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Healthy Habits

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Recently, I was asked what healthy habits I consider to be most important in maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

 

It’s a great question and  has given me a lot of food for thought!

First, I would have to say the tools that help me to keep my mindbody in a positive and growing space. These are prayer, journal writing, scriptures, declarations, uplifting music and literature and a vision board. It sounds like a lot but in actuality, they all work together and can be done almost anywhere, anytime.

Keeping a connection to God is fundamentally important and is the basis of all personal validation and therefore, accomplishment. Keeping a record of my thoughts and the answers I receive and the things I learn deepens my knowledge and teaches me any time I want to revisit them.  Declarations are a constant.  They help me to train my mind and my body to function the way I choose, while keeping me out of the holes of pity, despair and discouragement. Music and literature are brain food, color and life! And the vision board is awesome of course, because it keeps me visually on track and working out plans both consciously and subconsciously.

Second, I would add the joy of moving; swimming, walking, riding my bike and gardening, in concert with eating real food. It’s quite a process to pull away from the “norm,” little by little, until you aren’t on the blood sugar, weight, exhaustion, headache, additive fallout roller coaster anymore. The difficult symptoms that come from the things we eat and drink, even when we don’t know what is causing them, subside and it is a delight to be on level ground. I try to keep it simple, in a nutshell following Michael Pollan’s wisdom: “Eat food, mostly plants, not too much,” which I think is an awesome guide to keeping your diet real, (not consuming food science concoctions that can sit on a shelf for years without deteriorating), relying mostly on fruits, vegetables, grains, beans and legumes, and then not over doing it quantity-wise.

Therapy-wise, I would say the big helps for me are craniosacral and emotional release work, massage and on occasion, talk therapy. Thank heaven for the people who have worked to become trained to help us in these important areas as we need it!

I hope something here might be helpful to consider.  I’d love to hear about your favorite healthy habits!

Take care!

Jacque

 

 

Sweet Smoothie Idea

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I’ve been experimenting with something I have a lot of right now; zucchini! So, here’s the scoop:

If you pick zucchini while it is relatively young, like these pictured were about 10 inches long and a couple of inches in diameter, you can slice them and flash freeze them on a cookie sheet and they work very well in smoothies.

By “very well” I mean, you get veggies but you can’t taste them. Know what I mean?

Flash freezing them first, like these pictured on a cookie sheet, means that you’ll be able to pull them out of a bag one at a time because they were frozen singly, and not smashed together. Freezing them helps you to store them for awhile of course, but also helps the texture and temperature of your smoothie! (Frozen zucchini also works well for making zucchini bread!)

I also freeze bananas that are a little old, by just breaking them into a bag and putting them in the freezer.  No need to flash freeze them because they are easy to break apart when they are frozen.

I also freeze lemon juice (in ice cube trays, then transfer to a freezer bag), lemon zest, ginger, kale, spinach, peaches, berries, cherries, apricots, goat’s milk, and anything else I can get my hands on.

Lioness Zucchini Smoothie

1 cup milk (your choice)

1 cup water

3-4 frozen zucchini slices

1 frozen banana

1-2 Tbs Adam’s peanut butter

1 Tbs cocoa

2 Tbs flax seed

1 handful blueberries (or other berries)

1/4 tsp cayenne (optional)

 

I wish you good health and happiness!

Peace!

Jacque

Validate Thyself!

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In seminar, our first assignment is to begin to validate ourselves.  How does that work?

 

Number one is seeking validation through prayer, from the only true source of all validation, which is from God.

When we feel in harmony with heaven, the opinions and requests and or demands of others are all put into proper perspective.  We have a sense of who we truly are which lessens and then extinguishes our need to “please” others including sometimes being tempted to remove our appropriate boundaries for the sake of the opinions of others.

We’re also striving to make the conversation in our head’s a positive one! It’s listening to our own needs and using validating phrases and questions with ourselves. When problem solving, we might ask ourselves:

“So how do you feel about that?”

“What do you think should be done now?”

“Wow, that was tough.”

“Good job.”

“You made it!”

