Hello! I hope you are well!
In the realm of family life, why is it so important to see ourselves (our behavior, our facial expressions, our attitudes, our tone of voice, our loving-ness or our unloving-ness) in our interactions with our loved ones?
The answer is simply that nothing is going to change until we do.
If we’re waiting for someone else to change, we’ll stay stuck. (Victimhood thinking is the sign of a stagnant, stinky brain!)
And if we’re entertaining even the slightest I-am-the-victim-here thinking, we are actively pushing the truth away and we won’t be able to get traction on our healing path!
(Side note: you know how I recognize that mode so easily and well? Just like any recovering addict can recognize when someone is not telling the truth, I can hear and see victimhood a mile away because I am so well acquainted with it in my own brain!)
Confused about where you are in this learning-the-principles-of-unconditional-love journey? All you need do is look in the mirror, at your children and your spouse and your relationship with yourself and them to know where you are!
When you are feeling unconditionally loved, you will be speaking kindly to yourself.
When they are feeling unconditionally loved, they will be loving toward you too. And toward each other.
If things are stressful and contentious at your house, this truth-telling step hasn’t been taken yet, or hasn’t been repeated and maintained.
Tell the truth.
Even if everyone isn’t on board and committed to Real Love principles, that’s ok. If you are committed, peace is on the way!
Tell the truth.
Why is truth always the first step in healing? Because accountability puts us in the driver’s seat!
Simply, tell the truth.
After we’ve told the truth about ourselves, and owned our own behavior, then will they see us as a friend and teacher.
Go ahead, tell the truth about your thinking and behavior errors. It is miraculous what love awaits on the other side of our truth telling moments!
Sending Real Love your way and wishing you Godspeed,
P. S. There are many Real Love books by Dr. Greg Baer to choose from. If you haven’t started reading and studying these principles yet, I encourage you to take the plunge! The moment you move into action, is the moment your family will begin to heal. We can do this!
“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” 2 Timothy 1:7