Day 5- Warm Oil Treat


Are the words and music, colors and pictures from the video getting inside your head? I hope so! {Heather, Stacy and the rest: I’m grateful for you talented and beautiful women! For your work on and appearance in this project! Thank you again!}

The tip for today is so simple you may think it isn’t a big deal. But please don’t be deceived by the simplicity of it! It is a powerful self-care tool.

It’s called a warm oil rub and it’s a bit of heaven.

All you need is a little olive oil, a clean cloth and a few minutes of quiet, to-yourself time. Yes, the alone part is most likely the biggest challenge isn’t it?

When you step out of the shower or bath, have your oil and cloth nearby. Simply pour a small amount of oil onto the cloth and gently rub the it into a small area of your skin with slow, circular motions. Repeat this process until you have a light layer of oil all over!

This exercise is more soothing and healing than you can imagine just thinking about it. It is nurturing and calming. Not only, calming to your mind but also calming and nourishing to your nervous system!

I hope you decide when you might be able to try this self-care treat and make it happen. Doesn’t cost much, doesn’t take much time, but it has far reaching results!

I wish you a renewed sense of calm and peace in your life.


“The mission of Lioness at the Door is to uplift, strengthen and encourage women of all ages to magnify health, hope and happiness at home. We do so boldly, with humility and gratitude for the opportunity.”

Day 4- Get Moving


As I mentioned in a previous post, please take only the self-care ideas you need from these posts, and just keeping working all the good habits you already have going in your life! To meet the 30 Day Challenge, you don’t necessarily need to do something new everyday. Any self-care counts!

That said, here’s a plug for you to get moving a little more if need be!

There is a system in your body that moves fluid and waste to help you stay hydrated, nourished and cleaned out! It’s called your lymph system and it depends on your muscles moving in order to work well!

Your blood circulates because your amazing heart muscle pumps it throughout your body. But your lymph system moves as you do!

When your feet roll off the ground, your lymph pumps.

When your large muscles move, your lymph pumps!

Have any water weight hanging around? Move your muscles.

Have a sluggish feeling or getting over an illness your body is trying to clean out? Move.

Move in water. Gently stretch. Walk. Dance. Run and jump! Whatever you are up to doing.

Doesn’t have to be strenuous. Doesn’t have to take a lot of time. In fact, just focusing on moving while you are living is great!

Put your muscle into cleaning that kitchen floor! Bounce up the stairs or walk to your next appointment or ride your bike.

I’m so glad to have you here!

I hope you are gaining strength from watching the video and from all the ways you are caring for yourself!

Sending you love!

P.S. Don’t forget to chime in this week and let us know what is working for you!

Day 3- Declare It!


I hope you’re having a great week thus far, and I hope you are enjoying the video and blog post prompts to shift the way you care for yourself.

I’m so glad you’re here!

Today, I want to encourage you to take 10-15 minutes and write out 5-10 declarations that will support you, based on the challenges you are currently facing.

Let me explain.

You’re hearing in the video, declarations of truth about you as a Divine daughter, wife, mother, sister and friend.

I believe that every statement is absolutely true, and that the more you hear them, the more you will believe and then act on them.

What are declarations exactly? Declarations are present-tense, positive statements designed to help you jump past faulty beliefs to clearer, truer beliefs about yourself.

I have found that they are most powerful when they are crafted to meet the obstacle that is before you right now!

For instance, if fear of something is keeping you from moving forward, you might declare a new assertive approach in taking giant leaps forward!

If you feel worried about an upcoming event, you can turn it around and clearly state your faith and trust that things are going to turn out well.

A habitual thought might be:
“I can never stay on top of cleaning this house!”

The declaration you craft to counter that belief might be:
“I love my clean home! I plan my work and work my plan!”

Or you might think to yourself,
“No one appreciates the work I do every day.”
Recognizing the energy-zapping negativity in those words you could instead declare,
“My work is important and I can feel gratitude from my family every day.”

The truth is, we can’t change other people, but we can change our focus which can change our beliefs, which can change our perception!

We can chose to speak of the things we want as if they were present to us, and our minds believe us!

If we spend time worrying, we are using our creative energy backwards!

We are agents, not objects. That means we have been given the power to act instead of waiting to have something or someone act upon or for us.

If we go with the flow of the negativity in our minds, we are being sloppy, lazy and unwise! 
When we hear ourselves singing the song of self-pity or even self-contempt, we can stop and repent! Right now!

