Self-care ideas

Ideas and inspiration about the need to care for ones self

Focus Challenge


I was reminded today that focusing on pain is easy.

While oftentimes focusing on feeling good takes more effort.

Probably because pain makes noise! But isn’t it ironic that 9/10’s of our body might feel just fine, even good, and yet that one muscle or nerve that is causing a pain signal to be occurring in our brain jumps to center stage of our awareness and has a spotlight on it! Or, most things in our world might be humming along well, but that one issue with that one child for instance, might be crowding out our awareness of all else.

The problem is that by focusing on the pain or the problem, we can create more of it.

Our muscles tighten, blood flow is restricted we fatigue and often the pain intensifies. Or, we get so focused on correcting a behavior problem that we don’t draw attention to what behaviors are adding joy to the family!

So here’s a challenge:

Every time you become aware of pain in your body or realize that you are feeling overly frustrated or challenged, gently turn your attention to what is feeling good, what is working well, or something about which you feel calm and confident.

And for a few seconds, 30 might be a good goal, focus on those things by thinking deeply about them and the ways they make life enjoyable and meaningful for you.

Of course, take care to do what you can to alleviate what may be wrong and get the help you or someone else may need.

But consider the power of intentionally shifting focus, even for a few seconds, to build more awareness of all that is right, and thereby grow a feeling of wellness and strength.

I am amazed by you! You are a force for good!





Sometimes we are afraid of being aware.

Maybe we will discover what we don’t want to know about ourselves or others.

{What if I don’t think I can handle what I might find?}

Coming into greater clarity might mean:
Seeing your home as it really is;
Coming to understand a challenge someone you love is facing;
Becoming aware of destructive thoughts you may be habitually thinking;
Getting clearer about changes that need to happen in order to move forward.

I offer this reminder to us, as we are all hopefully in the process of heightening awareness, that there is Someone standing behind us, always with us, who will never leave us and delights to comfort and nourish us; that He is not found in things or any possessions; that no mere mortal can replace.

With His strength and power and love, we will have or gain the ability to see, to feel, to rejoice, to grieve, to learn, to risk, to accept and to change.

Knowing He is there makes all the difference.
Knowing we are loved helps us see purpose and growth in pain.
Knowing we’re not alone keeps us present and working through our “stuff” instead of retreating into fear, hiding, compulsion and addiction.

He is our friend, and awareness is a gift.

God give us the strength to be shown ourselves, as we really are so that we can take inventory and move on!




Living Things


What are the important things in your life that require constant nourishment?

Your children?

Your pets?

Houseplants and gardens?

What about the intangible things? Those living things that require incredible amounts of energy and focus…

Your marriage relationship. Your relationship with your children, your parents, your siblings, your friends. Your health. Your faith. Your vision. Your goals.

These other living things are most worthy of our attention. Our deliberate maintenance, fostering connection and care. Who have you become because of your experiences with your family? What have you come to know through your experiences with God? When is His voice most clear to you? Do you keep those things ever before your face and on your heart? Do you record your most important thoughts and the inspiration you receive? Do you have bolstering declarations posted so that you can see them regularly to work on your beliefs and mindset every day?

Sometimes, I find myself thinking of these life-affirming blessings as common place; but then I’m reminded that they are the real sustenance of my life and should receive my greatest gratitude and efforts!

I hope you are well. I hope you will nourish, constantly nourish, your soul, your body, and then your loved ones and everyone and everything within your sphere of influence.

Much love to you!


“Stand still…but first remember, remember the signs! Say them to yourself when you wake in the morning and when you lie down at night and when you wake in the middle of the night. Whatever strange things may happen to you, let nothing turn your mind from following the signs. And secondly, I give you a warning: here on the mountain, I have spoken to you clearly. I will not often do so down in Narnia. Here on the mountain, the air is clear and your mind is clear. As you drop down into Narnia the air will thicken. Take great care that it does not confuse your mind. And the signs which you have learned here will not look at all like you expect them to look when you meet them there.
That is why it is so important to know them by heart; and pay no attention to appearances. Remember the signs and believe the signs; nothing else matters. And now Daughter of Eve, farewell.”  The Silver Chair, C.S. Lewis

On Courage


“Crying is alright in it’s way, while it lasts, but you have to stop sooner or later and then you still have to decide what to do.”
The Silver Chair, C.S. Lewis

And you can. And you will.

“I am courageous.”
“I take appropriate risks.”
“I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” {Phillipians 4:13}

I think you are absolutely incredible. You inspire and amaze me.
Keep being your strong, meek, direct, loving, tender, amazing self.


Becoming Behavior


I heard this quote years ago and it still moves me to action.

“The difference between who you are and who you want to be is what you do.”

So I ask myself, what one little thing could I do today that will help me get closer to the version of me that I want to become? Hmm, several simple things come to mind like listen to the songs I’m working on learning; print out the pictures I found for my vision board.

What is one little thing you could do today that will help you become who you want to be in the future?

Little is key.

Little makes all the difference. And little isn’t overwhelming!

Whatever comes simply and quickly to mind, let’s do it shall we?

We’ll be making progress toward our highest good.

I wish you well!