Part of self-care is taking care of yourself with other people.
Sometimes a gut-wrenching experience….for me, maybe it’s not for you.
When you are honest with yourself, do you see that you being treated poorly on a regular basis? Maybe not being treated with the respect you deserve?
Or do you quickly speak up to let others know how you expect to be treated?
Now, thinking back, can you say that when you are communicating these expectations that you are kind, gentle, respectful and firm?
It has been a long journey for me to get to where I know what my voice sounds like when I am using all of those attributes together.
Maybe you have practiced and have a solid grasp on the art of this, and if so, I’m glad! The world certainly needs, desperately needs, people who can work through differences with civility; who can cultivate a team mentality when working with complex issues and mulitple perspectives; who can lead with decisive action while keeping relationships strong and loving; who can set an example of offering clarity while showing extra love.
In my view, these abilities are the epitome of principle centered leadership, the attainment of which is a worthy, life-long pursuit.
Practice, practice, practice. Ask for forgiveness when we get it wrong. Move forward. Practice, practice, practice.
I wish you great success!
Love,
Jacque
P.S. There is no justification for yelling, threatening, name-calling, withholding love, hitting, belittling, or any other bad behavior. These behaviors are simply a red flag flying to tell you that boundaries need to be set, or that a boundary has been crossed by one or both parties. Consider how you can correct that situation using kindness, respect, gentleness, all while being firm.