Hey Sista! I hope this finds you well and in good spirits!

Here’s a Real Love idea that I’ve been determined to understand and live. (It’s amazing the process we go through as we’re learning isn’t it? We grasp a little here and a little there, we have the rude awakening of seeing ourselves more clearly, we study some more, and then, gradually, almost imperceptibly, our new knowledge shows up in our behavior, though we still make a lot of mistakes and we still need to be clued-in while we practice!)

So here’s the idea, quoted from the Real Love in Marriage book by Dr. Greg Baer:

“*When you get angry, admit that you’re attacking people for the purpose of protecting yourself or getting something from them.

*When you withdraw from a difficult situation, admit that you’re running.

*When you hide your true feelings or you outright lie about a mistake you’ve made, admit that you’re lying.

*When you’re complaining about some terrible injustice–about how something just wasn’t “fair,” or how someone should have done something for you–tell the truth about acting like a victim.”

I am blown away by the simplicity, honesty and quantum leap potential these straight forward suggestions have on any given situation.

No defending. No crying. No silence. No lying. No attacking. No mess to clean up later.

Just the actual truth, which instantly inspires openness and honesty from others.

And most of all, a swift softening of hearts.

It works, and it is the Gospel truth.

Love and all my best to you today!

The mission of Lioness at the Door is to uplift, strengthen and encourage women of all ages to magnify health, hope and happiness at home. We do so boldly, with humility and gratitude for the opportunity.

P.S. If you would care to, please share what happens when you realize you’re angry, and you have the grit to try Dr. Baer’s suggestions. (Miracles await!)

P.P.S. We cannot pull agency and anger apart. We are not victims to it, no matter how much we’d like to think of ourselves as being innocently “made” to be angry.

P.P.P.S. Instead, we are responsible for our decision to become angry, and the havoc that blind, insensitive, harsh, and oh-so-not-justified emotion can wreak on our relationships with the tender, growing people we love. We’ve all got to learn this!