Self-care ideas

Ideas and inspiration about the need to care for ones self

The Happy Equation

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If I am happy for the

Sunshine, and new leaves and

Blue sky and bright flowers; Or

Happy that I feel healthy

Today, or in love with my

Man, or exuberant about my

Children;

Will my happiness make someone else

Sad?  Is it alright to feel my

Joy even while others are

Suffering?  Yes!  There is a benefit to

The world from a happy life

Tipping the scales

Creating

Producing

Multiplying joy so

All can feel

God’s love-

Dear self; be happy and

Pass it along!

Unfold

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What is your favorite flower?

Think for a moment until you decide.  Then for a few moments, close your eyes and imagine watching that flower unfold, from a bud to becoming it’s most open, reaching, beautiful self!

Isn’t it glorious?  It just knows what to do and it’s blooming is accomplished almost as effortlessly and lazily turning over in bed or running your hands through your hair.  It naturally expands to it’s full blown beauty and just “is.”  It is naturally lovely it doesn’t have to try.  And so often, when I see a bush full of blossoms or a beautiful flower bed bursting with life and color, I imagine that all of nature is glorifying God and shouting Hosanna!

Now for a wild question:

Do you ever feel like a flower that is stuck closed, like you’re trying so hard to do everything right, but your petals won’t budge?

Like you don’t know how to push yourself out? (And are you ever afraid or anxious about actually beaming so much beauty around?)

Today, I challenge you to take 60 seconds to close your eyes and envision yourself while, breathing slowly and deeply, actually being your favorite flower.  Inhaling, envision yourself relaxing your petals, softening your face, then exhaling, see yourself begin to unfold.  You are colorful.  You are fresh.  You are alive.  You are doing what God made you to do; you are standing tall, fully extended, fully aware, with only peace and confidence to be what you already are.

Let peace come out of your smiling eyes and fall upon your children.  Let joy and radiance and adoration beam upon your husband.  In the vortex of your happiness, let the small daily tasks feel rewarding.  Feel the success of simply and naturally being who you were born to be.

Whether you are lily or iris, rose or peony, daffodil or tulip, be.

Effortlessly, be yourself.

Fill your home with color and fragrance and light and YOU.

Lots of love!

Jacque

In The Gap

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You know that moment when you really want to do something that you know isn’t good for you, and you feel yourself slipping into that semi-conscious state of not caring and then of not being fully awake in the moment you begin to indulge?

Like when sugar is calling… (Sorry, I realize that this may be a sensitive day for this post!)

But you know it could be one of a hundred things calling.  It could be indulging in despair or self-criticism or chocolate or sadness or *false guilt or narcotics or whatever vice rings especially “helpful” in the moment.

What is a girl to do?  Depending on your chemistry and your thinking habits, spending time in any one of these “pseudo coping options” could mean a loss of precious time and potentially loss of precious health or a loss of trust and intimacy in a relationship.

May I recommend making a list of diversions for such moments?  And when you feel the sliding begin, you know, just an inkling that the quick sand is close by, you can refer to your list and launch yourself out of harms way!  Fast!

It seems that often times, the need to be filled is simply dealing with some kind of boredom.  So giving yourself some productive task or permission to take a break, like a chance to take a walk and breathe fresh air or some other activity you enjoy, really fills in the gap nicely and can make a big difference at the end of the day.

Say the Easter candy is calling to you, (hopefully you didn’t buy a month’s supply and if so, hopefully you really won’t keep it in the house that long) but you realize that what you really need is a big drink of water and a diversion!  You need to put your headphones on and listen to your favorite movie soundtrack while you make dinner.

Or maybe, what you really need to do is tackle some small job that has been hanging over your head and causing you to feel undone in some way.  And just by tackling that you have the liberating feeling you need so that you can move on to something you really want to do!

What about getting that book you’ve been excited to read and giving yourself half an hour to read a bit?  Or what about giving your body a nutrient dense snack that helps you feel satiated and well-fed? (I’ve seen some pretty darn good recipes for peanut butter cups that you freeze! There is a recipe on this site for a whole food version that is very nutritious, but there are some out there with fewer ingredients and therefore easier to whip up!)

Which brings me to the last point which is: have healthy alternatives prepared for yourself and for your family!  Hey, if you have a choice between junk and food and they both are tasty, you can go for the good stuff and not have to chastise yourself later! And oh the joy of self-mastery!

By implementing some of these ideas, you will be creating an environment that supports your best interests, and that supportive environment can be a massively, powerful influence.

I pray for your health and well-being!

Love,

Jacque

P. S. What is *false guilt?  It is feeling guilty for not being perfect.  Not even close to Godly sorrow when you have really done something wrong, but just a time-wasting, miserable funk to jump into that is neither productive nor real.

P. P. S. If you have some luck with creating diversions, please share!

P. P. P. S My favorite diversion lately is a video I took of Garth dancing with and singing to one of our little granddaughters.  I find that I can’t help but smile at that!

P. P. P. P. S “He must reign until he hath put all enemies under His feet.”  He can enable our success.  Ask for His help! Happy Easter!

That Wreaks!

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Do you know someone who “wreaks” of self-care?

If not, can you imagine what that would look like?

Some words come to mind:

Moisturized; Rested; Fed; Nourished; Sparkling; Calm; Self-respecting; Combed; Clean; Dressed; Trimmed; Mended; Tended; Smiling.

I saw a little clip on Facebook of a woman getting out of bed and immediately going to her yoga mat to do some morning stretching and meditation, then she leisurely walked to an empty kitchen and poured some healthy tea.  All calm and quiet.

And I thought of all of the little mothers I know who most likely never walk to their kitchen alone in the morning!  (Our kids went to bed at 7:30 in the evening and got up early in the morning, so there wasn’t ever a quiet block of time with no distractions in the morning.  But evenings were great times for reading and writing and swimming class etc.)

Think of it, who in the world most needs a spot of calm and quiet to put their nervous system back together regularly? You!

How do you make it happen?  How do you create a small space of time when you can pray and meditate, stretch and exercise, calm your mind and think?

Is it an hour trading baby sitting with a neighbor?  Is it getting up a little before everyone else and enjoying a quiet time to start the day well?  Is it working something out with your spouse who might take charge of the kids while you care for yourself?

Please, envision what “wreaking with self-care” would look like and take steps to do what it takes to get there.  Your family will reap the benefits for years to come.

Love,

Jacque

“I lovingly care for myself, and then I can lovingly care for my family.”

 

Take Care

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One of the goals I accomplished last year, was to read a meditation every day from a book called, The Language of Letting Go, by Melody Beattie. It was a great help to me and I highly recommend it.

This week, my mom reminded me of one of the most profound pages:

“Rest when you’re tired.

Take a drink of cold water when you’re thirsty.

Call a friend when you’re lonely.

Ask God to help when you feel overwhelmed.

Many of us have learned how to deprive and neglect ourselves.  Many of us have learned to push ourselves hard, when the problem is that we’re already pushed too hard.  Many of us are afraid the work won’t get done if we rest when we’re tired.  The work will get done; it will be done better than work that emerges from tiredness of soul and spirit. Nurtured, nourished people, who love themselves and care for themselves, are the delight of the Universe.  They are well-timed, efficient, and Divinely led.

Today, I will practice loving self-care.

I am practicing taking better care of myself…I hope you will have success in being good to yourself now and in the days and years to come.  If you can learn it now, your family will be so much better off!!!

 

Love always,

Jacque