Do you ever get to feeling that you are run ragged? That you are coming apart at the seams? That the clothes aren’t fitting or the haircut is desperate or a million and two other issues have come up that are adding to your sense of disarray?
First a truth: My friend, if you are in the role of nurturing others, YOU NEED NURTURING.
You need women in your life. You need a hug. You need a haircut. You need a massage. You need a smile and a listening ear. We don’t give much nurturing when we don’t or won’t receive any! Instead of being warm and gracious, we get tactless and demanding. Instead of offering clarity and comfort, we bite people’s heads off and let others fend for themselves in times when we ought not.
So, if you happen to be in the habit of self-neglect, I imagine the question you may be asking is how can I possibly have the time or the money or __________ to make that happen? Let me give you a little love here.
Remember the thing about feminine energy? That it is drawing energy not pushy and hunting-you-down kind of energy? {One of the sure-fire ways to know if you are out of your native space is to think about how you are going about dealing with people in your life. Drawing or chasing?}
Well, you use that feminine energy and you draw it to you. As a daughter, you humbly ask God for help. You loose the attitude. (That in fact was the answer I received to a prayer not long ago! “Jacque, loose the attitude so I can help you.” I was corrected, so I’m passing on the love.) You trade a friend for babysitting so that you can get your haircut. You kindly, gently, respectfully and firmly let your spouse know that you need some care and ask for his support. And, then you reciprocate so that his needs can be met as well.
Please, please, please don’t walk around whining and complaining about the world and every one in it! Please don’t allow your words to be a proverbial downpour on someone’s day because you are feeling neglected. You can stop being or feeling neglected this very minute.
Decide to change.
Help yourself.
Nurture yourself.
Be kind to yourself.
Get the assistance you need.
Did you know that you are most powerful when you are in a place of self-acceptance and self-love?
And the beauty is that you don’t have to wait for the ills of society to be healed first before you help yourself to live happily and in balance.
Need help? Get a counselor. Get a coach. Find someone to which you can hold yourself accountable.
Change. Let go. Repent. Create the life you want.
Ok now, how do I sign-off after a rant like this?
I believe in you! You can do this! And your marriage and family will be all the better for it!
Yep, that’s it.
Jacque