Self-care ideas

Ideas and inspiration about the need to care for ones self

Think Right


“Whatever your situation may be, you can improve it. First, quiet your mind so that inspirations

may rise from its depths. Believe that God is now helping you. Visualize achievement. Organize your life on a spiritual basis so that God’s principles work within you. Hold firmly in your mind a picture not of failure but of success. Do these things and creative thoughts will flow freely from your mind. This is an amazing law, one that can change anybody’s life including your own. An inflow of new thoughts can remake you regardless of every difficulty you may now face, and I repeat–every difficulty.”

“The secret to a better and more successful life is to cast out those old dead, unhealthy thoughts. Substitute for them new vital, dynamic faith thoughts. You can depend upon it–an inflow of new thoughts will remake you and your life.”

Norman Vincent Peale, The Power of Positive Thinking

Wow! So true!

Love ya!


P.S. I heard a teenage boy quote his dad on Father’s Day as saying,
“What do whiners get? Nothin’!”
It was funny, especially coming for a fourteen year old boy.
In like manner, I’d have to say,
“What do lazy thinkers get? Negative!”
If we want to improve ourselves and our circumstances, we must improve our thinking and that takes work and dedicated effort! But it can be done!

Feel The Power!


“Oh, I can feel it.” {Name that movie..}

What story are you writing with your words about your life today?

Are you feeling hopeful and thinking and speaking about the possibilities for growth and achievement in your life?

Are you thinking words of discouragement and defeat?

Are you speaking defamatory words of gossip or anger?

I am reminded over and over how powerful words can be. They create. They inform. They build. They destroy.

Today, I challenge you to use the power of your words to connect with someone; to lift and praise the efforts of a family member; to thank one person; to build your belief and faith and create the future you desire.

Sending you much love today!


More Than One Basket


Good morning! I hope this post finds you well and feeling optimistic about your life!

I want to tell you about a few things that have been helpful to me, speaking of feeling optimistic. If you have experienced times when it feels like the difficulty level of everything in your world seems to go up dramatically, you’ll know what I’m talking about.

First though, you realize that I am not a doctor and am not giving a prescription. The decisions you make for your health are your responsibility and yours alone.

So a word today about depression.

The risk factors as given by the American Psychiatric Association are:

  • Biochemistry: Differences in certain chemicals in the brain may contribute to symptoms of depression.
  • Genetics: Depression can run in families. For example, if one identical twin has depression, the other has a 70 percent chance of having the illness sometime in life.
  • Personality: People with low self-esteem, who are easily overwhelmed by stress, or who are generally pessimistic appear to be more likely to experience depression.
  • Environmental factors: Continuous exposure to violence, neglect, abuse or poverty may make some people more vulnerable to depression.

A holistic approach to dealing with depression then would be dealing with and improving as many of these risk factors as possible for the best possible, long-term solution.

Many of these issues can be life-long challenges that require a lot of determination to overcome. But even small changes toward greater health in these areas can make a massive difference!

It also means that they are difficult if not impossible to pull apart! Nature and nurture are working ’round the clock influencing each other! At every decision point, your genetics and your environment (and what you have learned to do to survive in that environment) are interacting and creating reality as you know it.

Much of what is published here at Lioness is about doing our best with these factors as they play into our daily family life. Declarations for instance, are a tool used to retrain our beliefs about ourselves and our situations. Working to care for ourselves so that we can care for our families makes all the difference in the world when it comes to abuse, neglect, poverty (of mind heart and home).

I’ll also add that chemically speaking, there are things you can do to improve and balance that risk factor. I wouldn’t recommend trying any supplementation while using prescription drugs. If you consult with the doctor that is prescribing them, who knows about the side-effects and behavior of those chemicals, then together you might add something else in to get the effects you desire. But always use common sense and caution when you are learning to help yourself.

Here are a few things that have helped me that I have wanted to share with you in case you might find them helpful too. {I am grateful to the friends and practitioners who told me about their success with alternative approaches to the imbalance I have experienced at times. So grateful!}

First, 5-HTP.

Wikipedia says it this way:

“5-Hydroxytryptophan (5-HTP), also known as oxitriptan, is a naturally occurring amino acid and chemical precursor as well as a metabolic intermediatein the biosynthesis of the neurotransmitter serotonin.”

and this,

“5-HTP is sold over the counter in the United StatesCanada, the Netherlands, and the United Kingdom as a dietary supplement for use as an antidepressantappetite suppressant, and sleep aid. It is also marketed in many European countries for the indication of major depression under the trade names Cincofarm, Levothym, Levotonine, Oxyfan, Telesol, Tript-OH, and Triptum.[1]

A 2002 review concluded that although the data evaluated suggests that 5-HTP is more effective than placebo in the treatment of depression, the evidence was insufficient to be conclusive due to a severe lack of high quality research.[2] More and larger studies are needed to determine if 5-HTP is truly effective in treating depression.”

