Happy New Year Lionesses!

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I’m always thinking about you.

I’m in awe of what you are accomplishing and how determined you are to continue to learn and to improve your life and the lives of your family members!

This year I’ve committed to sending out a short, daily thought or affirmation with the hope that my words will lift and inspire as you journey through the joys and challenges you will face in the coming months.

You are capable and strong.  You are fierce and determined.  You are the inner workings of society.  You are the glue that binds us all together.

With my love and admiration,

Happy 2017!  May you prosper in every way!

Love,

Jacque

What have you committed to do in this new year?  Please share!

 

Hooray for Summer!

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To schedule or not to schedule; is that the question?

I have heard several of my clients express anxiety over the changing of the seasons and the inevitable change that brings to their sense of control and mental stability!

When summer came each year when my kids were growing up, not only did they come home, but my husband also spent his summers at home so the annual change at our house was grand!  I found, after a few years of observation, that it took me about two weeks to make the shift in my own mind from having the house to myself, to having it bustling and swinging non-stop.

So I learned to give myself that much time to acclimate, and not to expect a shift any sooner than that.  It was a big change, and even though I really looked forward to all of us being together, and I felt very blessed to have the circumstances that allowed for such quality and quantity, it still felt a bit overwhelming as it approached.

Would I still take the time to care for myself?  Would I have my ducks lined-up well enough to structure the days; the chore charts, the vacation times and find the right balance of being productive while still taking time to look at the clouds and read picture books and make play-dough?  All without losing my sanity?

Can you relate to any of my worries?

With the benefit of hindsight, I offer a few lessons I have learned, many, the proverbial “hard way!”

1 Start with a meeting of the minds.  The question isn’t whether or not to create a schedule for the family!  If you’re considering no structure as an option, I’d strongly suggest you reconsider.  It’s amazing the things we can accomplish together when we’re on the same page.  And getting on the same page requires a conversation about goals, a few decisions and then a way to refer back to those decisions.  When I say goals, I mean what you want to take away from the time you have.  It doesn’t have to mean you’re going to be productive every moment of the day.  You can have the intention of slowing down and spending more time in creative pursuits.  Or catching up on projects or learning a new skill.  Just get together in the beginning and have fun brainstorming.

2 Schedule maintenance.  No matter what you want the summer months to “produce,” planning to take care of yourselves and your home each day will help things to run more smoothly and afford a peaceful setting for you all to “be.”  It’s a challenge to enjoy each other’s company or to have the motivation to launch into projects if there are piles of dirty dishes or laundry that have been building up!  Each family member can work on home maintenance each day and that will keep things moving and leave no one person to do it all by themselves.  Decide on who will do what and when.  We had three groups of jobs that the kids would rotate; garbage and laundry, dishwasher and bathrooms, dusting and floors.  After taking weekly turns with these for awhile, we discovered that they each preferred one set (strangely no one wanted the same one!) and so we stopped rotating and they just kept the same two jobs.  Then we made job pages that we laminated so that they could be checked-off by a parent with a dry erase marker.  Their charts included making their own beds, straightening rooms, brushing teeth, showering, taking turns walking, brushing and feeding the dog, doing their home maintenance jobs, practicing their instrument and reading.  It sounds like a lot, but when they wanted to leave with friends or be free to play in general, they were motivated and clipped through their charts pretty fast.  It’s just wonderful to know what is expected and what needs to be done.  Learn from my mistakes too: when they are finished, let them be finished.  Don’t continue to add just one more thing every time they want to leave.  Set your boundaries and then let yourself be held by them too.

3 Enjoy each other!  This time of bubbles and picture books, pets and play dates, roller blades and running full speed won’t last.  It seems like yesterday that my kids were home making piles of stuffed animals on the couch or curled up with the latest Harry Potter book or chasing each other through the house.  And now they are far away from home in homes of their own with children of their own.  Breathe and gear up for the memories you’ll be making.  They are priceless.

Take good care!

Love,

Jacque

Welcome to Lioness!

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Hi! Thank you for visiting Lioness at the Door, holistic health coaching for women and their families!

Please join me for this year’s 7 Steps to Family Wellness seminar, designed for busy women of faith.  We focus on one step each month so that we can take baby steps and make changes that last!

•Step 1 Spiritual Creation & Practice
•Step 2 Lighten Your Load
•Step 3 Get Clear On Boundaries
•Step 4 Primary Food & Self-Care
•Step 5 Commit to Creating Order
•Step 6 Nutrition & Your Kitchen
•Step 7 Meal Plans!

If this seminar speaks to you, please register now by emailing me at jacque.sorenson@gmail.com.  Let me know which of the following versions you would prefer.

