Self-care ideas

Ideas and inspiration about the need to care for ones self

Summer Feet

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Do you wear sandals a lot in the summer?  Or do you go barefooted?  I’m not much into shoes myself, and wear sandals every chance I get, or better yet have bare feet during the summer months.

But it seems like the less I wear shoes, the more the skin on my feet gets dried out.

Something I stumbled onto is a simple foot soak that really softens cracked or calloused skin.

All you need is warm water and Epsom salts.  Get some kind of shallow pan and fill it with water as warm or as hot as you like it, then add 1/4 – 1/2 of the salt.  Aaaah, soak your feet and enjoy being pampered a bit.

When the water has cooled, or you’ve soaked your feet for at least 10 minutes, dry them off and be amazed at how hydrated your skin will look and feel!

Super simple and inexpensive self-care. Add clay facials and essential oil steaming and it could be fun to invite your daughters or friends to join you to have a fun home spa afternoon!

I hope you have a great summer on the horizon!

Love,

Jacque

P.S. For steaming: Put very hot water in a metal bowl, scatter a few drops of your favorite essential oils or blends on top. Then,, quickly tent your head with a towel and with your face in the rising steam, take deep calming breaths.  Aaaaah.

Take a Break

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What do you like to do for a break?

And, more importantly than that, do you know when you need one?

Here are a few thoughts on that topic:

First of all, who knows first when we are tired and ornery?  Not us!  It’s usually information that settles on us as we see a reflection of our own frustration and confusion in the faces of our spouse and children.  Have you ever experienced that phenomenon only to be delusional enough to think that it’s everyone else that needs help and an attitude change…not you?

So there’s a clue: when it seems that the whole world has gone crazy, maybe we ought to glance in the mirror and see what’s going on with us!  Are we overly tired?  Dare I say, hormonal?  Perhaps grieving for some reason?  Or feeling helpless or distressed?

Sometimes we have a feeling that we can’t understand. Where did it come from?  Why did it surface now?  And what do we do to get back to feeling Ike ourselves?

The best thing that I know is to think backward.  What were you thinking about in the last five minutes? Ten minutes?  Or the last hour?  Have you taken on someone else’s problems or discouragement?  Have you been under the influence of rapid fire negative or evil thinking?  Think back, did you believe what you heard?

Once you identify the genesis or your current state you can correct your thinking errors and replace those negative and ugly lies for beautiful and hopeful truths!  Almost instantly, the light will turn back on in your mind and heart you will be able to move forward again.

Sometimes we can recognize that we need a break by feelings of apathy.  When we’re overly tired, it is hard to care about anything isn’t it?  And that state of mind is no good when it comes to being present with our children and our spouse and friends.  And it feels rotten!

So a break.  What do you do?  Do you have ideas to share?  (Please do!)

My favorites are:

Riding a bike.  Since that day my dad let go of the seat and I rode off down the road balancing myself, I have loved feeling wind in my hair and  and the gentle motion of gliding down the street.  I love it that biking gets me places faster than walking and I love the exercise too.

Reading a good book.  Oh man, isn’t it dreamy to go places and get to know people without ever leaving home?  Reading is such a ticket “out” of our own story and into someone else’s.  And oh the perspective and clarity we can gain by observing our own lives from the vantage point of someone in another time and place.  During the years that I chose to be close to my little ones most of the time, I read biographies of people who inspired me and helped me to dream of the things I would like to accomplish in my life when the time was right.  And who can resist a sweet love story?

Journaling.  Talk about perspective!  Writing out your thoughts can be extremely therapeutic and trans-formative.  (If you’re worried about someone seeing something youv’e written that you think might be disturbing to them, write it on a loose piece of paper and then burn it after you’ve purged your soul!) Most often, we just need the opportunity to look back and get a sense of our own progress.  Journals are therapy in the writing and in the reading later.  Greatest treasure I have in my home is years of my life written in my own hand.

Talking to a friend.  Ever notice how being with friends lifts your spirits and rejuvenates  you without even trying?  I hope you have a few or a lot of connections to people who are positive and moving forward in their lives!  And if for some reason you don’t allow others into your life, those who could be a support and strength for you, maybe talking to a good therapist would be helpful.  (Speaking from experience, there are times when, for good reasons we keep to ourselves and we may need help in resetting our boundaries to allow friends and loved ones “in.” )

Prayer,  Have you ever felt that your soul was parched and dry and after prayer felt that you had been in a gentle spiritual rain?  The spiritual power of prayer can truly change the night to day and restore us physically and emotionally as well.  Pour out your heart to God and let Him lead you along your path with confidence that He will answer your petitions and  help you get your needs met.

Dance in the kitchen.  Tell silly jokes.  Play catch in the backyard.  Jump on the trampoline.  Swing on a park swing.  Make popsicles.  Sit on a garden bench.  Dig in the dirt or weed a garden.

Give of yourself.  Sometimes just turning our minds to think of the needs of someone else is restorative to us.  Going out of our little space to minister to someone who needs help is the greatest balm I know.  Is there an elderly friend who needs a letter or a visit?  Someone who is living far from home that you could reach out to?  Turning outward unlocks the doors of loneliness and overwhelm that can so easily threaten our days.  Imagine a swirling, spiraling line on a paper going in and in and in, getting smaller and smaller, then mentally stopping the pencil, and making it go in the opposite direction, spinning out and out and out, is a good analogy of getting in a rut of self-absorption vs. the liberation of expanding our lives to include others and their wants and needs.

