Self-validation sounds like this:
“My feelings matter and I care about my well-being.”
“I am kind, gentle, respectful and firm with myself.”
“I am worthy of my own love and attention.”
“I am capable of making decisions for myself.”
“I can learn and I continue to challenge myself.”
Self-validation is evident in these behaviors:
I respect my body, my limits and my needs. I put good food and nourishing drinks into my body. I move and exercise in ways that are fun to me. I keep myself groomed and clean. I dress myself in clean and well-fitting clothing. When I need help, I ask for it.
In relationships, validation looks like this:
I give my family and friends the benefit of the doubt and am gracious in my interactions with them. I am kind, gentle, respectful and firm as a parent and leader. I am respectful of others even when they aren’t present. I honestly want to learn and progress and want my relationships to grow. I am dedicated, loyal and thoughtful.
As I’ve mentioned before, the principles of validation take practice, practice and more practice. The good news is that as long as we are drawing breath, practice opportunities abound!
Start with yourself, and you will see that when you feel validated, validating others will come naturally and with ease.
All my love and best wishes for your success!
Jacque