Self-care ideas

Ideas and inspiration about the need to care for ones self

Primary Food!


Remember the idea that the things you love to do, the things you feel passionate about are your Primary food? And that what you actually eat is secondary to your health?

If you’re not sure if you agree, think about the last time that you did something you enjoyed so much you didn’t track the time! You just entered that space where time flies by and you don’t notice it passing. You don’t get hungry or notice your aches and pains if you have them! I think it makes you feel younger and more alive!

That’s the kind of “food” we need to be getting in regular doses.

What is that for you?

If it’s been awhile since you experienced Primary food, or if you’re unsure about what you love, you may have to look back through a journal or talk to your spouse or to a good friend and get re-inspired about what makes you tick. Or, maybe it’s time to try some new things!

Whatever you decide to do or to try, just take a little time to recharge your battery by getting some good Primary food nutrition! Everyone in your house will be better off because of the skip in your step in the long run don’t you think?

Happy reading! Or biking! Or skiing! Or writing! Or taking pictures! Or playing the piano! Or whatever floats your boat.

Be well.




What Is


I keep hearing, do more, be more, produce  more, take on more, schedule in more, etc….

And I’m thinking, hmmm, I think that equation is backward.

Little IS big. The little note in the lunchbox or the ten minutes to snuggle or the seemingly small promises kept, the hug and listening after school…those little things are huge!

Less IS more. The less stuff you have the easier it is to keep the house clean, the less distracted you are and the more time you have for people.

Of course it’s practicing balance right? Less junk food and more real food. Less TV and more reading. More of any of the good stuff and less of the non-growth stuff.

If you’re feeling stretched too thin, I hope you’ll take a moment and see what excess activity or expectations you may have that could be pared down or weeded out so that you can have greater peace in your day-to-day life.

Sometimes we’re trading the important moments of peace and calm that we need at intervals for nothing of value.

Keep on a goin’ you’re doing so well! Just don’t you quit!



“I recognize counter-productive excesses in my life and quickly make healthy changes.”

“I dedicate most of my time to the people and things that matter most.”

“I am learning to have greater patience with myself.”

“I love my life.”

Happy New Year…Still!


How did your new year start? Were you able to find some time to brainstorm about your goals?

Did you have a chance to write them out and get them cut-up into small sections and pieced into your planner?

I didn’t! I had all of my thoughts going, plans whirring about in my mind….we got through the holidays and I felt so good and ready to move on and then, one minute I was moving and shaking and the next minute I was slipping and had broken my foot! Not to carry weight for six weeks!

Crazy how things can change so fast isn’t it?

So, I’m writing to see if any of you are in my boat…do you still need to write out your plans? Has life taken a different turn than you expected or have you just not had the time to reflect and dream about what you’d like to do next?

Well, if for some reason you still have planning work to do, here’s a challenge to us both!

I am targeting the end of this week to have things plotted out and back on track.

I hope you are well (and whole) and feeling full of courage to face whatever challenges arise this year!

You are full of promise and potential, God-given gifts and talents and those in your world need them, now!
How will you best grow this year?
What problems are you facing that could be solved with greater knowledge or skills?
Who would you like to serve?
What would you like to learn?

Answering these questions can be a good indicator of the direction you need to go!

Love to you,



You’re Beautiful!


At the close of this day, may I offer these few words:

Life is wonderful.
Love is amazing.
Nature is stunning.
Music is inspiring.
Poetry is transcending.
Growth is encouraging.
And our pain is instructive.
And you, you are beautiful and making the world and all it’s possibilities come alive for your loved ones.
Now, take care of that beauty! Maintain your sense of awe at all creation! Cultivate your sense of humor, relax into the love in your life and continue to turn your face upward in gratitude and outward to those around you!

All is well.
Tomorrow will have it’s own cares.
For now, your efforts for today are enough. You are enough.

Rest my friend.



Behavior IS Communication


One thing that is sometimes difficult for me to wrap my head around, is the observation that our children’s behavior is a form of communication.

Particularly true of small children who are doing their best to communicate their needs to us, while not always having the words they need and or a regular dose of our full attention.

So, just a word to the wise, as I have learned the hard way many times, if a child is acting outoften it is a plea for your attention and your help.

You might ask yourself, “Am I preoccupied most of the time, or even a good portion of the day? Or am I pretty present in the time that I spend with my children throughout the day?”

You might look for signs of your own preoccupation with projects you’re excited about or work or even something as simple as your phone. Those signs might be that you don’t consistently look into your child’s face when they are speaking to you. You may have to ask them to repeat themselves multiple times before you really hear what they are trying to tell you. You may not realize that your child hasn’t been dressed for the day until after lunchtime or that they haven’t had their hair combed in a week. Or you may find that your frustration level is skyrocketing as you are trying to do several things at once and your kids seem to be blocking your progress.

My friend, as C.S. Lewis beautifully said, “Children are not distractions from more important work. They are the most important work.”

As we grow-up more ourselves, we realize that:

1 Babies and children are not trying to sabotage our efforts, they are simply trying to get their needs met.
2 When kids receive our freely given, undivided attention on a regular basis, the more they trust that their needs will be met, and oftentimes, as a result, their behavior magically calms down. They may be striving with all they’ve got to get you to notice them! And giving them regular attention is much more rewarding for both of you than cleaning up crazy messes made from radical behavior! The deal is, one way or another they will turn your head, now or in the future.
3 Children feel loved by being cared for, such as being clean, brushed, groomed and clothed. It doesn’t take much time, but it makes a big difference!
4 As a caregiver, having your needs met is equally important! But you are the one in charge of that care too. It’s part of growing up to learn to care for yourself.

I hope that these thoughts offer a little insight to those of you who are in the trench right now! Keep moving forward and take life a day at a time…and slow it down to an hour at a time when you are sleep deprived!

Much love,


P.S. If you are an intense person like I am, know that your intensity can totally overwhelm a small person who doesn’t go at your speed! They are going to be listening for your vibe maybe more than your words (as a friend kindly pointed out to me!) so practice calming yourself down instead of getting more intense when you seem to be at odds with your child. That little piece of advice is golden if you’ll give it a try.