Self-care ideas

Ideas and inspiration about the need to care for ones self

You’re Beautiful!

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At the close of this day, may I offer these few words:

Life is wonderful.
Love is amazing.
Nature is stunning.
Music is inspiring.
Poetry is transcending.
Growth is encouraging.
And our pain is instructive.
And you, you are beautiful and making the world and all it’s possibilities come alive for your loved ones.
Now, take care of that beauty! Maintain your sense of awe at all creation! Cultivate your sense of humor, relax into the love in your life and continue to turn your face upward in gratitude and outward to those around you!

All is well.
Tomorrow will have it’s own cares.
For now, your efforts for today are enough. You are enough.

Rest my friend.

Love,

Jacque

Behavior IS Communication

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One thing that is sometimes difficult for me to wrap my head around, is the observation that our children’s behavior is a form of communication.

Particularly true of small children who are doing their best to communicate their needs to us, while not always having the words they need and or a regular dose of our full attention.

So, just a word to the wise, as I have learned the hard way many times, if a child is acting outoften it is a plea for your attention and your help.

You might ask yourself, “Am I preoccupied most of the time, or even a good portion of the day? Or am I pretty present in the time that I spend with my children throughout the day?”

You might look for signs of your own preoccupation with projects you’re excited about or work or even something as simple as your phone. Those signs might be that you don’t consistently look into your child’s face when they are speaking to you. You may have to ask them to repeat themselves multiple times before you really hear what they are trying to tell you. You may not realize that your child hasn’t been dressed for the day until after lunchtime or that they haven’t had their hair combed in a week. Or you may find that your frustration level is skyrocketing as you are trying to do several things at once and your kids seem to be blocking your progress.

My friend, as C.S. Lewis beautifully said, “Children are not distractions from more important work. They are the most important work.”

As we grow-up more ourselves, we realize that:

1 Babies and children are not trying to sabotage our efforts, they are simply trying to get their needs met.
2 When kids receive our freely given, undivided attention on a regular basis, the more they trust that their needs will be met, and oftentimes, as a result, their behavior magically calms down. They may be striving with all they’ve got to get you to notice them! And giving them regular attention is much more rewarding for both of you than cleaning up crazy messes made from radical behavior! The deal is, one way or another they will turn your head, now or in the future.
3 Children feel loved by being cared for, such as being clean, brushed, groomed and clothed. It doesn’t take much time, but it makes a big difference!
4 As a caregiver, having your needs met is equally important! But you are the one in charge of that care too. It’s part of growing up to learn to care for yourself.

I hope that these thoughts offer a little insight to those of you who are in the trench right now! Keep moving forward and take life a day at a time…and slow it down to an hour at a time when you are sleep deprived!

Much love,

Jacque

P.S. If you are an intense person like I am, know that your intensity can totally overwhelm a small person who doesn’t go at your speed! They are going to be listening for your vibe maybe more than your words (as a friend kindly pointed out to me!) so practice calming yourself down instead of getting more intense when you seem to be at odds with your child. That little piece of advice is golden if you’ll give it a try.

 

Decaying Compost (and other uplifting thoughts)

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Granny and Grandpa used to do the crossword puzzle every day because they wanted to retain mental sharpness. And it surely didn’t hurt! They were both sharp when they passed away at 80 and 94. And not long ago, I saw a man in the news who was in his 90’s who wanted to be part of a commemoration and so he went to a physical therapist for several months to strengthen his body so that he could make the trip and join occasion. Isn’t that impressive!?

Those generations ahead of me, were hard working people. They weren’t afraid of work (I think most considered it a privilege that offered them dignity versus the derogatory way some people view it today) and it showed in the things they were able to accomplish and the legacy they have left for us.

I hope to follow their tracks and continue to learn and set goals. Because we know what happens when we let things go! When we stop working on learning to play the piano (uh-hem, that hurts) or that second language; If we sit down and don’t get up much or if we stop bathing or eating well.

What happens is we get weak.

Weak in the mind, weak in our abilities and talents, weak in our families and weak in our bodies.

