Those Wrong Songs


I say “wrong” because they aren’t true, and I’m referring to the songs in our culture that worship people, even those we love.

The music that says, “If you leave me, I won’t have any reason to go on.”

Or, those that sing along the lines of, “If you decide to be unfaithful to me, it would kill me.”

I reject those messages. For those of us who put our faith and hope in God, they are wholly untrue.

Instead, I would suggest lyrics and declarations that speak of our commitment and steadiness. Of our decisions and behavior. Of the divinity of our souls and the eternal purposes of God. And of the strength that comes from putting good faith and hope in the promises and fidelity of others, with the understanding that because of humanness, we ultimately lean and depend on God and His promises to us.

If the day ever comes, or already has come, that someone you love abandons their commitment to you, or in some way is unfaithful, I hope you will determine now that you will stand in strength; find forgiveness, beauty and newness in life because of your faith in and dependence on your Heavenly Father. For ultimately, giving the responsibility of our happiness to another person is a misuse of our agent-hood.

We all make mistakes. We all fall short. Only He is worthy of all praise and adoration.

Love and blessings,


“With God all things are possible,” even surviving, rising, discerning, forgiving and healing. God bless you!

How Sweet It Is


Yesterday I had the privilege of sitting behind a young family at a Sacrament service.

There were three little people…all the same age!

What I heard and saw was so inspirational to me and reminds me why I am confident in the strength and goodness of so many parents today.

I saw a lot of hugging.

I saw a sparkling smile from dad to mom when one of the kids said or did something endearing. I mean it sparkled!

I heard, “Jesus loves you and Jesus loves Daddy and Jesus loves Mommy,” many times.

I saw preparation and simple quiet activities and a lot of explaining, “Now we’re going to pray.”

And, “Now we’re going to sing.”

I felt so happy for the strides that are obviously being made in a marriage relationship and in the challenge of caring for triplets. {What courage that must take!}

I applaud all of you in your efforts to teach your children that they are loved and cherished and that you are loved and cherished too.

We can be full of hope and love and faith, together.

And what sweet rewards come to a family who work and pray and sing together.

Be well my friend!



Be Yourself


You’re learning. You’re watching. You’re paying attention to the experience of others.

You have some of your mother’s traits. You may have things you do just like your dad.

But even so, there is no one else in the world who is uniquely you. A shift from imitation to recognition may be in order.

While honoring the principles you have learned from your parents and teachers, you can also express and develop your own wisdom, style and voice. In fact, the world in general needs to hear it! In particular your family needs to know it!

You are amazing. You are unique. You are a gift.

Practice being all you. Give your bright and beautiful self to those you love.

With love,


Calm Thyself


Hello my Friend, I hope this post finds you well!

I have been working on my declarations and my daily self-care regimen to help with quieting my mind because I can get into a knot of thinking about too many things at once. Does that ever happen to you?

I have 70 simple declarations that I am speaking multiple times morning and evening! They just came to me as I was still and listening so I wrote them out and am using them to organize my thoughts. I love the consequence of taking the time to do this exercise!

Remember that along with training our minds to think of and to recognize the truth, we also need to be quieting our nervous systems if we want the consequence of balanced hormones.

Here are a few relaxation helps. The music is lovely to me, and the video is wonderful to watch and to follow the elegant Tai Chi and Qi Gong demonstration. So slow and simple and powerful. {The demonstration starts at about 4:09.}

I hope you will take good care of yourself today and every day.



P.S. Choose the consequences you want and do what will lead you to them!



An Appetite for Success


Do you ever struggle with imagining something good to eat? Even though I love food, sometimes my appetite sinks and it gets more difficult to think of things to cook.

Just looking at this picture gives me food for thought though!

Fresh herbs make all the difference when it comes to flavor and branching out and trying new combinations of tastes always brings joy back into cooking!

So much of our healthy family relationships depend on food as the center of their growth. Sitting down together is a crucial time to reconnect and just be with each other.

I’m going to make a renewed effort to serve our meals at the table, instead of sitting at the counter, and make a menu for this week that is out of the norm!

I wish you all the best in your efforts to nourish your family. It is a crucial piece to your family’s success.

I hope you will be able to find great joy in your valuable, necessary and unique contribution to the loves of your life!