Self-care ideas

Ideas and inspiration about the need to care for ones self

“I Welcome Rest”


Do you ever feel torn between getting some rest and tackling a project or catching

up on something that you haven’t had a chance to get to yet?

I feel for that dilemma, I’ve had it many times myself.

What I am learning in my age is that there isn’t much that is worth exhaustion or mental or physical fatigue the following day.

And come to think of it, usually the equation isn’t really about accomplishing things, but more about having an attitude about “not having the time” you want to do the things you want. Am I right?

Hear the martyr in this equation?

In essence it’s saying, “I have to sacrifice feeling well and rested, in order to do my thing and keep up.”

But, what if your un-rested self is hard to live with come morning? Or the feeling of victim-hood flowing out to all the household is in turn putting the people that “take” your time in the perpetrator role?

Eeek. If any of this rings true for you, I’d say maybe it’s time to make a little mental shift. Kids don’t need to feel as though they are the cause of your frustration. Your spouse doesn’t need to feel burdened by a feeling of resentment coming from across the table. And you, you don’t need to run faster than you have strength.

Yes, there are times of illness or other circumstances that encroach on a mother’s sleep, but when it is up to us to rest or stay up too late because we can, I’d say, go for the rest! And yes, sometimes a rest can be just a change of scenery or a little break of some kind!

Ultimately, those things that need to be done {which are far fewer than we usually think} will eventually get done. Those that aren’t terribly important will fall away. There are times and seasons for all good things, and before you know it this fleeting season will have passed by.

Please welcome the rest you need. Consider your health and the resultant resilience you will enjoy! And how much you can accomplish when you are truly rested and fresh.

This is yet one more way that your self-care is a large blessing to your family!

Love to you!


Coming Soon!


Coming soon to Lioness is a stunning bouquet of declarations set to music and illustrated with inspiring pictures! The intent is to fill your mind with words of truth about who you are with music that will bring those words to life and make them mentally “sticky” along with colorful visions about your creative journey and a reminder of the beauty of each day. I will challenge you to watch or listen to the video daily and let the messages lift your spirits and train your brain.

Can’t wait to share it with you!

Meanwhile, how is this week going for you thus far?

May I challenge you to set a timer on your phone at several intervals throughout the next few days to remind yourself to take a few deep breaths? To lower your shoulders and relax your jaw? In those few moments, also consider running a few hand-picked declarations through your mind that will keep you on track with your current goals. They might be as simple as,
“I am smiling at my children,” or
“I am moving forward” or
“I am calm and happy.”

By deliberately using your agent-hood, you will diminish the temptation to feel like a martyr taking up the slack or like a victim to the circumstances of your life.

Your words are your power.

Love always,


Focus On Joy!


Is there a challenge in your life that has you nervous or scared?

Are there gatherings to plan or lessons or exams or late nights or difficult days coming up?

I have been reminded that focusing on the difficulties, the soul-stretching experiences that we aren’t quite sure we’ll survive, can expand our anxiety and make our burden heavier.

But, when we focus on the joyful outcome of our labors, we are lifted and strengthened and all is joy now!

To you little mothers especially, hold in your mind the joy of seeing your children growing and becoming their best selves! They will grow out of tormenting each other and become loyal friends; they will return again to you with gratitude; they will give you many, many reasons for gladness along with the sleepless nights and challenging days that are part of the package.

Just go straight for the joy in your mind now, and it will catapult you into a positive, anticipating space where you can effectively teach and train and love and accept your little ones on their unique journey.

You are doing a great work. Our society needs you like we have never before.

Sending you much love and thanks for your unending efforts and dedication to the success of your family, and our collective family.


C.S. Lewis, The Great Divorce

“Son,’he said,’ ye cannot in your present state understand eternity…That is what mortals misunderstand. They say of some temporal suffering, “No future bliss can make up for it,” not knowing that Heaven, once attained, will work backwards and turn even that agony into a glory. And of some sinful pleasure they say “Let me have but this and I’ll take the consequences”: little dreaming how damnation will spread back and back into their past and contaminate the pleasure of the sin. Both processes begin even before death. The good man’s past begins to change so that his forgiven sins and remembered sorrows take on the quality of Heaven: the bad man’s past already conforms to his badness and is filled only with dreariness. And that is why…the Blessed will say “We have never lived anywhere except in Heaven, : and the Lost, “We were always in Hell.” And both will speak truly.”

Make Friends With Small Bites and Baby Steps


Life is a process.

There’s no such thing as leap-frogging over daily needs…at least not without unhealthy consequences.

We must eat. We must sleep. We grow. We need new clothes. We get tired. We need change.

Sometimes we think we can take life by storm and forego the necessities. We get ahead of ourselves, run too fast and burn out.

Sooner or later, we will do well to learn that our progress will most often come in small bites and baby steps.

That most days will feel “ordinary” and that the meaningful milestones come after long, persistent, dedicated effort.

And it’s the same for everyone.

You’re doing great. Keep on moving and hoping and working and praying.

And see if you can cheer for each small bite and baby step you and others take!






Derives from the Latin hospes, meaning “host”, “guest”, or “stranger”. …

hos·pi·tal·i·ty; noun the friendly and generous reception and entertainment of guests, visitors,or strangers.
ynonyms: friendliness, hospitableness, warm reception, welcome, helpfulness, neighborliness, warmth, kindness, congeniality, geniality, cordiality, courtesy, amenability, generous.

What awesome words–friendly, generous and warm! What about a little hospitality at home?

Where people feel comfortable and cared-for?

Seems like the little things count so much in creating that kind of welcoming atmosphere.

Food, always food!


A small note of appreciation.

A snack waiting.

This kind of graciousness is something that children can and want to join in because the are already kind and thoughtful!

Consider ways you would treat a guest, then do those things for yourself and those you love best…

You’re amazing! I pray for you and send you my love and best wishes for a wonderful day.