You’re Not Alone


It seems to me that one of the most, if not the most, discouraging “fiery dart” is the thought and then consequent feeling that you are experiencing life alone.  That you are isolated for one of a million reasons and that leaves you wondering if anyone has ever felt as disconnected as you feel at times.

Sometimes it’s the sense that everyone else knows what is happening in a conversation or in the world for that matter, but you.  Sometimes it’s the weird zone of going to a gathering and feeling ignored.  Oh, feeling invisible is horrible.  On the other hand, being the center of attention for something you don’t want to get any attention for isn’t fun either.

Do you ever wonder how other people’s children seem to be so obedient and helpful and why you have to ask multiple times before you get your children’s attention and help?

Or does it seem that your friend’s spouses are helpful and supportive and you wonder if your spouse knows how much you need them and are missing their attention and support?

Whatever the reason you may have felt “out of it” or less than or somehow inferior to others you know, I want to reassure you that you are not alone.

We are ALL striving and wondering and at times feeling sad and at times rejoicing.  We are all riding through the ebb and flow of life, sometimes feeling tossed in the air with no handhold, and sometimes in the middle of white, rapid water and occasionally we are riding on a the smooth, glossy green surface of a serene pool, with the sun on our faces and feeling relief for a season.

I am you and you are me.  We are so much alike, frail and fragile while also strong and extremely resilient!

Please know you’re not alone.  We’re all just doing the best we can with the  knowledge we have now.  And no one is better or lives an enchanted life.  Just different challenges at different times that have different names.

Know I’m sending out my love to you today.  I love knowing that I am not the only one living here.  You are with me and I am with you.



“I like myself, I love myself and I forgive myself.  I am never alone.  I am loved and valued.  I am not better or worse than anyone else.  My needs are important.  I am worthy of having them met. I am not in competition with any of my sisters.  We are all human and doing our best.  I cannot see all of the challenges of others, just as they cannot see mine.  My heart goes out to all of God’s children.”


7 Steps Seminar Coming!


To those of you who have attended the Lioness at the Door 7 Steps to Family Wellness, seven-month seminar, may I ask a favor of you?

Would you think for a bit about the most important take away you had from your experience in seminar and share it in a comment here?

God willing, we will start the 2017 series this month and I’d love for those who are thinking about registering, to hear your favorite or most life-changing lessons.

Our 2016 groups were stellar and I love all of you!

Here is a sneak peek at what you will find in the 7 Steps Workbook:

“Now, if you’re a champion at hearing negatives, believing negatives, and feeling crippled and then paralyzed by negatives, you will have to understand that this process of learning to take control of your mind, or rather to redirect it over and over until the negative default habit is curbed,will actually make chemical changes in your body and you may encounter resistance to this new way of thinking.  Not to mention that since you have believed these untruths for so long, the truth may sound downright fake and utterly wrong!  That is, of course, more nonsense!  We are God’s children, full of promise and infinite value possessing the power to choose and to learn from our experiences.  It follows then that to progress, to move forward, we have to become our own best advocate, hear the blatant lies we have believed, and proverbially kick them to the curb!  We are Lionesses!  We are family leaders!  This is the battle to fight; the interior battle for peace within. Then we can begin to tackle other problems in our personal and family terrain.”

No more being victimized by negative thoughts. No more!”

That is a good reminder for me today. I hope it is good food for thought for you too.

If you know of someone who would thrive in seminar, please spread the word! I look forward to another growing year with another great group!


The Power


“A famous trapeze artist was instructing his students how to perform on the high trapeze bar.  Finally, having given full explanations and instruction in this skill, he told them to demonstrate their ability.

One student, looking up at the insecure perch upon which he must perform, was suddenly filled with fear. He froze completely.  He had a terrifying vision of himself falling to the ground.  He couldn’t move a muscle, so deep was his fright.  “I can’t do it!  I can’t do it!” He gasped.

The instructor put his arm around the boy’s shoulder and said, “Son, you can do it, and I will tell you how.”  Then he made a statement which is of inestimable importance.  It is one of the wisest remarks I have ever heard.  He said, “Throw your heart over the bar and your body will follow.”

Heart is the symbol of creative activity.  Fire the heart with where you want to go and what you want to be.  Get it so deeply fixed in your unconscious that you will not take no for an answer, then your entire personality will follow where your heart leads.  “Throw your heart over the bar” means to throw your faith over your difficulty, throw your affirmations over your obstacles.  In other words, throw the spiritual essence of you over the bar and your material self will follow in the victory groove thus pioneered by your faith=inspired mind.  Expect the best , not the worst, and you will attain your heart’s desire.  It is what is in the heart of you, either good or bad, strong or weak, that finally comes to you.  Emerson said, “Beware of what you want for you will get it.”

The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale

Man I love this guy! Thank you Mr. Peale for giving the world six decades of inspiration! 



” I throw my declarations over obstacles in my way!”

Multiply and Replenish


If you were giving life-affirming counsel to your children who were about to launch out on their own, in five words or less, what exactly would you want to tell them?

How would you let them know of your confidence in their ability to grow and learn?  How would you state your thoughts so clearly that they would have no need to question your expectation that they would follow in your footsteps and continue to evolve in their sphere?

I really can’t imagine anything better than the two words, multiply and replenish.

But what exactly do we multiply? And once we know that, how do we replenish “it”?

From a parent’s perspective, one of the most important things I would want to encourage my children to multiply is them! More of them in this world would be a great thing to me!  More of their goodness, and humor, more of their integrity and love.  More of their unique way of seeing and doing things, and more of their desires to lift and to bless.  Of course, I’d want more of their laughter and more of their enjoyment in the world around them and more joy in the fruit of their labors and talents they are cultivating.

Here is yet another way that being a parent is incredibly instructive. If as children of God we sometimes perceive our Father’s counsel and commands to us as something to fear or to be burdened by, using the lens of our own parenthood, much of our misperceptions can be corrected quickly.

If you wonder what the most creative being in the universe desires for you, why not take a moment and write out your desires for your children?

What would you counsel them to embrace?

What would you counsel them to avoid?

How would you encourage them to maintain their ability to chose?

What would you love to see them love about themselves?

What do you hope they will enjoy, embrace and experience while they are here?

in other words, how do you want to see them “multiply” everything they have been given?

And once you have a sense of what can be multiplied, what about the replenishing part? Is it good then, to restore ourselves after exertion?  Is it acceptable to fill ourselves back up with hope after we have experienced some kind of fear?

Again, what would you counsel your own children to do?

Most of all, it seems to me that these two expansive and resplendent words illustrate our never-ending potential; that potential that we have to use faith to wrap our heads around while we have our mortal, limited vision.

What are your thoughts?

Today I hope you will consider your potential. I hope you will allow yourself to expand and “burst the fetters of your mind.”




The Great Divorce


If you haven’t read it yet, I highly recommend The Great Divorce by C.S. Lewis.

“If it would help you, and if it were possible, I would go down with you into hell;

but you cannot bring hell into me,

I cannot love a lie.

I cannot love the thing which is not.

I am in Love, and out of it I will not go.”


If or when you decide to devour this short story, I would love to discuss it with you!

(I am finally post-surgery, and I’m too loopy to type. 🐸)

All my love,