Step Up to Lead Out


Recently I was asked the question, “Who do you lead?”  My response was, everyone I meet. And I’d say that that is true for you too. Aren’t we all influencing one another in large and small ways, almost constantly? And doesn’t influence also mean leadership?

Every word that comes out of our mouths informs others about what we value, what we have read, who we are and who is influencing us!

I truly believe that we cannot chose whether or not we will be influenced, but only by whom and what we will give enough time and attention to in order to be influenced. So hopefully we’ll be intentional about it.

And it’s not just our words that let others know who we are is it?

Oftentimes, it is the respect we show ourselves by caring for our bodies. Not consistently over-taxing ourselves nor allowing others to unduly burden us either. Stopping when we are tired. Or if you’re a guru at self-care, taking any opportunity you have to rest and recharge.

At times we inform others by our behavior that our needs aren’t that important. We can go without. We will be ok. And yet, we are human too. Yes, we love. Yes, we sacrifice to bring souls here to have a physical experience. Yes, it is very strenuous work! So it is imperative that we keep our reservoirs of emotional, physical, mental and spiritual strength as full as possible.

Mothers, please care for yourselves! Love others but love yourself too. Don’t apologize for needing a break. Or help. Or a healthful diversion.

I’m sending you my best wishes and vote of confidence today! You are enough to do what you were sent here to do.



P.S. I believe we will be strengthened every time we ask for help in doing our special calling in our family life. Our children are God’s children and He wants them to receive the best possible care we can give! If you are feeling constantly overwhelmed, I would challenge you to intermittently ask the question, “Am I feeling overloaded because of my family calling or because I have time-consuming distractions that are keeping me running and too busy to feel happy and successful at home?” I have to constantly ask myself this question and I don’t have little ones at home anymore…there are just so many potential side roads aren’t there?




Time It Out- One Sweet Cleaning Hack


Semi-interesting fact: It takes me seven minutes to fold and put away a moderately-sized load of laundry.

Why do I know that? Well, I sometimes time myself doing jobs for several reasons.


One, because laundry {or whatever jobs you do on a regular basis} can be daunting. And two, because sometimes I think I don’t have time to finish. 

But knowing the bit about the seven minutes empowers me! I usually have seven minutes, so I can gauge my time, focus, and quickly get it done. I know I can completely finish the job {in seven little minutes} and not have to refold that load again because it didn’t get put away and then it got shuffled and tipped and knocked onto the floor making the time I spent folding it a waste!

Yes, timing your work can be magical.

No, I’m not OCD not even a little. I’m not even attached to a clock much.

But, when you have a pretty good sense of what time you need for any given job, you can make an educated decision about when to get it done.

And, most jobs actually take a lot less time than you think!

Here are some examples:

Clean under the sink- 5 minutes
Straighten the linen closet- 5 minutes
Dust light fixtures in three rooms- 5 minutes

You might also consider having your kids time themselves doing their jobs so that they can have the benefit of knowing they won’t be doing dishes or cleaning their rooms forever!

So my friend, I hope you are feeling good about the state of your castle! And if not, try the timing trick and see if it will help you to focus on one thing at a time and rotate through your work a bit faster.

Home is where such lovely things can begin. Making it clean and inviting is worth our best work!



P.S. Did I mention that timing yourself can keep you on task?…If you’re like me and tend to get a bit distracted by the next drawer or cupboard or closet that I’d like to tackle…but no! Today it’s just cleaning under the sink! Tomorrow will have it’s work too.
Also, once you have the time written on your job sheet {or Lioness planner!} for a task, you can set a timer for that amount of time when you do the job again to keep yourself in a groove! Wow!

P.P.S. All in good time, no need to run faster than you have strength. Small bites {seven little minutes or so } off the to-do list are doable aren’t they?

P.P.P.S. Pacing your work also means that you will get some regular, relaxing breaks and down time to just “be.” Ahhh! You are wonderful!

Pasta In Pictures: {with color commentary}


Quoting my granddaughter, “I hope you wike it!”

The more freshly minced garlic the better I’d say! A little red pepper…

Red bell peppers, your favorite noodles cooked in salted water. {My favorite noodle is Tinkyada Joy made from brown rice.}


Fresh basil!





Real salt and olive oil…


Brown cauliflower in oil and add salt, red pepper flakes, garlic and peppers. Right before you take them off the heat, add the basil.

Toss with the noodles and add more olive oil if you would like more moisture.Grind multi-colored peppercorns, add Parmesan and serve immediately.

Ebb and Flow


Last year this lupine in my garden was thriving. This spring it didn’t come back. I don’t know why, it just didn’t winter well.

We try hard to understand things that happen so that we can learn from the experience and try to influence outcomes in the future.

And sometimes we do.

But sometimes we just have to accept the ebb and flow of life. Sometimes we don’t figure things out.

And that’s ok.

There will be successes tomorrow or the next day.

There will be moments of smooth sailing and high spirits.

And when things are frustrating or hard to understand, we keep walking. Taking rests at times. Relaxing our minds and letting things be for awhile. Sometimes asking for help from a kindly soul nearby.

When it is time, we’ll find the meaning that will give us the experience and understanding that bring wisdom. And empathy. And human kindness.

Please keep on going and don’t you give up.

Much love,


How Sweet It Is


Yesterday I had the privilege of sitting behind a young family at a Sacrament service.

There were three little people…all the same age!

What I heard and saw was so inspirational to me and reminds me why I am confident in the strength and goodness of so many parents today.

I saw a lot of hugging.

I saw a sparkling smile from dad to mom when one of the kids said or did something endearing. I mean it sparkled!

I heard, “Jesus loves you and Jesus loves Daddy and Jesus loves Mommy,” many times.

I saw preparation and simple quiet activities and a lot of explaining, “Now we’re going to pray.”

And, “Now we’re going to sing.”

I felt so happy for the strides that are obviously being made in a marriage relationship and in the challenge of caring for triplets. {What courage that must take!}

I applaud all of you in your efforts to teach your children that they are loved and cherished and that you are loved and cherished too.

We can be full of hope and love and faith, together.

And what sweet rewards come to a family who work and pray and sing together.

Be well my friend!