Self-care ideas

Ideas and inspiration about the need to care for ones self

In The Middle

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When we’re in the middle of creating something, or as in the case of several young mothers I know, someone, life can feel like an unbalanced dance.

Some things are on hold while others are full-tilt, and even while you’re taking the steps that need taking, you know that soon, everything will shift around another way!

Is it comforting to know that everyone is in some sort of limbo? They may appear to be settled or at ease, but somewhere in the life of every person I know, is an issue waiting to be resolved. Maybe it is even more than waiting, it may be a time when they are in constant prayer and thought about how to solve a problem or to accept a change or to have the courage to make a positive change.

Is this observation true for you? Do you know anyone who is sitting pretty without a care or heartache of any  kind? Me either.

So, maybe we can all take a deep breath in……..and then in acceptance of where you are right now…….let it out.

The moment you are waiting for will come; the decisions will be made; the help will show up; you will ride out the storm if need be. And through whatever comes, you won’t ever be alone!

You are a treasure my friend.

Please take good care of yourself today.

Love,

Jacque

Let’s Make a Deal

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Shall we make a deal? I think that any time we are tempted (on Mother’s Day weekend or any other) to berate ourselves for all of our perceived imperfections, we will, instead, extinguish those thoughts and replace them with humble, loving thoughts of gratitude for what we have been able to do, for what has been done for us and for what we will have the opportunity to do in the future. It’s pseudo humility to be feeling low because we are attending to negative, ugly thoughts. Real humility is laced with gratitude and an acceptance of our humanness relative to God’s perfection. With Him, we can improve and grow and do all that is required.

Will you join me?

I wish you a beautiful weekend.

Much love,

Jacque

Who Are You?

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It is paramount that you know!

When you know who you are, you are ahead of the game. Because knowing yourself informs your every decision, large and small.

I challenge you to write out a list of positive, “I am” statements that speak to:

Who you are; what you do; what you want; who you love; how you serve; why you care!

I predict that there will be some beautiful declarations buried in these statements.

Do you struggle with negativity? Sarcasm? Criticism of yourself?

If so, I’d say, hey you’re human! But also, there is work to do, don’t stay there!

Please take a moment to write out your “I am’s” and then post them somewhere you will see them multiple times a day.

We must choose what we will become, and we are becoming a thought at a time.

I’ll tell you one for starters:

You are powerful!

Be well! Be love! Be hope!

Jacque

 

 

Monday, Monday

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It’s Monday. And I’m writing to you in the morning…for a few reasons.

Mondays can be brutal sometimes, can’t they?

It’s the day of putting the house back together, getting a new plan for a new week, starting over on all of the household duties that are weekly and basically gearing yourself up to face it all again!

If this speaks to your experience, then I want to offer you some food for thought.

Do you function on doing what you feel like doing on any given day? Do you get intimidated by big jobs or just have to talk yourself into tackling them every time you do them?

A few things that I have found helpful over the years are simple mind-set shifts and some practical tasks as well.

1 You are bigger than your laundry.
Out-think this task and don’t allow it to overwhelm you. Tackle it mentally by deciding how and when you will do it. All in one day? One load each day or specific days of the week? Who is doing it? How can you multi-task other jobs while your machines are doing the work? In making your plan, I suggest that you think it through to the very bitter end! That means it is folded and put away, and then it is done. Because we all know that laundry can overrun your house whether it is dirty or clean!

2 Do what needs to be done, when it needs to be done, not when you feel like it.
We can get ahead when we don’t function on how we feel but rather taking things as they need attention (or better yet, before they need attention). This may mean that you will be best served by a list that you can check off each day. Am I the only one that thrives on seeing check marks, DONE!? The list also serves you in the fact that you have a virtual stopping place and a way to say, today was a success, even though you didn’t tackle everything that needs doing in one day.

3 Increase your pain tolerance.
By this I mean, increase, by practicing, your ability to get through the tough stuff (whatever that happens to be for you). Some people don’t mind cleaning the bathroom while others would rather do anything else! Increase your ability to do the things that you dislike or even detest! Find a way. You could: delegate to someone else at your house who doesn’t mind doing that job, or hire it done, or trade someone or break it down into small bites so that you can spread the job out and not feel overrun by it.

4 Visualize your home fully functioning.
Take some time to close your eyes and envision the level of cleanliness you’d like, the feeling of peacefulness you desire and the spirit of cooperation and love you hope to engender. See it in your mind. Then pray for help to create it. You will be inspired to change this or that, possibly your own attitude about caring for yourself or your children or your home. Be open to learning new ways of doing things and new ways of using your femininity to draw your family toward you to help build the atmosphere you envision.

Happy Monday Girl! I hope you will have a great week ahead! You can do much good in the small and simple things you do for yourself and for your family. Never forget that you are in a very powerful place to make life brighter and better for those you love and that your efforts will ripple out and out and out to bless many.

Go get ’em!

Love,

Jacque

P.S. Fact: We need daily inspiration to keep our minds in a positive place! If you have experienced a lift from reading this blog, please share it with your sisters! More features are in the works!

Think Serenity

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A long time ago, when my children were all young and my days consisted of stretching beyond my physical abilities to meet their needs, my brother suggested that I needed a little more intense music in my life! {Maybe he had heard the classical music I was playing, I don’t remember the situation exactly.} I tried to explain to him that my body couldn’t take anymore adrenaline rushing than it was already getting from being on mother-duty twenty-four hours a day! That is why the music I employed during that time was peaceful and calming.  It is an understatement to say that I needed it’s influence.

In parenthood or any other demanding role, peace of mind doesn’t just happen. It is born of doing our best, keeping our commitments and being honest with ourselves and others. But it also comes more readily as we commit ourselves to cultivating a peaceful mindset.

Which means that we have to intentionally place peaceful pictures, thoughts, words, declarations and feelings in our minds and hearts in order to reap the health and relationship benefits of living a peaceful life.

Lyrics like these can be a great mantra, along with the music that serves to glue the message into our minds: 

“I’ve got peace like a river
I’ve got peace like a river
I’ve got peace like a river
In my soul
I’ve got love like an ocean
I’ve got love like an ocean
I’ve got love like an ocean
In my soul
I’ve got joy like a fountain
I’ve got joy like a fountain
I’ve got joy like a fountain
In my soul”

 

Memorize and rehearse powerful, peaceful words and phrases such as these:

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,”
King James Version (KJV)

Or declarations like these:
“I am at peace.”
“I am finding peaceful solutions to my problems.”

Even the enjoyable times of play and laughter are made more joyful when we have peace as the foundation of our relationship with ourselves and others.

Do you feel peaceful?

What are you doing to create more peace in your mind, heart and home? I’d love to hear!

Much love to you,

Jacque

P.S. Wish I could send along the fragrance of these lilacs along with the picture! Mmmmmmm! Divine!