Inspiration

General inspiration

You’re Beautiful!

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At the close of this day, may I offer these few words:

Life is wonderful.
Love is amazing.
Nature is stunning.
Music is inspiring.
Poetry is transcending.
Growth is encouraging.
And our pain is instructive.
And you, you are beautiful and making the world and all it’s possibilities come alive for your loved ones.
Now, take care of that beauty! Maintain your sense of awe at all creation! Cultivate your sense of humor, relax into the love in your life and continue to turn your face upward in gratitude and outward to those around you!

All is well.
Tomorrow will have it’s own cares.
For now, your efforts for today are enough. You are enough.

Rest my friend.

Love,

Jacque

Love Today

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Through the ages the wise ones, the sages
Remind us; remind us

To love where we are,
what we have.

When young and alive,
Full of hope and ambition
We look to the time when we’ll take to our wings!

In looking out forward,
We miss the fleet moments
As carefree, light days pass away on a breeze.

In times that come later,
With risks and hard working
We look back to childhood
And wish to be there.

Being present with loved ones
The sages remind us,
Is key to life’s grandeur
enjoyment and bliss!

Glance forward and plan things,
But don’t lose your balance
Lest looking away, takes your eye
Off the now.

Glance backward for learning,
But just for a moment
So living right now we can savor and own
All the gifts that life gives when we fully attend.

Forgive all the past,
Nod with hope to tomorrow
While living, heart open,
In the stark-standing now.

 

 

 

Behavior IS Communication

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One thing that is sometimes difficult for me to wrap my head around, is the observation that our children’s behavior is a form of communication.

Particularly true of small children who are doing their best to communicate their needs to us, while not always having the words they need and or a regular dose of our full attention.

So, just a word to the wise, as I have learned the hard way many times, if a child is acting outoften it is a plea for your attention and your help.

You might ask yourself, “Am I preoccupied most of the time, or even a good portion of the day? Or am I pretty present in the time that I spend with my children throughout the day?”

You might look for signs of your own preoccupation with projects you’re excited about or work or even something as simple as your phone. Those signs might be that you don’t consistently look into your child’s face when they are speaking to you. You may have to ask them to repeat themselves multiple times before you really hear what they are trying to tell you. You may not realize that your child hasn’t been dressed for the day until after lunchtime or that they haven’t had their hair combed in a week. Or you may find that your frustration level is skyrocketing as you are trying to do several things at once and your kids seem to be blocking your progress.

My friend, as C.S. Lewis beautifully said, “Children are not distractions from more important work. They are the most important work.”

As we grow-up more ourselves, we realize that:

1 Babies and children are not trying to sabotage our efforts, they are simply trying to get their needs met.
2 When kids receive our freely given, undivided attention on a regular basis, the more they trust that their needs will be met, and oftentimes, as a result, their behavior magically calms down. They may be striving with all they’ve got to get you to notice them! And giving them regular attention is much more rewarding for both of you than cleaning up crazy messes made from radical behavior! The deal is, one way or another they will turn your head, now or in the future.
3 Children feel loved by being cared for, such as being clean, brushed, groomed and clothed. It doesn’t take much time, but it makes a big difference!
4 As a caregiver, having your needs met is equally important! But you are the one in charge of that care too. It’s part of growing up to learn to care for yourself.

I hope that these thoughts offer a little insight to those of you who are in the trench right now! Keep moving forward and take life a day at a time…and slow it down to an hour at a time when you are sleep deprived!

Much love,

Jacque

P.S. If you are an intense person like I am, know that your intensity can totally overwhelm a small person who doesn’t go at your speed! They are going to be listening for your vibe maybe more than your words (as a friend kindly pointed out to me!) so practice calming yourself down instead of getting more intense when you seem to be at odds with your child. That little piece of advice is golden if you’ll give it a try.

 

Make It Tasty!

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Real food is amazing!

If you or your children are used to bland, processed food, you are missing out on one of life’s greatest joys!

Be creative, add fresh herbs for flavor, make things from scratch and fall in love with food again!

Home is where things taste good, and where cooking is love made visible.

Best wishes!

Jacque

 

Oatmeal with fresh/frozen peaches
Fresh apple pie
Homemade vanilla pudding
Pasta with basil
Pumpkin muffins

Shout out to my daughter for the beautiful pie (her forte) and her wonderful pasta dish!

Madeline’s Advice

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I was working on a book review last week of the four autobiographies of Madeline L’Engle. (Author of A Wrinkle in Time, and other titles.)

In preparation, besides having read the books, I watched a few interviews/speeches she made and I thought the advice she gave on parenting, among other things, was noteworthy.

She and her husband Hugh raised three children while maintaining a country home and a city apartment. They were conscientious parents and loved their family!

Her advice went something like this:

“Don’t lose your temper in front of your children, but if you do, apologize! I apologize daily. Hug them and let yourself be real. As parents, love each other as you’re fumbling along, trying to figure things out. Some of the things we did with the best intentions, turned out to be the worst. And some of the things we did on accident, turned out to be the best!

Read to your children for hours. And let them pray for hours.”

I think there is a lot of wisdom in these words.

Another thought she offered, that I think goes hand in hand with thoughts on parenting was this:

“Not forgiving ourselves can be a supreme act of arrogance.”

Let’s keep trying, little by little, and determine to drink in the lessons we are learning and value the ways that we are growing…no matter how old our children are!

Sending you much love today.

Take good care,

Jacque