Self-care ideas

Ideas and inspiration about the need to care for ones self

Happy Day

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Someone asked me the other day what my favorite color is.  And I didn’t know! I used to say periwinkle.  I do love that subtle, dreamy color!  But as I thought about it, now, I’m in love with a color I cannot really name.  It’s deep and rich and pink and peach and almost copper-ish.  Can you imagine it?

What is your favorite color? What is your favorite book?  Movie? Game? Vacation? Music? I’d encourage you to think about those questions and really answer them.

Then, consider what helps you to feel pampered.  What would you buy or make or do or schedule into your day that would give you that “drenched in self care” feeling?

Maybe a list of these things hanging in full view would be a motivation to you and possibly inspiration to your loved ones to help you make some of these self-care items happen!

We attract others to us when we care for ourselves. This is one of our feminine gifts. Instead of chasing people down, our children, our spouse maybe even friends or colleagues, we can concentrate on relaxing, accepting what is and finding our happy thoughts! Who doesn’t want to be around someone in that state of being?

On the other hand, who wants to be around tight, stressed, edgy energy that may snap at any moment? (I’ve been there a-plenty, and maybe you can relate, but we can, little by little shift things up!)

Want to test this out?  If you find, or already know that this principle of drawing others to us is a truth, please comment and share your discoveries!

I wish you a wonderful week ahead.  May you have the strength and courage to continue to move forward, even if it is by tiny baby steps.

God bless us all.

Love,

Jacque

Letting Go

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What if….

What if life is a long time and you will not miss out on a thing when it comes right down to it?

What if what you are doing right now is so important and so unique to you that it truly trumps any other major pursuits at the moment?

What if there will come a day when you will bless the things that are challenging you now?

What if you are actually, really and truly, never alone?

What if your “wings” are getting stronger with each push against the “egg” you are trying to break?

What if there are more rewards, more smiles, more sighs, more laughter, more adventure in the days ahead than you have ever imagined?

What if right now, you could let go of your pain, your worry and your grief and it would be ok?

What if you went to a quiet place and asked yourself what can I do next to lighten my load and then you acted on the answer?

What if you are lovable and kind and gracious and lovely just the way you are today?

What if….?

I pray you will do what is necessary to care for yourself today and nurture the dream you have for tomorrow!

May your journey be bright and true!

Love,

Jacque

Fight Smarter!

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I’ve been thinking a lot about yesterday’s post and the idea that it may not be enough to speak our declarations each day.  According to Mr. Peale, we have to take them to another level, like 10 notches up if we want to gain the self-mastery, confidence, health and the “creative faith” we desire.

So what does that look like?  What does it mean?

I’m thinking that it means that I am posting my declarations in multiple locations.  It means that I will go back to using grand music in the background as I say them.  It means I will begin again to carry them on my person, probably on a note card in my pocket.  (That is a powerful habit, not sure why, but it really does well to remind you many times through the day, what you have chosen as your focus.)

It means that I’ll give myself permission to obsess about the positives!  To sound like a nut, contradicting the odds, seemingly denying the present state of affairs and keeping my gaze on only the present positives and the future I want to create.

It means rolling up our sleeves and getting seriously settled in the driver’s seat.  It means getting a little feisty about what conversations we intentionally have and recognizing how we feel more often. It means kicking up our self-care even higher and gratefully accepting more help when we need it.

Too often, we make minuscule efforts to guard our minds and hearts and then wonder at the unfairness when we get solidly knocked to the ground by a difficult challenge or even by a fleeting negative thought!

More ammunition!  More energy in preparation!  More “creative faith!”  More determination!  This is where we put our “stubborn!”  We plant our feet and say to the powers that be: This is where I stand, and I will not be moved from my chosen path.

God bless us each to catch the vision of our personal power and then to use that power to move heaven and earth to fulfill our personal missions here.  If it is right, God will grant our desires if we ask in faith.

You’re amazing!!  And I send your my love and confidence.

Be well!

Jacque

 

Heaven Sent

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I was severely challenged today, mind and body, and several things were sent from heaven.