2016 Seminar options:

Group [6-10 participants]
Class will meet for 1 ½ hours each month for seven months and provide email support between sessions.  Because this class is dependent on being a group, we will begin sessions when up to 10 women have registered, then I’ll start a new list for the next cohort. Register now to save your spot, and tell your friends about Lioness so we can get moving!
$380 for Seminar and materials

One-on-One Seminar with Coaching
Take the seminar series 1:1 and get individual coaching as you go.
2 individual 50 minute sessions each month either in the Lioness office, or in a virtual setting (Facetime, phone call or Skype.)
$730 for Seminar/Coaching and materials

My prayer is that God will inspire you to know if this program is a good fit for you, and if it is, to open the way for you to jump in and get to work!

Are you ready for support with the goals you have set for this new year?  Do you want to get a handle on that conversation going on in your head? Could you use some accountability to help you shed a few pounds?  Would you love to be inspired to simplify your life by making plans for home management and healthy meals?

Holistic health coaching is a relatively new phenomenon. Basically, it is having someone in your corner, listening to your goals and encouraging you to take consistent baby steps to reach them.  At Lioness, the coaching focus is on a woman and her family, so coaching also includes training in the fundamentals of creating a healthy family lifestyle. The genesis of each program is designed to help women learn to care for themselves because in family life, your best self is needed!  We start out by getting your head in the game with a healthy mindset, then, we build on your new skills and health to create the environment for your home that will best nourish your family.

Family is everything.  It is worth our best efforts and our deliberate growth.  And, family is probably the only thing that encompasses enough love, the epitome of all motivation, to give us the grit to see ourselves as we are and honestly take stock of what we need to change in order to find success at home.

I’m ready to cheer you on!

Be well!

Jacque

PS These prices are not going to last…please take action today!

PPS And if you think of questions, please don’t hesitate to ask, I’ll be happy to respond.

Gotta Love a Clean Slate!

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I get an energy burst as the calendar fully turns to the clean slate of a bright, new year. To me, it’s a time to take stock of where I’ve been and to reset my vision for the year ahead. It’s clean. It’s uncluttered. It’s an opportunity to acknowledge what I’ve learned and recommit to growth and wellness. I love it!

This week I’m going to take some time to close my eyes and imagine what I want to have accomplished next year when I turn the calendar over…what I want to have learned and what I want to have experienced.  I read recently that goals are dreams with a deadline.  For me, that thought adds magic to the mundane and meaning to all the baby steps I will take to keep on a path of faithful, forward motion.

When you close your eyes and dream about the possibilities for growth in your life, what do you envision for this year?  Would you like to be healthier?  Would you like to foster more feelings of peace and less of the spinning-out-of-control feelings that come from indecision?  Could you use support in turning your vision into manageable steps? Could you benefit from learning the skills of validation or of home organization or whole food nutrition or meal planning?  If any of these questions bring out a resounding, “Yes!” please read on!

Two years ago I expanded a simple class that I had been teaching for a few years into a major, seven-month coaching event.  Then in 2015 I taught the seminar to two groups of very motivated women who made it a great success.  Over the last few months, I have written a companion workbook for the seminar, so, I’m happy to announce that I’ll be offering the 7 Steps to Family Wellness Seminar again in 2016 with the addition of written materials!

It has been so much fun to watch the outstanding women I’ve worked with this year. They have made amazing changes in their homes, starting with changes in their thinking. Here, in their words, are some of the personal results they gained from participating in the 7 Steps to Family Wellness Seminar:

“I’ve experienced a beautiful sense of peace in my home with time-blocking.”

“Changing how I think about and view goals has been supportive and so helpful.”

“Love how validating has been such a blessing with my children and how our conversations go.”

“I just feel such an awareness about so many things! I’m so happy to be in the moment and so present with my life!”

“Most helpful was getting my brain on track and learning how my thinking is affecting my working.”

Do any of their statements resonate with changes you want to make in your life?

Here is a simple overview of the 7 Steps:

• Spiritual Creation & Practice
• Lighten Your Load
• Get Clear On Boundaries
• Primary Food & Self-Care
• Commit to Creating Order
• Nutrition & Your Kitchen
• Meal Plans!

If this seminar speaks to you, register now by emailing me at jacque.sorenson@gmail.com.  Let me know which of the following versions you would prefer.

2016 Seminar options:

Virtual Group [6-10 participants]
Sign-up for a distance class using Google+ and get the benefit and support of a group setting while participating from home!
You’ll need minimum requirements for computer, webcam, speakers and
microphone to participate in Google+hangouts. Class will meet for 1 ½ hours
and provide email support between sessions.  Because this class is dependent on being a group, we will begin sessions when up to 10 women have registered, then I’ll start a new list for the next cohort.  Register this week to be in the first group!
$380 for Seminar and materials

One-on-One Seminar with Coaching
Take the seminar series 1:1 and get individual coaching as you go.
2 individual 50 minute sessions each month either in the Lioness office, or
in a virtual setting (Facetime, phone call or Google+hangouts)
$730 for Seminar/Coaching and materials

I have kept the pricing extremely low because I want to empower as many women as I possibly can!  Because, as you know, a mother’s clear, positive and healthy mindset can effect so much at home!