And no worries, this exercise doesn’t take long!

Grab a paper and a pencil. Think about something that is giving you grief or that you are wondering how you are going to handle.

Then flip it around and write it out in positive present tense!

“I’m not very good at exercising and heaven knows I need to lose this weight!” Flip!

“I exercise in ways that are fun for me! I love my body and I thank Heaven for it!”

“I don’t know if I can keep up with this self-care challenge…?” Flip!

“I enjoy every minute of learning to better care for myself! I am investing in the health of my whole family when I give myself what I need each day.”

Girl! You’ve got this declaration writing thing!

Now, once you write your personal declarations down, put them to work by repeating them 2-3 times each day. Post them where you will see them. Say them aloud. Sing them at the top of your lungs or say them in a whisper. Just do what it takes to get them in your head!

This I promise you: They. Are. Life. Changing.

Be your fierce, loving, tender, supportive happy self by deciding now to be in charge of the way you think.

You get to chose what conversation is happening in your pretty head!

It takes practice, but you can do it!

Sending you lots of love,

"The mission of Lioness at the Door is to uplift, strengthen and encourage women of all ages to magnify health, hope and happiness at home. We do so boldly, with humility and gratitude for the opportunity."

Day 2: Hydration & Baby Steps Count!


When we think about making healthy changes, sometimes we want to change everything all at once! {That go-big-or-go-home thinking can sometimes paralyze us, even when we are feeling extremely motivated!}

That is partly why we are doing this challenge in a really short time-frame! We are going to practice taking baby steps toward a healthier life, for ourselves and for those who depend on us. But I want to stress at the onset, one simple and very powerful truth:

The small things we do, that lead to growth and progress, in this case better self-care, are really the big things!

Likewise, the small things we do for ourselves, our spouse, our children, our neighbors and friends often leave the greatest impact.

So as we dig in, please hold that thought in your mind. There isn’t a positive step you can take forward that is too small.
It will count.

Also, some of the ideas I give may be things you already do! Or, on a given day you may have a greater need for something other than what I write about. Please implement the idea for the day, or whatever else it is that you need right then ok? Ok!

Day 2: Hydrate your cells. Yep it’s basic. But are we doing it as well as we should?

This hydration recipe has been a Godsend to me. I hope it might benefit you too:

Stir together,

1 pitcher of clean water {no chlorination}
juice of half a lemon
1/4 tsp Real salt
1 Tbs raw honey

and drink it throughout the day. Salt actually helps you absorb water and other nutrients. And electrolyte balance is crucial for nerve and muscle function.

When we get busy, sometimes we forget to drink enough water.
We may think that drinking milk or juice or even soda is enough.
But our bodies need just plain water, consistently, every day.

Do you recognize some of these signs of dehydration in yourself?

Dark {or highly concentrated} urine
Brain fog
Muscle aches
Dry lips
Dry skin

If you experience any of these symptoms on a regular basis, try increasing your water intake and see if they improve. The first sign I notice is that my lips feel dry. Second symptom is headache. Red flags! Need water!

We know that drinking water is a fundamental need!

And there is most likely nothing in the way of us taking care of this need except maybe for ignorance or busy-ness. Yikes!

Think of it: if you live where there is clean water whenever you turn on the plumbing that brings it right to your sink, why would you not get enough? Are there any reasons that make sense? I can’t think of any either.

But! I remember as a young mom thinking that if I drank too much, I’d just be running to the bathroom all day! And when I did try to drink more, that usually was what happened because I was so dehydrated in the first place. Let me explain. {I once heard this explanation that has helped me visualize the need to keep water moving through my body.}

What happens when you throw a dry sponge onto a sink or tub full of water? It floats right? At least until the water slowly starts to be absorbed into the fibers of the sponge.

If you only drink enough to stay alive, and you’re chronically in a state of dehydration, you don’t absorb the water as well as you would if you were more hydrated in the first place! Make sense?

So drink and get past the “floating sponge” stage and into a fully hydrated kidney stage. You’ll run to the bathroom less. At least that is my experience.

Eat more whole, fresh food!

Plants have the job of putting nutrients in their fluids for us to consume! A juicy orange is full of nutrients designed just for us. Lettuce, tomatoes, apples, carrots, even squash and root vegetables give us fluid that is rich in nutrient value.

Stop drinking soda.

