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That’s A Wrap!


We finished our last group meeting for the 7 Steps to Family Wellness Seminar today and I was so happy with the experience! {Every year has been a delight with wonderful ladies coming together to support each other, and this year was no exception.}

It never ceases to amaze me how different we each are and what wonderful things we learn from hearing about each person’s perspective and experiences. It’s healthy and broadening to be a part of a group of people striving to learn together. Synergy is awesome!

So here’s a bug in your ear:
if you haven’t lately, put your feelers out and tap into a group who are interested in learning some of the things you want to learn, whether that be oil painting or writing or swimming or budgeting or dancing or time-management or nutrition! Then join in!

This year in seminar, we were privileged to have Lionesses from seminar’s past to introduce and speak about each step and what they have learned and then incorporated into their lives. It was enlightening to hear their words and their experiences! I was inspired by them as they added layers of understanding and depth to topics I have taught many times. Their perspectives were unique and wonderful!

When I was in college as a non-traditional student, the traditional students {those young enough to be my children almost!} taught me so much. When I had a technology question, they answered it every time!

What is it that you want to learn next?

I hope you will be able to find a “tribe” of those who are moving in your direction so that you can gain from the synergy of a shared group experience and also that of each individual’s experience too as you share with one another.

I hope you are well! Please take good care of yourself this weekend.






On Self-Care


“Where has God gone? Why has He gone away? Why has He let this happen? Why won’t He help? Why has He abandoned me?”

“God hasn’t abandoned us. We abandoned ourselves. He’s there, and He cares.

But He expects us to cooperate by caring for ourselves.”

Melodie Beattie, Codependent No More

Friends, our people are counting on us to care for ourselves so that we can care for them in healthy ways.

So go ahead and take a break, feel the sun on your face and give thanks for all of your gifts and the beauty of life.






Our Time


Time when we are young is simple and slow–remember the last five minutes before recess going by soooo slowly?

Later in life, there doesn’t seem to be nearly enough time to do all that we want to do!

But, instead of lamenting over all of the things it seems we may never get to do, have faith that the things you are meant to do, those that are most important to your personal mission, will come into being when the time is right.

Meanwhile, practice being where you are. Practice turning your attention back and back and back from past problems or future concerns to the ever-living present. {Thank heaven our children and grand children will always bring us there or meet us there and show us how it is done!}

How can you continue to sharpen your mind? What are you interested in learning? Why are you drawn to the things that interest you?

Life is full of opportunity and rich with possibility! What win/win equations can you make that will help you to grow while being in the present with your present responsibilities? Pray for the knowledge of those equations and write them down as they come to you.

I pray that you will feel whole and blessed and supported at this stage of your journey.

No one else can do what you are doing for the people in your life.

You mean the world to them. Please take good care of yourself and gather reasons to feel joyful!

Love and best wishes,


Fight Right!


I am amazed at how lazy our minds can be when we let them go!

Lazy in the sense that if we haven’t taught ourselves to dwell in positive places, places of clarity and light, we’ll most likely be tolerating negative looping thought patterns. And let’s face it, our minds seem to spiral lower and lower when left to themselves with no boundaries of enough is enough.

Like a kid left to play video games all day; like grazing on a bag of potato chips while thinking about the book you’re reading; like reacting to a put down instead of acting according to our own better judgement, a mind left to wander and sulk and replay pain and fear is really pleading to be redirected….for our own good and the good of everyone we know, especially those who depend upon our love!

If our minds were muscles (I guess they are in that we can strengthen them or let them go to the least resistant thoughts); if our mental conversation was audible (oh wait, what we think is apparent when we open our mouths!); if negativity effected our pay check or our looks or our standing with others (oh wait, it does all of that!). So if we know all of these things, why do we “let ourselves go?”

I think it is because we don’t believe that we have the ability to change our thoughts. And, because we think that no one else knows, it seems that the social pressure we may feel for being on our best behavior doesn’t count when it comes to our thoughts.

But it counts more than anything else!

And we do have the ability to change. Yes, it takes concerted effort! No less effort than lifting weights, no less than taking a shower every day and washing our faces and brushing our teeth. No less than putting a good foot forward at work or when we are with our friends. But it requires a higher level of integrity, because while our thoughts do show in every facet of our lives, they are primarily the fruit of the private relationship we have with ourselves. And is there any relationship as important as the one we have inside our own heads, with ourselves and with our Creator?

I know that this is the battle that means the most; it’s the place where all our battles are actually fought. And, I know the battle it is to believe that we can change our thought patterns and that the battle to keep at it day in and day out is real! And it can be won.

We must try not to spend our time fighting with other people, wanting them to approve of us or wanting public opinions to validate us! Those opinions aren’t the ones that truly matter in the end. We must validate ourselves. Make friends with ourselves. Make peace with God. Bask in His constant love and know that we are priceless to Him. {Don’t know that yet? Ask Him to let you know how He feels about you.}

We’ve got to fight right!

How much fight do you have in you?

Hold on and hope on and don’t you ever give up.

Sending you my love and my knowing that we were born to win.


“I am the Master of my fate; I am the Captain of my soul.”
“I am learning to take better care of myself.”
“I like myself, I love myself.”
“I am precious to God.”
“I am interested in the world.”
“I find joy in my life every day!”
“I am in charge of my beautiful mind.”

Pay Your Dues


Ever played the game where you’re supposed to share something that no one would know about you and then sometimes the game morphs into taking turns telling the most embarrassing moments we can remember?

I have. And it seems that over time {thank heaven!} those embarrassing memories fade and aren’t as important or earth-shattering as they once were.

But that’s because as time goes by, we learn from our experiences and become more mature in our approach to life and our relationships. The great news is that we’re in good company, because everyone has to go through their own “growing-up” stages to earn that maturity.

As far as relationships go, it doesn’t matter if you marry at 18 or 22 or 32 or 42, you must pay your dues and pass through the experiences that grow you as a couple. Granted, personal growth and confidence can put you in a good position for relationship growth, but even the most successful, educated and confident people have to go through growing pains. In fact, what we think of as our strengths and advantages, can sometimes be our stumbling blocks! We may feel disappointed in the fact that yes, there are still dues to pay!

That is life. We grow so gradually most of the time that it can be imperceptible. So grows our relationships too. Little by little, we add baby steps of knowing and understanding and acceptance.  When we keep going and keep trying, those tiny, incremental steps can take us far beyond where we thought we could go!

So, my challenge for you is to see the strides you’re making and give yourself credit for the hard work you’ve done! If you have a journal, take a quick look at your life a year ago or even five years ago and see how far you’ve come.

We don’t need to be perfect at anything, just willing to try. And then, to dust ourselves off when we fall short, and try again.

I hope you’re being kind to yourself. You’re doing so well!