The deal is, if left to itself, nature rots like the garden compost pile. If we don’t move, our muscles atrophy. If we don’t bathe, bacteria eats our flesh. If a house is left empty, it deteriorates. If left unattended, our thoughts get blown about. If neglected and abandoned, our faith dies.

There is rehabilitation and healing for physical, mental, emotional and spiritual weakness. And it begins with desire and ends with blessed work.

Do you sometimes feel that it shouldn’t take so much effort to maintain a positive mental outlook? Or a feeling of spiritual strength and resolve? Well, those states of being are no different than a muscle that has atrophied. We must move and exercise our minds and our faith to make them stronger, just as we would do pull-ups to strengthen our arms.

Because they take effort does not mean that they contrived. It means that we live in the law of the harvest in this world and we must practice pushing back!

Push back those negative thoughts. Push back the doubt and fear. Push back the sluggishness. Push back the darkness.

Decide what you want to do. Decide who you want to serve. Decide what you want to learn. Decide when you will practice and lift and exercise and study and build and pray.

Then use your hunger for happiness and hope and joyfully move beyond where you were today.

Be well! Be you! The world needs you! Most importantly, your family (present and future) needs you.

Love,

Jacque

 

 

Lioness Planners!

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This year, {I’m so excited to say!} you can choose between two styles of Lioness planners! Next year we will keep these two current styles, and add two more, making four styles in all. {A big thanks to Shantel Peaden at Red Ladder Design for her thoughtful work!}

Here is another sneak peek at some of the pages we designed with you in mind!

But first, a few thoughts. These books are 214 pages of simplifying, systematizing, self-care logging, sanity-saving bliss. Not to mention that they are feminine and beautiful, to suit you.

We’re working on a landing page for these babies, so that you can quickly order one if you would like, but for now it’s just, “hey Jacque, I want one of those!” in the comments or in an email ok?

And just a note to all you free-spirits out there that feel that having a plan is going to cramp your style: quite the opposite is true! Having plans means life is lighter and easier and gives you more time to do the creative things you want to do! I think you’ll find that even making plans, as it turns out, is a creative pursuit!

I hope you had a great Tuesday. Mine was a whirlwind! Whew, time for bed!

Take care,

Jacque

Massage, Marinate, Memorize

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Here’s a mantra idea for this beautiful new year: massage, marinate and memorize!

First, massage your plan! Yes, take the time to work out your goals and plans, be dedicated about your time-blocking and then as you’re living those plans, massage them to make them enjoyable and doable! If things end up feeling too harried, rethink that part of your schedule, wiggle it until it’s a better fit. Pay attention to the kind of “stress” you have, whether it is heavy, under-the-gun type or the anticipating and somewhat excited kind! If you can mentally flip it around from heavy to light, by all means do it now! {If not, see the last suggestion for another idea.}

We all need self-care. But if you are living a life of care giving, make sure that you are marinating in self-care as much as you possibly can! {Marinating is thoroughly soaked!} I read a line today from C.S. Lewis, “we must think of a King at peace, enthroned, taking his leisure, serene.” That struck me. While we aren’t kings with servants and constant royal treatment, we are, in the big picture, God’s daughters and therefore royal. Maybe we could consider creating self-care that matches that title! Are you worthy of peace and serenity? Of course! So do all you can to cultivate peace and serenity in your day to day life. Be present and enjoy all of the simple blessings in your life!

Need a bit of a lift in the way you see your responsibilities or in your ability to set a few goals or to dream about how you would like things to go? Now is the time to memorize the declarations you need to support those shifts! In order for them to be really effective, you need to be able to repeat them often, so make them:
-short and sweet
-direct and powerful
-present tense and positive!
Then rehearse, rehearse, rehearse!

“I am happy and content.”
“I am grateful and constantly counting my blessings.”
“I am loved.”
“I take time to nourish myself.”
“I am worthy of constant care.”
“I break my goals into bite-sized pieces.”

I hope that you have your sights set on a great year ahead, doing small things {for yourself and others} with great love–which adds up to leaving a loving legacy of dignity, serenity and joyful peace.

Be well.

Love,

Jacque