You can continue to read about this supplement and see what you think. For me, it has been very helpful in helping me maintain greater balance, better sleep and generally feel more at ease.

Second, SAM-e.

This from the Mayo Clinic:

“-adenosyl-L-methionine (SAMe) is a compound found naturally in the body. SAMe helps produce and regulate hormones and maintain cell membranes.

A synthetic version of SAMe is available as a dietary supplement in the U.S. In Europe, SAMe is a prescription drug.

SAMe can be taken orally, intravenously or through a muscular injection. People generally use SAMe to treat osteoarthritis, liver disease and depression. However, SAMe can also interact with antidepressant medications.”

Certainly read further if this sounds like something you want to pursue. For me, I have felt greater balance, less anxiety and generally expending less energy trying to coach, comfort or pursuade myself to be calm and relax. Like I said earlier, the difficulty of every day life has gone down and what a lovely thing that is.

Another supplement that is a big player for many of us moms is magnesium.

I’ve tried many different brands and have found that the one most effective for me is Source Naturals magnesium malate in capsules.

Source Naturals Magnesium Malate 625mg, Supports Muscles and Energy Production,200 Capsules

Taken twice a day, I feel calmer, sleep better and digestion functions better too. Magnesium has also made a big difference in my body’s ability to produce energy. Cells require magnesium to produce energy, so if you are deficient, magnesium may be a help to you.

Combined with your best efforts to regulate the every day stresses in your life, doing your best to eat a healthful diet, remaining active and doing things that you enjoy doing, supplements can be a game-changer too.

I hope you are well my friend.

Please take good care of yourself today!



It’s Time to Grow!


It is time once again to launch the 7 Steps to Family Wellness Seminar! Another year has gone by and I’m hoping to have the chance to share these powerful principles with at least 10 more families! {Please see the Events page for more details about this year’s seminar with all it’s options, (distance and in person) then send me an email to reserve your spot!} We begin this coming Saturday, June 16th at 9:00am so don’t miss it!

A quick overview of the seven months we spend together:

Step 1 Take Charge of Thoughts and Vision

Step 2 Lighten Your Load

Step 3 Get Clear On Boundaries

Step 4 Primary Food and Self-Care

Step 5 Commit to Creating and Re-Creating Order

Step 6 Nutrition and Your Kitchen

Step 7 Meal Planning, Because Mealtimes Matter

Each month we meet for 1 1/2 hours. We learn about and discuss the step for that month. You take your workbook and binder home and work on specific assignments with your family’s help! When we get back together the next month, we report what we learned and what changes have been made! We learn so much from each other! Then we review the next step and repeat the process.

This has been a life-changing process for those who have attended this seminar series over the last four years. I’m hoping that year five will mean that my goal of assisting 30 families will become a reality! Help me reach my goal and your family will be blessed!

Here is a post from last year that gives a little peek into the heart of the program.

7 Steps Seminar Coming!

To those of you who have attended the Lioness at the Door 7 Steps to Family Wellness, seven-month seminar, may I ask a favor of you?

Would you think for a bit about the most important take away you had from your experience in seminar and share it in a comment here?

God willing, we will start the 2017 series this month and I’d love for those who are thinking about registering, to hear your favorite or most life-changing lessons.

Our 2016 groups were stellar and I love all of you!

Here is a sneak peek at what you will find in the 7 Steps Workbook:

“Now, if you’re a champion at hearing negatives, believing negatives, and feeling crippled and then paralyzed by negatives, you will have to understand that this process of learning to take control of your mind, or rather to redirect it over and over until the negative default habit is curbed,will actually make chemical changes in your body and you may encounter resistance to this new way of thinking.  Not to mention that since you have believed these untruths for so long, the truth may sound downright fake and utterly wrong!  That is, of course, more nonsense!  We are God’s children, full of promise and infinite value possessing the power to choose and to learn from our experiences.  It follows then that to progress, to move forward, we have to become our own best advocate, hear the blatant lies we have believed, and proverbially kick them to the curb!  We are Lionesses!  We are family leaders!  This is the battle to fight; the interior battle for peace within. Then we can begin to tackle other problems in our personal and family terrain.”

No more being victimized by negative thoughts. No more!”

That is a good reminder for me today. I hope it is good food for thought for you too.

If you know of someone who would thrive in seminar, please spread the word! I look forward to another growing year with another great group!


6 comments on “7 Steps Seminar Coming!”

  1. In a nutshell, the Lioness at the Door coaching program has been the best investment in almost 11 years of marriage. I felt drawn to it when I was pregnant with my third child and my husband was in his first year of an intense new career. I’m confident that it made the transition to three little boys infinitely smoother than it would have been, and it also prepared me for my recent transition from quitting my part time dream job that I loved to being a full time SAHM and feeling fulfilled, peaceful and even joyful with that decision and current reality.

