Changing A Culture


“Our society constantly sends us contradictory messages.  We want to eradicate mental health issues like depression, anxiety, and violence in children and young adults but don’t really want to look too deeply at the root of the problem.  We say we value family, but we work longer hours and take less vacation time than any other country in the world. We still promote having families even when we cannot care for them; working  24/7 is not in harmony with raising healthy children…Changing a culture begins at home, and inside each of us. It begins with accepting that when you have a baby everything changes..”                             Erica Komisar

What can be done today, in our homes and inside us, to make a shift toward our part of creating a more family and child-centric society?

Could we:

Take a minute to slow ourselves down?
Have a priority shifting conversation with our spouse?
Take a walk to the park with our kids or grandkids?
Teach a child to play hopscotch or tether-ball?
Decide to set aside the pressures we may be feeling to do and be everything now?

May you be blessed as you deliberately strengthen yourself, your marriage, your family and our culture.



Proof is in The Pudding!


I guess it’s the season for recipes!

Ready for a simple pudding that you can use for different flavors of cream pie or just for eating as pudding?

{This is my husband’s mom’s recipe. She has turned pie making into an art form.}

I have turned this recipe into a no-sugar-headache recipe for our family. There really is no need to use a box of artificial flavorings and coloring’s and a lot of sugar when making pudding from scratch is so easy.

It’s so simple and so versatile! I hope it might come in handy for you to use over the holidays!

Pie Filling/Pudding
In a saucepan put:
2 cups of milk, to warm while stirring frequently. Meanwhile, in another dish, combine:
2 eggs
2 Tablespoons cornstarch OR 2 1/2 Tablespoons arrowroot powder
1/4 tsp salt
1/3 cup honey
Stir until mixed. Then add to the warm milk while stirring with a whisk.
Continue to heat and stir until the mixture starts to thicken, between 5-10 minutes.
When it becomes thick, take off the heat and stir in:
2 tsps vanilla
Then chill before adding to a pie shell.

If you want to make this into chocolate pudding, just add 2 Tablespoons cocoa to the egg mixture. To change up the flavor, substitute rum flavoring or butterscotch for the vanilla.

You can put this pudding in a pie shell with sliced bananas (underneath and on top of the pudding) and then garnish it with real whipped cream. Or, you can layer the pudding in glasses with whipped cream and cut up fruit. Or layer it with cottage cheese and fruit. If you make the pudding chocolate, you could add unsweetened coconut (now available at WalMart!) or strawberries and whipped cream or graham crackers or almonds or use it to fill a graham cracker crust, or whatever you can imagine!

You can use it on top of waffles or pancakes or cake or cupcakes or as a fruit dip or to fill individual eclair shells.

For years, while our kids were little, we had a few small glass dessert dishes that I would fill with this pudding for a special dessert.

I also use this pudding on top of an eclair crust for “Eclair Dessert” (another one of my mother-in-law’s famous treats!) I’ll have to look and see if I have already posted that one!?

I hope you’ve had a good holiday so far. It can be quite a stressful time, so please give yourself some time out, even if it’s short, to regroup and recharge.

Be well my friend,


Thank You!


For all you do, for so many, I thank you!

For doing the things that need to be done, when they need to be done, thanks!

For doing hundreds of kind deeds daily, without the notice or praise of anyone but God, thank you so much.

For being strong because the situation calls for it, thank you.

For giving little people your loving presence, especially when you feel torn between so many other pursuits, a big thank you!

For picking yourself up again and again when you are tired, sleepless, hungry and just worn out, thanks.

For taking the initiative for finding and giving yourself the care and nurturing you need so that you can be emotionally available to others, way to go! And thanks!

May you have a blessed Thanksgiving Day and know that you are appreciated, noticed and loved!

Hugs and blessings to you,


“It is ok for me to care for myself.”

“I love my life!”

“I love myself, I like myself.”

“I look forward to spending time with those I love.”



Pumpkin Rice Pudding


Yes, I am pumpkin crazy!

This time, in place of pumpkin, I used butternut squash. As with the muffins, the pudding is just as pumpkin-y

with butternut substituted for the pumpkin and it’s so easy to bake and to use.

So I baked several butternut squash a few nights ago and I’ve been using them every day in smoothies or pancakes or pudding.

For the pudding, I greased a baking dish with butter {or you could use coconut oil}, then sprinkled cooked brown rice in the bottom, about 1/2″ thickness.

Then,  in another bowl, I made what is basically pumpkin pie filling:

2 eggs
2 tsp pumpkin pie spice {or more!}
1/2 tsp Real salt
1/3-1/2 cup raw honey
1 1/2 cups milk
2 cups cooked butternut
1 tsp vanilla

Blend the filling until it is smooth, then pour it over the rice, sprinkle with cinnamon and bake for about an hour at 350° or until the pudding is lightly browned and firm.

With a dollop of whipped cream, I think this is a worthy snack or dessert or even breakfast!

I hope you are having a great week~ Stopping at intervals to inhale, hold that breath for a few seconds, then exhaling while lowering your shoulders. Keep that oxygen flowing with your walking and moving and mind that you keep your jaw relaxed and take some good mental breaks throughout each day!

Best wishes,



Team Work


If you will aim to compliment, or balance your spouse as an opposite perspective on the same team, instead of feeling the need to compete with him, asserting that your perspective is the correct one, you and your family will win in a big way.

That’s all.

Except I’d challenge you to tune into how many times there is a difficulty because you are feeling in competition with each other. And then use the idea of being complimentary as a way to shift your minds and find the win/wins that abound! Not my way or your way, but our way.

Love to you!