Funny isn’t it, that we can be all about ‘other’s needs’ as we care for our children, and yet still manage to get caught in the trap of isolation when we, as we are caring for others, pity ourselves, thus becoming isolated from the people and places that would give us respite and strength to continue to care for our own?

It’s just one day at a time.  Little by little.  We gain experience and learn how to best spend our strength and live out the days God has given us. Taking breaks as we need them so that we can be happy now.

Much love to you,

Jacque

 

Keep It Handy!

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Don’t you love being able to help your family with simple, natural remedies?  It is quite thrilling to me!

One of my favorites is Redmond clay.  I use it daily for one thing or another, and I think you’ll find it handy if you haven’t discovered it already.

First, I’ve already used it twice today (and it’s still morning).  I used my cream deodorant and then “powdered” with clay.  Then, I put a teaspoon in a shaker cup of 8 oz. water and shook it and drank it about an hour before breakfast.  I continue to do all I can to heal gut issues, and clay is an important tool for accomplishing that.

For burns, there is nothing better, just make sure to keep it wet by putting plastic over it. You don’t want it to dry out over a burn! I have had this bottle in my kitchen for years (as you can see) with clay made into a gel so that I can have it at a moments notice for first aid.  I also keep some in my car.

As a facial mask, it is lovely and only takes about five minutes until it is ready to be wiped off with a warm, wet washcloth.

It makes an amazing, drawing foot soak.  Just put a few tablespoons in a pan of hot water and soak those tired feet!

We use it as a diapering powder.  It works very well for diaper rash!  Better than anything else I know of.

I use clay for making cream deodorant.  And for dry shampoo because it absorbs oil and dirt.  Here’s an easy recipe to try:

Dry Shampoo Recipe

4 Tbs dry clay

1 Tbs cornstarch

15 drops of your favorite essential oil blend

Mix the ingredients together and put in a clean salt shaker.  You can then either shake the powder directly on to your scalp in small amounts, or shake the dry shampoo onto a cotton ball and dab a little on your scalp in sections. After a few minutes, brush it out.

Clay is used for electrolyte replacement, as a mineral supplement, for acid reflux, colitis, bee stings, acne, ulcers, eczema, shingles, sores that won’t heal and has many other uses.

For more information on using clay you can read Our Earth, Our Cure by Raymond Dextreit. You can also get a copy of a booklet called, We Eat Clay, by Neal E. Bosshardt, from Redmond Clay and Salt Company.  It is full of stories and experiences people have had using clay for a myriad of different ailments. Very interesting and inspiring!

I wish you health and happiness!

Jacque

As with any ideas offered at Lioness, you know that I do not intend to prescribe or treat illness in any way. You are in charge of your family’s health and must become confident and educated about any therapies you try. Be well!

Happy Day

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Someone asked me the other day what my favorite color is.  And I didn’t know! I used to say periwinkle.  I do love that subtle, dreamy color!  But as I thought about it, now, I’m in love with a color I cannot really name.  It’s deep and rich and pink and peach and almost copper-ish.  Can you imagine it?

What is your favorite color? What is your favorite book?  Movie? Game? Vacation? Music? I’d encourage you to think about those questions and really answer them.

Then, consider what helps you to feel pampered.  What would you buy or make or do or schedule into your day that would give you that “drenched in self care” feeling?

Maybe a list of these things hanging in full view would be a motivation to you and possibly inspiration to your loved ones to help you make some of these self-care items happen!

We attract others to us when we care for ourselves. This is one of our feminine gifts. Instead of chasing people down, our children, our spouse maybe even friends or colleagues, we can concentrate on relaxing, accepting what is and finding our happy thoughts! Who doesn’t want to be around someone in that state of being?

On the other hand, who wants to be around tight, stressed, edgy energy that may snap at any moment? (I’ve been there a-plenty, and maybe you can relate, but we can, little by little shift things up!)

Want to test this out?  If you find, or already know that this principle of drawing others to us is a truth, please comment and share your discoveries!

I wish you a wonderful week ahead.  May you have the strength and courage to continue to move forward, even if it is by tiny baby steps.

God bless us all.

Love,

Jacque

Letting Go

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What if….

What if life is a long time and you will not miss out on a thing when it comes right down to it?

What if what you are doing right now is so important and so unique to you that it truly trumps any other major pursuits at the moment?

What if there will come a day when you will bless the things that are challenging you now?

What if you are actually, really and truly, never alone?

What if your “wings” are getting stronger with each push against the “egg” you are trying to break?

What if there are more rewards, more smiles, more sighs, more laughter, more adventure in the days ahead than you have ever imagined?

What if right now, you could let go of your pain, your worry and your grief and it would be ok?

What if you went to a quiet place and asked yourself what can I do next to lighten my load and then you acted on the answer?

What if you are lovable and kind and gracious and lovely just the way you are today?

What if….?

I pray you will do what is necessary to care for yourself today and nurture the dream you have for tomorrow!

May your journey be bright and true!

Love,

Jacque