Register by emailing me at jacque.sorenson@gmail.com!

I wish you a wonderful year ahead!

Love,
Jacque

That’s What Love is For

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Have you discovered that sometimes family relationships are a little more challenging than you thought they might be? {I think that’s the understatement of the world myself!}

Being in it for the long haul, rain or shine takes everything we’ve got and ultimately calls us, even compels us to continue to move forward through our own “stuff”!

Think of it; is there anything more daunting, and on occasion more painful, than our own growth? The path that requires us to face ourselves as we are and deal with the unseen, tucked away fears and inadequacies that lurk somewhere beneath our consciousness? The “stuff” that becomes the perfect material for the “buttons” our loved ones get so adept at pushing? If this weren’t so true, I wouldn’t be chuckling…oh boy!

So how do we get through the rough patches? How do we cope and persevere through the daily challenges that keep coming like waves to a shore?

I think it’s the love. And the actual act of committing that gives us the power to hang on and conquer our fears. The truth is, that along with that initial decision to make a commitment, or to recommit to our relationships, comes the power and help of Heaven.

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way. I learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets: “Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it! Begin it now.” -William Hutchison Murray

I love the word BOLDNESS.

Especially after sitting in the murky mire of indecision for too long, just the thought of boldness is a sweet breath of fresh air!

So why do we stay in indecision when it feels so stagnant and stifling? Why do we hesitate to take the next step to honestly see what needs to happen now?

I’d like to suggest that we go into a chronic state of indecision, or frustration with someone or with a sticky situation because we are waiting for
them to change. For someone else to stop running. For someone else to take initiative. For someone else to commit. For someone else to say “I’m sorry.” For someone else to prove that they are still committed. For someone else to be honest with themselves. For someone else to humbly start a quiet, repairing conversation.

And that is a powerless, depressing place!

If this sounds familiar or true for you, (I have certainly been there!) the prescription is to MOVE.

And movement can be as simple as offering a prayer asking for liberation from negative thinking and for clarity. It can be starting again to do the things that you know will lift your spirit and build your confidence. It can be treating yourself more kindly. It can be asking for forgiveness or pardon. It can be writing out thoughts and feelings that need to be expressed somewhere and somehow! Moving can be starting a needed conversation by saying:

I feel_______________________

about ______________________

because ___________________.

This formula is a great way to structure your thoughts and words because it offers information in a kind, gentle, respectful and yet firm way. No finger pointing and no large
assumptions to make about the other person’s intentions or motives. You know, “you are so ______!” or “I can’t believe you would think ______!”
Those assumptions are shovels and they dig the holes deeper and make chasms wider!

Moving can also mean NOT talking, but creating a safe place for someone else to TALK.  Think back.  How much are you talking and how much are you listening?  Rule of thumb to shoot for: 1/3 talking, 2/3rd’s listening.  If you’re heavy on the mouth, shift it around and get better with the ears!

Do you remember this song recorded by Amy Grant?  (If not, I hope you’ll find it and listen to the wisdom it offers.)

“That’s What Love Is For”

Sometimes we make it harder than it is
We’ll take a perfect night
And fill it up with words we don’t mean
Dark sides best unseen
And we wonder why we’re feeling this way

Sometimes I wonder if we really feel the same
Why we can be unkind
Questioning the strongest of hearts
That’s when we must start
Believing in the one thing that has gotten us this far

[Chorus:]
That’s what love is for
To help us through it
That’s what love is for
Nothing else can do it
Melt our defenses
Bring us back to our senses
Give us strength to try once more
Baby, that’s what love is for

Sometimes I see you
And you don’t know why I’m there
And I’m washed away by emotions
I hold deep down inside
Getting stronger with time
It’s living through the fire
And holding on we find

[Chorus]

Believing in the one thing
That has gotten us this far
That’s what love is for
To help us through it
That’s what love is for
Nothing else can do it
Round off the edges
Talk us down from the ledges
Give us strength to try once more
Baby, that’s what love is for
That’s what love is for

That’s what love is for
Melt our defenses
Bring us back to our senses
Give us strength to try once more
Baby, that’s what love is for
That’s what love is for
That’s what love is for
That’s what love is for

Writer(s): Mark Clifford Mueller, Michael Omartian
Copyright: Moo Maison, See This House Music

I second that!

I hope you’re well.

I hope you’re taking really good care of yourself.

Love,

Jacque