Visual Aid


Guess what?  Sometimes we don’t know exactly what influence we have, in fact we may never really know.

But there are two things we do know.

One, is that our kids learn from everything that we say and do, our facial expressions, our likes and dislikes, and even from our thoughts.

And two, that knowing this, our love for them is the motivation we have to become better and better.  More honest.  More clear.  More communicative.  More humble and teachable.  In some cases more firm.  In others, more gentle. But always striving because we know,

they’re watching and learning and crafting a life from what they observe in us.

“In all events, a mother can exert an influence unequaled by any other person in any other relationship.  By the power of her example and teaching, her sons learn to respect womanhood and to incorporate discipline and high moral standard in their own lives.

Her daughters learn to cultivate their own virtue and to stand up for what is right, again and again, however unpopular. A mother’s love and high expectations lead her children to act responsibly without excuses, to be serious about education and personal development, and to make ongoing contributions to the well-being of all around them.”          D. Todd Christofferson

What habits would you like to cultivate for their sake?  Can you see how your love for them works for your benefit and blessing when used as the motivation for change?

When you look back (as some of us can now) you will see that the only time you will fail is when you stop trying.

Baby steps, baby steps to the best you!



Gotta Have Heart


Isn’t it kind of crazy that long before you accomplish a goal,

you have to work on each broken down piece of it,

and before that you have to divide it up and schedule it,

and before that you must have a concrete idea,

and before that you have to know what you want,

and before that you have to have the hope that you just might be able to succeed,

and before that you had to have



To Risk or Not To Risk


I don’t know who wrote this, but it’s been hanging in my kitchen for a long time.

Dare To Risk

To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.

To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.

To reach for another is to risk involvement.

To expose your ideas or your dreams before a crowd is to risk their loss.

To love is to risk not being loved in return.

To live is to risk dying.

To believe is to risk failure.

But risks must be taken, because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.

The people who risk nothing, do nothing, have nothing, are nothing.

They may avoid suffering and sorrow, but they cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love, live.

Chained by their attitudes, they are slaves: They have forfeited their freedom.

Only a person who risks is free.


Those sentiments also line-up with a profound thought I heard the other day, which is:

When the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the fear of change, we will take the risks that will help us to move forward.

Is there anything that you’d like to learn or experience that you’re not doing because of fear?

I can think of several!  Here’s to having the courage to take the next baby step…shall we?

Be well!


Small and Simple


In all our big thinking and goal setting, we must remember that it is the small things that make all the difference in relationships!

A kind look.

A sincere apology.  A hot meal.

A hand on a shoulder.  Some undivided attention.  Forgiveness.

And when it comes right down to it, what we all need most in life is to have strong relationships with our family and friends!

So in goal setting, (I am reminding myself!) that the truly great things that will happen this year, will most likely be the small and simple acts of kindness and grace that occur between loved ones.  Which means in part, not overbooking life, so that we can create unhurried, daily, memorable moments together. To work together, play together, eat together and enjoy each other!  It’s crazy, but it may be more difficult to UN-schedule ourselves than to try to squeeze in one more thing!

It’s also true that when we get running too fast, (speaking to myself again) we often don’t feel well, and then it’s much harder to cultivate relationships,to be patient or to offer solace. An important goal for us moms could be immersing ourselves in self-care on a regular basis!  It is such a loving thing to do for everyone’s sake!

“I am making time and space for the people in my life who mean so much to me, and I am caring for them by first caring for myself.”

Be well!



“No soul that seriously and constantly desires joy will ever miss it. Those who seek find. To those who knock it is opened.” C.S. Lewis, The Great Divorce

Dreaming Dreams


The ladies in this picture are my people.  I didn’t ever know them and we’re not even completely sure who is who.  But they are my people and they look like women I’d really like to know!

It always astounds me that my ancestors where here (in living color even though black and white photos make it hard to imagine) and now they are gone.  Even more astounding is the reality that now is my time, and your time and it won’t go on indefinitely!

What dreams do you dream?  What visions are you having about what you’d like to accomplish in this fresh new year?  What relationships would you like to improve?  What skills would you like to learn?

What character traits do you hope to cultivate?   Have you had a chance to write out your ideas on how you’d like the story to go?

I took an hour or so and made a summary of the major events of this year (using my journal as a guide) and the most profound lessons I learned.  It was a great exercise!

I have made notes, categories of goals and have had some preliminary talks with my husband about our family plans, but now I need a few hours to write out the specifics of my goals and vision for this year.  (One major thing I’m changing up this year is spreading out my Christmas preparations through the year!  December was too crazy!  So, I’ve been brainstorming about what items I can work on when…)

“I claim my life and will do my best to write the story I envision!”

I hope it’s a great year ahead for you and your family.

Much love,