged the untruths that may have accompanied those wounds.

No matter if you can relate to what I am saying or not, would you take a little challenge today?

I challenge you to write on a piece of paper the words, “I forgive” and slip it into your pocket.

Every time you are aware of that hidden note throughout the day, would you rehearse in your mind those two powerful words? “I forgive.”

And, during those rehearsals, at times add, “I forgive myself.”

This is one of the most powerful declarations I know. How much pain can be alleviated, sorrows forgot and truth revealed through claiming the power to forgive oneself {especially of the ill-placed blame that children sometimes carry with them into adulthood!}?

I pray for you. You who are carrying the weight and responsibility of nurturing the next generation. It is a great and blessed calling and a massive challenge that requires your health!

For you, for your marriage and for your children’s sake, please take good care of yourself today, inside and out.

Much love,


P.S. Having our minds in a space of forgiveness, openness, gratitude and humility calls down the blessings of heaven. And we all need heaven’s help. Maybe this exercise will simply make way for inspiration to come concerning the next step you can take on your healing path! Love you!