The 2019 Self-Care Challenge!


Drum roll please…

In the 7 Steps to Family Wellness seminar this month, we are working on self-care!

Would you like to join us?

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For the next 30 days, would you like to learn more about caring for yourself? About dispelling the confusion surrounding self-care vs. self-absorption or even self-conceit or vanity?

Starting here on the Lioness blog, on Monday, January 14th, I will challenge you to do these four things for 30 days:

1 Watch or listen to the declaration video that will be launching here on Lioness at the
2 Read the Lioness blog each week day where you will find inspiration and new self-care ideas!
3 Do something, large or small, to care for yourself each day, then keep track of what you did and how it helped!
4 Chime in at least once a week {on the Lioness blog} in the comments to share a self-care idea or to report on something you have learned about the importance of taking care of yourself.

Sound like something that might bless your life? I hope so!

In fact, I’m imagining 500 moms doing this challenge together! That would be 500 families who have a mom who is getting stronger and healthier! That would be 500 marriages that would benefit from greater balance of female hormones! That would be 500 women who value themselves more than ever and who are more able to meet the challenges in their lives! And that would be 500 moms who feel less stress and more joy.

Please join us and please invite your friends!

The challenge, while taking very little time, will offer profound results.

I wish you every good thing in the coming year!

"The mission of Lioness at the Door is to uplift. strengthen and encourage women of all ages to magnify health, hope and happiness at home. We do so boldly, with humility and gratitude for the opportunity."

Thought Training


{Coming soon to Lioness: a declaration video that you will be able to watch or listen to each day, to inspire you to believe the truth about yourself! When I post it, I’m also going to give you a 30 day challenge to go with it! I’m so excited!}

But before it’s here, a few declaration ideas for you to consider adding to your repertoire this year!

“It is safe for me to express what I want and need.”

“I share my boundaries kindly, gently, respectfully and firmly.”

“I don’t have to apologize for my boundaries.”

“I speak to myself with kindness and respect.”

Or how about these?

“I am an intuitive woman.”

“I quickly trust and follow the inspiration I receive from God.”

“I listen with respect to the ideas of others.”

“I cultivate a spirit of cooperation between family members and friends.”

Another group of personal truths may be:

“I give thanks for the assistance of angels who bless me daily.”

“I cherish the relationships I have in my life.”

“I am in a constant state of gratitude.”

“I act with dignity because I know my soul is divine.”

I hope that you are getting your plans together that will support you in creating a positive and growing year ahead! Declarations are so important! Decide and do!

Much love to you,

"The mission of Lioness at the Door is to uplift, strengthen and encourage women of all ages to magnify health, hope and happiness at home. We do so boldly, with humility and gratitude for the opportunity."

Very Well!


Just a note to say, “Good work today!”

As you look back on this day, you may wonder if you did enough, or if you handled things well-

You may consider your efforts to keep peace and create order as lacking or you may be tempted to compare yourself to someone you know who seems to have everything together, and you may feel that you come up short when looking through that lens-faulty though it be.

You may wonder if you’ll last beyond sleeplessness, or if you will be able to make it through a challenging stage or growing pains that your child or your work or your marriage may be going through.

But just so you know, you’re not alone!

Many women before you have experienced and wondered the same things, and many women before you have made it beyond the very stage of life you’re in and not only lived to tell, but look back on it with wistful fondness. What an amazing time of personal growth!

I hope you’ll remember to take it just one day at a time. One story at a time. One meal at a time. One nap at a time. One prayer, one laundry day, one walk at a time.

I appreciate your dedication, investing your heart and soul and time and energy into raising well-connected and well-loved children. You amaze me!

I hope you can get some good rest; think about your successes; ask for and feel Heaven’s help and enjoy the time you have with your little ones as much as you possibly can.

You’re doing wonderfully well. Far better than you may know.

Rest well,


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Feminine and Fine


I am hearing some business and thought leaders saying that femininity is needed in our world. Hurrah!

Yes, yes I completely agree! And I’m encouraged by the growing realization that when women shift into a driven, competitive, aggressive masculine energy, it brings more imbalance to our world instead of the feminine counter balance and blessed relief that is needed! {Does it go without saying that the world at large is heavy on hardcore and light on lullabies?}

As feminine women, we can accomplish many desperately important things.

We can create things. (In fact, isn’t that the biggest accomplishment our biology affords us?)

But many of our balancing contributions come simply as we accomplish what needs to be done in a feminine way.

Why? Because the world needs tenderness; we can be tender.

The world needs strength and wisdom; we can be strong and wise.

The world needs leadership; we can lead out with gentle optimism.

The world needs to feel loved and validated; we can love and validate!

The world needs voices of reason, organization, administration, discernment, courage and kindness. Let us be those voices; women’s voices.

I hope we can tap into and embrace our most feminine selves, and the men in our lives, our counterparts, and together find joy and peace and balance in the coming year!

Embracing the soft, gentle, compassionate, assertive, inviting traits that are ours to embody… and allowing our men to develop their protective, providing masculinity.

Best wishes to you sister!


P. S. In large part, we will accomplish our feminine missions by embracing self-nourishing self-care. 

I hope you’ve recovered from the holidays and have started making plans for new and improved self-caring habits in the new year. {One of those for me is getting my ducks lined-up for Christmas sooner next time around!}

P. P. S. Remember, our feminine energy draws others to us, versus chasing them down. Food for thought isn’t it?

Another word for the ability to draw others to us is attractiveness. And generally speaking, the most attractive thing I can think of is a smiling face. Hopefully our children and spouses will see our smiling faces today and tomorrow and next week! And maybe, because of our joy, our daughters might feel to embrace their femininity in happy ways too!

Spend vs. Invest


Just a note about goal-setting for the new year…

Be strong. Have vision. Lead out.

One surefire way to bomb out on goals is to set big goals and then fail to break them down into bite-size pieces!

In Lioness coaching, we write out a vision for the year, then specific goals followed by small steps for each month and then baby steps for weeks and days.

Besides that, time-blocking pages help to create new healthy habits and mind-training skills that help to keep us mentally energized and focused on what matters most.

Lastly, I heard a quote yesterday from a very wise person:

“Are you spending your time or investing it?” Certainly, time spent thinking, praying and planning is time invested in the healthy functioning of your family! And that investment is magnified because your focus on the goals you set will help you to continue to invest your time by living your life deliberately.

That quote helps me so much, and I hope it is helpful to you too as you consider your vision for the coming year!

I wish you every happiness, health and growth in the year to come. Thank you for shining your light everywhere you go!


P.S. The foot work is already done for visioneering, goal-setting/ break-down and scheduling in the Lioness planner! I’d love you to have this kind of support in the important work you are doing at home!

P.P.S. There are pictures of our latest design in the post called “My Plan.” Check them out if you haven’t already!