These questions and statements support us in keeping responsibility where it belongs, with us, and guides us through finding solutions to our own problems while also speaking to ourselves with encouragement and respect. Maintaining our personal boundaries is paramount in mastering the art of validation.

Remember that boundaries are:

“…statements of what you will or won’t do, what you like and don’t like, how far you will or won’t go, how close someone can get to you or how close you will get to another person….they are your value system in action.” I Don’t Have To Make Everything All Better, Gary and Joy Lundberg

Seek to know yourself and to become grounded in what you understand about your personal boundaries.  Make lists if needed.  Ask for confirmation and inspiration during your prayers; grow to feel confidence that you have correctly identified the lines you draw for your life.

As mentioned in previous posts, this is the work of a lifetime! Practice and practice and practice some more.

If you go backward or have a difficulty with a family member, bear in mind that our relationships are there to teach us and to help us to practice! We haven’t failed until we quit making an honest effort!  And even then, we can make a new decision, apologize and or repent and start again!

This is what we are here to do!  To learn and practice and grow with the aid of our personal mirrors; our families. They extend their mercy and love and forgiveness to us as we extend ours to them. Never, never, never give up. It is never too late to grow.

Be well my friend.

Love,

Jacque

 

 

 

 

 

 

Walk With Yourself First

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In the journey of relationships, a continual flow of validation is needed.  That is, we must learn to walk beside others as they feel their feelings and figure out their path. But that is a bit difficult to do if we are in the habit of stuffing or denying our own feelings. So, one of the first steps to master is getting really good at acknowledging our own feelings.

Do you ever realize that you are feeling badly, but you don’t know why? Do you ever stop and take time to think backward to what you have been thinking about and get back to the thought that started the bad feeling rolling?

 

Several years ago, I had the epiphany that I was allowing unsettled or sad or mad or disappointed feelings to linger, often times not even recognizing why I had that feeling in the first place! So, I started a habit of stopping, when the recognition came, and thinking back to where the feeling originated. Quite often, a negative feeling starts by attending to a negative thought.  And it is strengthened by the weight we give it as a truth to be considered. Posh.

 

When the ah ha hits and I hear that the negative thought was a deception, (sometimes with the help of my spouse or a friend), I can quickly find the truth (most often in the opposite direction), plug that in, or fire it back, and the sadness and despair leave me. This is a process that helps me to be aware of my emotional self and to deal with the emotions as they arise.

Of course, sometimes, the sadness is a loss or a change and the remedy is a good cry, or to talk to someone close.

The point though is that we are aware of and dealing with emotions as they surface so that we can be emotionally fit ourselves.  That sets us up to be a good friend to others who may need us to walk beside them as they figure out their emotions and problems.

This is a high form of self-care and makes a solid foundation on which to connect with others.

The process of learning these skills requires a whole lot of practice! Over a long period of time!

I am certain however, that the effort is worth it!

It will pay over and over in rich relationship rewards!

Love, love, love,

Jacque

My daugher-in-law made this great dust jacket for the Lundberg’s book.  I love it!

By Listening We Validate

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val·i·da·tion

ˌvaləˈdāSH(ə)n/

noun
  1. the action of checking or proving the validity or accuracy of something.
    “the technique requires validation in controlled trials”
    • the action of making or declaring something legally or officially acceptable.
      “new courses, subject to validation, include an MSc in Urban Forestry”
    • recognition or affirmation that a person or their feelings or opinions are valid or worthwhile.
      “they have exaggerated needs for acceptance and validation”

How does your best friend listen to you? Do you feel heard and understood? If you do, what a blessing! They are offering you the invaluable gift of validation.

And why do we need validation? Because, as the Lundberg’s say, “the universal need within each of us (is to feel that)– I am of worth, my feelings matter, and someone really cares about me.”

When we listen, we give this gift.

Practice, practice, practice, practice, practice, practice, practice…..

Jacque

 

 

 

 

 

“I don’t have the power to solve other people’s problems.  By validating their feelings appropriately I empower them to be their own problem solver.”

 

 

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