Soda acts as a diuretic that causes you to dump fluid, along with the minerals and nutrients your body needs! Please, please, don’t consume chemical-sugar-and or artificial sweetener-laden fluid! Your filtration system will have to work harder to clean it out of your body. Don’t get in the way of your miraculous body working as well as it possibly can by pouring such waste into it. {We wouldn’t do that to our cars would we?}

Hydration looks youthful.

Dewy skin is youthful skin. That is another way of saying hydrated skin and tissues not only function better, but look better too.

I hope you enjoyed the declaration video today! I hope you will lovingly care for yourself today! I hope you will chime in and report one thing you have done to care for yourself each week!

A healthy mama is a happy mama. And our families will reap the benefits of our health and happiness!

Be well!

2019-Here We Come!


Are you ready to take a little self-care journey with me and the Lionesses who are currently engaged in the 7 Steps to Family Wellness seminar?

{If you want increase the likelihood of your success in this challenge, declare your intention to join us in the comments below! Say, “Count me in!”}

Why self-care? Why is it so crucially important? Here’s a little exercise that may address that question.

Imagine with me, the kind of person with whom you would like your children to spend the most time.

Is she wired? Is she cranky? Is she glaring? Is she insecure?

Is she lovely? Is she kind? Is she solid in the knowledge of who she is and what she values?

Is she humble? Is she gaining wisdom through her teachableness and humility?

The person you imagine, who is lovely and gaining wisdom through the things she is learning is you! Or your very best self!

Can you see yourself with an eye of grace?

Can you see that with self-care practices in place, you can spend your family time being kind, gentle, respectful and firm?

Can you imagine yourself clean, rested, nourished and calm?

Can you visualize yourself gaining a greater sense of where you end and where others begin, or in other words, what responsibilities are yours, and which problems belong to others?

This is the girl we want to uncover, more and more each day with the practice of self-care.

She is the happy and confident person you will continue to develop as your self-care leads to greater self-love, self-knowledge and self-acceptance.

So, let’s begin day one where all your power resides: your soul. You are not your mind. You are not your opinions. You are not your desires. You are not your appetites.

You are the spirit-light that was created by your Heavenly Parents, which is now housed in the body your earthly parents created, that through their love and by their sacrifice, you could experience this physical world! What a gift life is!

It makes sense then that we turn toward light because we are light. Like the flower growing next to my desk, we sense truth and light and we turn toward it for sustenance.

So, the first self-care idea I offer as we begin our 30-day challenge is to spend time every day feeding your soul.

What does that mean to you?

To me, it means connecting to Heaven. Turning my face upward. Giving thanks! Praying to feel God’s love for me. Praying to feel God’s love for everyone else.

It mean pouring out my cares, thoughts, feelings and adoration to Him. Listening for the soft answers that come. For direction of my thoughts. For clarity when my thinking is in error. For patience with myself and my progress.

I pray. I listen. To build and strengthen that connection over and over and over again.

You ask for light when you feel darkness around you.

Ask for power when you need to forgive.

Ask for the strength to be kind when you feel like being harsh.

Ask, “Who am I?” and listen to the Love that answers you back.

Be still.

Take time for stillness. {Even in very small snatches!}

Will this self-care practice be a help to you?

With this connection growing, we will then work on teaching ourselves how we want to think with the instrument of our minds. How we want to feel with the beautiful instruments of the matter that is our physical selves. We will better learn to validate and to be validated!

To help you with this connection, we have created a video for you!

Please take the challenge to watch or listen to it each day. The music was written for the words. The pictures were taken or chosen to compliment the spirit of the words and the music.

It all was created with very specific tones, colors, faces, rhythms and thoughts. We hope it will be a force for good in your life!

Do your best to listen to the phrases. Take them in, digest them and make them yours.

In your imagination, see yourself on the beach. See yourself looking at the sky. See yourself “wrapped in silken, emerald down,” and feel the love! {Have you ever wrapped-up in a down-filled comforter? That is down I’m talking about!}

If you have snatches of insights come to you while you listen, take ten seconds and write them down. Prepare to be changed. Loosen up your mind and let softness and quiet come into your heart.

{To remind yourself of the parameters of this Lioness challenge, refer to the post titled, “The 2019 Self-Care Challenge.”}

Special thanks to Stacy Casperson, photography; Heather Bosshardt, music and voice; Carlin Scott, Lindsey Ipson, Jenny Sullivan, Breanna Fowles, Kami Gardner, Staci Casperson, Marisol and anyone else who helped or participated in this production. My love and thanks to you talented, beautiful women!