What are the desires of your heart today? This month? This year?
Do you want to learn something new or start a new habit?
Do you want to get better at speaking kindly to yourself or exhibiting more patience with your kids? Do you want to learn a new language or read more or exercise more regularly?
Once you identify what you want, you just need to pick the actions or behaviors that will lead to that consequence.
Sometimes we think of the equation the other way ’round…we do what we do and hope the consequence will be good or at least not too painful.
But thinking first about the consequence we want, makes the path to getting there pretty clear.
Get the teacher, tutor or mentor. Make a plan with a friend to be accountability buddies. Identify someone who is a good parent and spend some time talking with them and observing their skills in action. Write a declaration about the joy of achieving your goal. Write out a list of kind words to say to yourself, put it in your pocket and read it out loud every time you eat {or some other thing you do multiple times during the day that will remind you to look at your list}. Decide on a simple reward for reaching your daily goal.
Whatever behavior will lead to the end you want, that’s the plan. You can change. I can change. We were designed to move forward.
Love to you!