    I am not a perfect mom, wife and homemaker now, but I am an EMPOWERED one. I’ve learned how to more fully take accountability for myself and my life and I feel like I have the tools, vision, perspective and support group (one of the best things about this!!) to truly be a “joyful mother of children.” For anyone that knows my background, that is a huge deal. Jaque’s coaching has helped me harness my ambition, drive, intelligence and other gifts and apply it in the most important arena in the world – my home. And to truly come to feel that this IS the most important arena in the world and feel challenged and fulfilled. I would highly recommend this to any mom looking for answers, looking for change, looking for hope, looking for direction, looking to be better (and isn’t that all of us??). I feel happier in my life than I ever thought I could, more empowered, purposeful and peaceful. Just do it – and REALLY do it – and you won’t regret it. It’s changed my life, and therefore the life of my family, forever (I hesitated to put that last sentence because it sounds cheesy, but it’s TRUE!!)

    • Thank you Heather, I am moved by your determination and dedication! It was a joy to have you in seminar and I am so grateful to live close and to be able to stay connected! Thank you for your friendship. xoxox

  2. I LOVED being part of the 2016 group, and I still think about what I learned. Daily I think about! I had so many take aways, #1 being that my role as a mother is POWERFUL and how I feel about ME directly reflects how I mother and what my children experience. Jacque helped me learn that to be the kind of mother we want to be, requires a bravery and strength that comes from within. It starts inside. It’s not about the perfect pantry or the pinterest worthy house. Although, she guides you through homemaking as well. But when your purpose is centered and your thoughts are aligned, you truly have POWER to change yourself and thus change your family for the better. My family is more unified and I am happier and feel stronger and more able after taking this course. She gives you concrete tools to use through out the month to practice and try so you can really SEE the difference in your home and in yourself! Nourishing the soul first gives you more power to serve and love with positive energy and clarity. Thank you so much Jacque! Take this course!!

    • Sarah, I am so happy to hear your voice! (I wish I could see you Provo ladies far more often!) Thank you for your kind words. Your work and efforts are the power and I applaud your desires to be your best! Thank you for all you contributed to the class as well. Love and miss you! xoxo

  3. I hope your next seminar can get started soon and I hope your recovery is going well! Sending lots of love your way! 🙂

    The biggest takeaway from the Lioness program (I can only choose one??? ;))
    I think would be my confidence as a wife and mom. Also a stronger belief in the importance of my role and my ability to fulfill it. Going through the steps gave me very practical teaching and skills, along with the support to make changes and become better. I think I could go through this program fifty times and still come out better than before and with a renewed desire to live up to my God given potential. I can’t say enough good things about Lioness, it has totally changed my life for the better!

    • Oh, thank you Heather! You put in the effort and did the work! So, so glad to have you as part of an incredible group last year. I feel changed by seminar each year myself. XO



Nope, not in a tin can. The kind that comes to your inbox! A parable if you will…

I’ve been amazed, as I’ve mentioned before, at the immoral sludge that lands in my spam folder. Who spends their lives writing or producing this stuff? Why? What is the point? I don’t understand it, but I’ve spent time deleting each one, ignoring them while getting them gone.

So, imagine my delight, when one day a while ago, I discovered that I could select a “bulk-action” to delete all of the garbley-gook from each “author” and see 20 messages disappear at once! Now it takes a short time for me to clean that file out in comparison to deleting each one individually. What used to consume five precious minutes, now only requires less than one!

So I ask you, what other time might be spent cleaning the proverbial house that could be shortened and far less painful?

How do you tesseract beyond the temptation to become discouraged or hateful or resentful and angry?

We fold the fabric of time and leap over the distance by declaring that we choose to handle the difficulty with God’s help and in His way. The moment that declaration and petition is made, heaven rushes in to aid and bless us! Negativity melts away and peace comes in. The desire to be defensive or contentious leaves and in it’s place a true sense of our own ownership in the creation of the challenging situation…and strength to bear the truth of our responsibility! No one person is to blame for any interpersonal struggle. We are co-creating and evolving our relationships in every moment, so much so that the end result cannot be cut apart, the bad divvied to one party and the good to another.

By being open to God’s way of seeing and by leaving judgement to Him, we can “delete 20 negatives” in one flail swoop, by cutting down the time we spend arguing or contending with ourselves or others!

May we look to His power, in those critical moments, to heal our thinking errors and our spiritual ailments.

We are here to have joy. We claim it in part by learning to defer our judgement of a situation by asking for divine guidance instead of putting up our defenses and our fists.

I send you my love and confidence that you are capable of moving forward in your life and of steadily growing into more and more light and goodness.

One subtle choice at a time.

Be well.


P.S. Maybe some of the inspiration you receive will be to seek out someone who can help you see your life and relationships more clearly. I am so grateful for those gifted folks who have and are filling that role for me!