Expectations Be Banished!


Do you ever ride the roller coaster of “failed” expectations?

Such as when a holiday comes and you have some special hopes in mind, things that your spouse might do to celebrate an occasion or to show you that they care?

And then maybe that day comes and those hopes, that may have morphed into big expectations, may not be realized?

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Seems as though this has happened to every one at least once!

I really believe this is most likely another case for beefing up self-care!

We need to show ourselves that we care, and not depend solely on someone else to give us that cared for and nurtured feeling.

We need to celebrate our lives and not give so much of our power to others. Particularly if we are expecting that someone will have the ability to read our minds to divine what it is we want!

If you need something, I hope you’ll find a way to provide that for yourself.

If you want something, I hope you’ll speak up and let those important people in your life know all about it!

And, I hope you will take a moment to feel your blessings today!


“The mission of Lioness at the Door is to uplift, strengthen and encourage women of all ages to magnify health, hope and happiness at home. We do so boldly, with humility and gratitude for the opportunity.”



Anyone working on getting rid of a cold or the flu at your house?

I hope not, but if so, here’s a simple idea for making lemon juice ice cubes and a soothing tea of lemon, ginger and honey.

When you find lemons for a good price, stock up and juice them all at once. You can pour the juice into ice-cube trays, freeze and then transfer the lemon cubes to a freezer bag.

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When you’re ready to make tea {or anything that calls for fresh lemon juice} you can pop a frozen cube into your cup!

For tea, add:
1/2 – 1 tsp powdered ginger {or use fresh sliced or grated ginger}
1 lemon juice cube {or lemon slice}
1 tsp raw honey
to a cup of hot water.

Let the tea sit until it cools off to warm. {Hot temps aren’t good for the stomach.}

Ginger is invigorating; lemon is full of vitamin C and honey is antibacterial and soothing.

I hope you will be stay well! But if anyone at your house needs a little boost, I hope this simple recipe will help.


Lemon ice-cubes!

Day 30- Victory!


I’m so proud of you! I’m so proud of us!

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Wow, we made it to day 30! Huuuurah!!!

So now I ask, what did you learn about yourself during this process?

Have you spent more time building your reserves?

Have you improved some aspect of your health or home?

Have you deepened your emotional reservoir or your mental strength and agility?

Have you started some new self-care routines or strengthened previously learned healthy habits?

If so, I’m glad!

I’ve been on the challenge with you and it’s been a good ride! Today, I’ll share some of my epiphanies and hope that you will share some of yours with all of us too!

1 I was reminded how much I push and how I need to ease off sooner, before I am really tired.

2 That self-talk is truly the river of information that is feeding and directing every emotion and behavior!

3 That I start hitting walls of resistance just before I get to the stage of “dripping with self-care” and that I will continue to practice until I am really comfortable and at home in that abundantly nurtured space.

4 That when I am focused on my blessings, I see them everywhere!

5 That when I lighten-up and just enjoy the up’s and down’s of each day, I am more able to be present, which is where I feel the love and support that is always around me.

6 That when I am thinking ahead, my stress goes down! When I have anticipated my needs (and those of my family), life is so much easier!

7 That I don’t run on adrenaline anymore.

8 That I really like my life.

9 That by bringing more of what I love into being, I am really bringing more love and beauty to the world.

10 That I need people–my family being at the top of the list! They teach me daily and love me always, in my weakness and in strength.

I hope that you have gained new insights into what makes you feel nurtured and cared for.

I hope you have greater skills to find and employ those important caring habits.

I hope you have a stronger sense of the purpose and necessity of self-care and a greater dedication to the cause of becoming your best and healthiest self.

What an incalculable gift your health is to your family and friends! How much they are depending on your ability to stand with quiet dignity at your divinely given post!

{You know, I mean standing with quiet dignity at least in your soul- who knows, you might be dancing and singing on the outside!}

Be strong and of a good courage as you continue on!
There will be more holistic health coaching challenges coming up! I hope you’ll join me!

Thank you, thank you for being here.

