Self-care ideas

Ideas and inspiration about the need to care for ones self

Write Your Own Rx


What do you need today?

Someone to talk to? Inspiration? Relaxation? Some kind of decompression?

On any given day, give yourself what you need. Feeling too intense? Maybe you need some comic relief!

Know any good jokes? Have a favorite funny movie?

Maybe you are are feeling sluggish or head-achy. Maybe you need to focus on hydration!

When you are feeling blaaa, maybe you need some social time with a friend or a group of people! Instigate something, invite someone to go for a walk, call a friend, plan a gathering.

It’s easy to feel discontented or frustrated or lonely and not do something about it.

I challenge you to get good at asking yourself the questions that will help you to determine your state, and as quickly as you can, implement whatever remedy you need.

This is how self-care starts.

Have the conversation and move forward.

One of my favorite mantras from years gone by is, “don’t stay there!”

Be well my friend!





Self-validation sounds like this:

“My feelings matter and I care about my well-being.”

“I am kind, gentle, respectful and firm with myself.”

“I am worthy of  my own love and attention.”

“I am capable of making decisions for myself.”

“I can learn and I continue to challenge myself.”

Self-validation is evident in these behaviors:

I respect my body, my limits and my needs. I put good food and nourishing drinks into my body.  I move and exercise in ways that are fun to me. I keep myself groomed and clean. I dress myself in clean and well-fitting clothing. When I need help, I ask for it.

In relationships, validation looks like this:

I give my family and friends the benefit of the doubt and am gracious in my interactions with them. I am kind, gentle, respectful and firm as a parent and leader. I am respectful of others even when they aren’t present. I honestly want to learn and progress and want my relationships to grow. I am dedicated, loyal and thoughtful.

As I’ve mentioned before, the principles of validation take practice, practice and more practice. The good news is that as long as we are drawing breath, practice opportunities abound!

Start with yourself, and you will see that when you feel validated, validating others will come naturally and with ease.

All my love and best wishes for your success!


Whipped Body Butter


My dear friend made some of this yummy stuff and shared it with me! When I got to the bottom of the jar, I asked for the recipe! It is delectable! Such a wonderful self-care item to have on hand. It smells divine and feels even better. I hope you’ll try it!

It is extremely easy to make. Just four ingredients in equal parts:

Olive oil, coconut oil, cocoa butter and shea butter. {Yesterday I used, 1 cup of each.}

Melt them together in a saucepan on low heat, just until they are dissolved.  Then put the pan in the fridge until the oils and butters are set. {I let it chill overnight.}

Take them out of the fridge and let them sit for a few minutes, 20-30, or until the mixture has warmed-up enough to break up with the mixer. Then, using a hand mixer, whip the oils until they are all light, which doesn’t take long at all, maybe 2 minutes.

{You can add a few drops of your favorite essential oil blend to this, but we opted not to add oils to this batch, because some of us use this cream on our faces, and didn’t want to chance having the oils being too hot for that use.}

Put into jars and share with friends!

I hope you are taking good care of yourself!



Take Care


“There is a place in our hearts that will put us on the right course with people and ourselves.  That place is willingness

to make amends, willingness to achieve healing in our relationships with people, and willingness to find the gift.

When we achieve that place, when the idea of willingness begins to enter our minds, even before it has worked its way down into our hearts, it’s already beginning to happen. We are beginning to open ourselves to the reparation, healing, and love available to us in our relationships.  We are ready to begin to love ourselves, and others, unconditionally….we become willing to love and take care of ourselves.”

Codependents’ Guide to The Twelve Steps, Melody Beattie



Moving On


I saw a funny the other day that said, “Is it just me, or did June and July last for like five minutes?”


And it’s so true!

This summer has flown by for me. It’s been challenging and good.

And now it’s that time to start thinking about new schedules and school clothes and braces and ball camps and cheer practice and a new schedule for piano lessons and, and, and so much more!

So, just a few thoughts as you launch in:

1 Pick the most important things! Kids don’t need to do everything at once, but they do need time to be kids.  Set a limit to the extra’s your children can chose, and then save time through the school year to read together and eat together and stay caught up with each other. Your time and attention is what they need and want most, so let your own schedule be geared toward their comings and goings if at all possible. You won’t regret it in the long run. There are precious, extremely valuable moments to share in the mornings, right after school, at bedtime most especially.

2  Set some new goals for yourself! How are meals going?  Would you like to get  good at having meal plans? There is a three-part blog post, Menu Planning 101, from March of 2014, that walks you through the steps of creating a plan.  Check it out and put it to use if that is something you would like to incorporate into your life. It makes things easier! No more stressing over what to make for dinner each night!

3  Continue your education.  What would you like to learn this school year? What books would you like to read?  There is a Lioness library page that has some suggestions for books on marriage, parenting, health, gardening, etc. I hope to offer some good food for thought!

4  Make a plan early for your Christmas giving and start working!  I have a goal this year to be relaxed in December.  That means I have some granny squares to work on tonight before I go to bed!

5 Love your life as it is now.  Whatever stage you are in and whatever age your children are, find the positives and marinate your mind in them! Accept what is and breathe.  Chances are, there is much to enjoy now, and no need to borrow worry for tomorrow.

6 If you would like to move yourself forward over the next six months, consider health coaching! Lioness offers in person and distance coaching in six-month programs. When you have accountability and support, it’s amazing what you can accomplish!

Happy end of summer!  I hope you are well and getting ready for what’s around the corner for you, whatever that will be.

Love, love, love,