A compassionate friend, who stopped to say hi and I’ve been thinking of you, how can I help? What a soothing balm a friend can be!  And at the right time and with the right heart, they come straight from God!

And, that kindness prepared me for a paragraph from Norman Vincet Peale, The Power of Positive Thinking:

“…expect the best at all times.  Never think of the worst.  Drop it out of your thought, relegate it.  Let there be no thought in your mind that the worst will happen.  Avoid entertaining the concept of the worst, for whatever you take into your mind can grow there.  Therefore take the best into your mind and only that.  Nurture it, concentrate on it, emphasize it, visualize it, prayerize it, surround it with faith.  Make it your obsession.  Expect the best, and spiritually creative mind power aiided by God power wil produce the best.

Be specific.  Ask God for any right thing, but as a little child, don’t doubt.  Doubt  closes the power flow.  Faith opens it.  The power of faith is so tremendous that there is nothing that Almighty God cannot do for us, with us, or through us if we let Him channel HIs power through our minds.

I expect the best and with God’s help will attain the best.”

I give thanks for answered prayers,(and most likely these were the answers to my husband’s prayers as much if not more than mine.)

I am learning that I need to work on nurturing, concentrating, emphasizing, visualizing, obsessing and surrounding my declarations with faith!

I pray you will be determined and blessed to meet your challenges with faith and strength!

Love,

Jacque

P.S. As I close this post, I am being flooded with recognizing so many tender mercies.  Some small and simple. And then the really big ones, such as an amazing husband and supportive parents and wonderful children, and dear friends and, and…I truly won’t ever be able to list them all. xo

Surrounded by Decision

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Hey there my friend, I surely hope you are doing well!

I’ve been working on decision-making in the form of time-blocking.  That’s the Lioness term for time-management because it sounds more like me making decisions about my time vs. trying to adhere to a pre-made management system which would just make me crazy! (I have found that I am not alone when it comes to having some stubbornness present itself when it comes to making a plan.  Even when it is our own plan, often we feel the need to rebel, let alone if we feel that the schedule we have has been put upon us as someone else’s idea!)

My challenge, as always, is that there are so many things I want to do!  But what I’ve learned from doing this for 20 years or so is that when I make a plan, I generally get much more done and get to do many of those things on my long list of interests to pursue, than if I just go with the flow.  Or maybe I could say, if I just let things happen to me and I don’t take the lead in my own life, I don’t make much progress.

Last week I thought, I’d like my home to scream “decisiveness” all over the place, from the cupboards to the flower beds!  (This thought was inspired by a pile of clutter on my counter that was reminding me of my own indecision everytime I walked by it…and the fact that I have been on quarter speed or so for awhile!)

When I set things up so that my environment supports my goals, I don’t have to pull myself up by the bootstraps every day and figure out what needs to be done next!  So really, time-blocking, or making decisions about what you will do when, means needing to make fewer decisions in the long run.  And I am so good with that.

The biggest key for making the most of your time and energy is making a few large decisions first:

What is most important to me?

What do I want to accomplish in the next ______ weeks, months or years?

Knowing the answers to those questions makes the rest of the plan a filling-in-the-blanks exercise.

If I want to have handmade gifts ready for Christmas, I’d better get them identified and broken down into what I’m going to work on when.  (This month it is finishing a granny square afghan.)

If I want to have my closet in the laundry room re-organized, I’d better decide when I’ll do it and how long it may take. (And possibly enlist moral support! Carli!!)

If I want to get back in the groove of making date nights a priority, I’d better get some planned out and start talking about them and enjoying the anticipation!

There is much that we can’t control in our day to days.  The actions and decisions of others for instance.  But when we are doing what we can to direct our own lives, we are much less likely to feel compelled to want to control people and situations that are not ours to control.  Directing my life means doing my best to multiply myself and taking advantage of the opportunities I have to multiply goodness for others.

Are there decisions you can make today that will help you take another step forward?

Sending you my love and best wishes!

Jacque