Love always,

“The mission of Lioness at the Door is to uplift, strengthen and encourage women of all ages to magnify health, hope and happiness at home. We do so boldly, with humility and gratitude for the opportunity.”

Day 29- Write a New Story


The story that is being told in our heads can determine whether we truly care for ourselves or not.

And how easy or difficult self-care will be.

If it’s a negative or stagnant story, it may be draining our energy and resources.

If it’s a story of forward motion, of forgiveness and reconciliation, of accountability and change, it’s probably giving us energy!

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If we are hearing strains of kindness and worth, we’ll be drawn to the things that will bless us with greater health and happiness.

If we are running a mental program of feeling less than or unworthy, we may push away the things that would help us feel better.

What’s your story?

How close is it between what you believe about yourself and what God’s truth is about you?

To ensure that your self-care behaviors continue, consider getting a paper and pencil, or better yet, pull out your journal and write a new story about your life! About what you believe about where you’ll be in the future.

This doesn’t have to be a time-consuming exercise, just jot down the way you want to see yourself and the way you want to see your future and the ways that you need to care for yourself.

Even a few paragraphs can be life-changing.

Once you have a few things on paper, make a simple copy to put on your mirror or closet, or anywhere you’ll see it often.

Then practice playing that new story in your mind throughout the coming days– and enjoy the self-care that you, a positive and contented person can create and accept.

I wish you every good thing!

Much love,

“The mission of Lioness at the Door is to uplift, strengthen and encourage women of all ages to magnify health, hope and happiness at home. We do so boldly, with humility and gratitude for the opportunity.”

Day 28- Pay The Price


I have a friend who is struggling mightily to find purpose and meaning in existence, and to discover anything that will trump their thoughts of anxiety and worry in day to day life.

It’s a massive struggle and, it’s also challenging to watch!

Mostly because there is a way out, but it has to be chosen, and no one else can do the choosing!

You might say that a world that consists of a universe with one person in the middle is the definition of misery.

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It’s a spiral turning, ever turning, inward and downward, becoming isolation itself.

I’ve been through segments of time like this, so I have great empathy for those who currently looking for a key to the door!

As we evolve through our challenges and come to see evidences of the grit inside us that refuses to give up! And we come to recognize one liberating key to change is redirecting the spinning, inward, self-absorptive thoughts, and start spinning our attention outward! Out toward anyone and everyone around us. Those who need our care and concern; those who are desperate for a hand to hold; those who have made mistakes or who are sick. {Guess that includes all of us.}

{Note: Lest any of us are tempted at this point to start thinking that self-care is self-centered, I offer this reminder: we care for ourselves in part because we behave in ways that are loving toward ourselves and others, and because we know that the preparation of self-care enables us to give.}

What a relief it becomes to stop being a proverbial black hole and start adding to the collective good. But what does it cost?

It costs our being replaced in the picture. We aren’t the center, {thank heaven!} we are, gratefully, one of many beloved children who need each other.

It costs our prayers as we tune into the Spirit of God to learn what needs to happen next and where we might be most useful each day.

It costs our effort. Not only working to see the needs of those around us but also the energy to reach out in strength and offer support.

It costs being willing to initiate the process of building relationships and connections, which might feel risky or be out of our comfort– but which can lead to the give and take of healthy interdependence!

It costs our pride, since we don’t know the why’s of anyone’s situation and can’t begin to judge. “There, but for the grace of God, go I!”

It costs our life-long devotion to the cause of building people and furthering causes that alleviate suffering and despair.

But the reward is worth it!

Not only are we rescued from our own neediness, but we are given a chance to become part of something truly Good and so much bigger than ourselves.

The ticket for us to get on the train of peace and progress is bought and paid for. But we do have to let go of fear and the distracting and self-absorptive past-times we’ve created in order to take the ride.

I wish you joy. Great joy, as you are about ministering to those within your sphere of influence.

With love,

“The mission of Lioness at the Door is to uplift, strengthen and encourage women of all ages to magnify health, hope and happiness at home. We do so boldly, with humility and gratitude for the opportunity.”