Day 29- Write a New Story

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The story that is being told in our heads can determine whether we truly care for ourselves or not.

And how easy or difficult self-care will be.

If it’s a negative or stagnant story, it may be draining our energy and resources.

If it’s a story of forward motion, of forgiveness and reconciliation, of accountability and change, it’s probably giving us energy!


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If we are hearing strains of kindness and worth, we’ll be drawn to the things that will bless us with greater health and happiness.

If we are running a mental program of feeling less than or unworthy, we may push away the things that would help us feel better.

What’s your story?

How close is it between what you believe about yourself and what God’s truth is about you?

To ensure that your self-care behaviors continue, consider getting a paper and pencil, or better yet, pull out your journal and write a new story about your life! About what you believe about where you’ll be in the future.

This doesn’t have to be a time-consuming exercise, just jot down the way you want to see yourself and the way you want to see your future and the ways that you need to care for yourself.

Even a few paragraphs can be life-changing.

Once you have a few things on paper, make a simple copy to put on your mirror or closet, or anywhere you’ll see it often.

Then practice playing that new story in your mind throughout the coming days– and enjoy the self-care that you, a positive and contented person can create and accept.

I wish you every good thing!

Much love,

“The mission of Lioness at the Door is to uplift, strengthen and encourage women of all ages to magnify health, hope and happiness at home. We do so boldly, with humility and gratitude for the opportunity.”

Day 28- Pay The Price

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I have a friend who is struggling mightily to find purpose and meaning in existence, and to discover anything that will trump their thoughts of anxiety and worry in day to day life.

It’s a massive struggle and, it’s also challenging to watch!

Mostly because there is a way out, but it has to be chosen, and no one else can do the choosing!

You might say that a world that consists of a universe with one person in the middle is the definition of misery.


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It’s a spiral turning, ever turning, inward and downward, becoming isolation itself.

I’ve been through segments of time like this, so I have great empathy for those who currently looking for a key to the door!

As we evolve through our challenges and come to see evidences of the grit inside us that refuses to give up! And we come to recognize one liberating key to change is redirecting the spinning, inward, self-absorptive thoughts, and start spinning our attention outward! Out toward anyone and everyone around us. Those who need our care and concern; those who are desperate for a hand to hold; those who have made mistakes or who are sick. {Guess that includes all of us.}

{Note: Lest any of us are tempted at this point to start thinking that self-care is self-centered, I offer this reminder: we care for ourselves in part because we behave in ways that are loving toward ourselves and others, and because we know that the preparation of self-care enables us to give.}

What a relief it becomes to stop being a proverbial black hole and start adding to the collective good. But what does it cost?

It costs our being replaced in the picture. We aren’t the center, {thank heaven!} we are, gratefully, one of many beloved children who need each other.

It costs our prayers as we tune into the Spirit of God to learn what needs to happen next and where we might be most useful each day.

It costs our effort. Not only working to see the needs of those around us but also the energy to reach out in strength and offer support.

It costs being willing to initiate the process of building relationships and connections, which might feel risky or be out of our comfort– but which can lead to the give and take of healthy interdependence!

It costs our pride, since we don’t know the why’s of anyone’s situation and can’t begin to judge. “There, but for the grace of God, go I!”

It costs our life-long devotion to the cause of building people and furthering causes that alleviate suffering and despair.

But the reward is worth it!

Not only are we rescued from our own neediness, but we are given a chance to become part of something truly Good and so much bigger than ourselves.

The ticket for us to get on the train of peace and progress is bought and paid for. But we do have to let go of fear and the distracting and self-absorptive past-times we’ve created in order to take the ride.

I wish you joy. Great joy, as you are about ministering to those within your sphere of influence.

With love,

“The mission of Lioness at the Door is to uplift, strengthen and encourage women of all ages to magnify health, hope and happiness at home. We do so boldly, with humility and gratitude for the opportunity.”

Day 27- Practice Contentment

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“Paradise is where I am.” Voltaire


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What is contentment?

Is it all beauty and no rush?

Is it order and growing?

Is it possible?

Is it quiet or loud?

Is it peaceful?

Is it now?

To care for yourself, I hope you might consider creating a contented paradise wherever you are!

{Surely, everyone will want to join you!}

Even if everything in your life isn’t right all at once, take a look at the plethora of all that is lovely and good and relish in that!

You are loved.

You are strong.

You are doing much better than you know.

With love,

“The mission of Lioness at the Door is to uplift, strengthen and encourage women of all ages to magnify health, hope and happiness at home. We do so boldly, with humility and gratitude for the opportunity.”

Day 26- Peace Like a River

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Life can be pretty challenging. And finding peace sometimes seems illusive!


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But…it is always there, waiting for you to opt in!

To care for yourself, whenever you feel harried or haggard, happy or hungry, you can step quietly into a peaceful place to renew your strength.

Sometimes that might be going for a walk alone. Or taking a drive. It might be finding a way to get some rest, asking for help or simply stepping into a quiet room for a few minutes to clear your mind.

It can even be as simple as a pleading prayer, right where you are, when your heart reaches up to God and asks for His peace to comfort and nourish you.

Imagine the conduit that connects you to Heaven, rising up from you every minute of every day. It is strength. It is power. It is real. You are never alone.

I pray that you will invest whatever time or energy or expense you can to care for yourself. It will pay dividends to the quality of life your family enjoys.

Sending much love to you.

“The mission of Lioness at the Door is to uplift, strengthen and encourage women of all ages to magnify health, hope and happiness at home. We do so with humility and gratitude for the opportunity.”

Day 25- Self-care, Self-talk

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Hello Ladies! I hope you are feeling better and better as this 30 Day Challenge progresses! We’re nearing the finish line!

Today, I re-publish this post from 2014. {Where did that time go?}

But first I’d like to say that I appreciate your comments. I hope you will keep moving forward and keep chiming in. Your experiences lift and bless others, so thank you for sharing your thoughts.


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November 1, 2014:

A large part of self-care is self-talk…that on-going conversation you are having with yourself about how you look, what you need to do, how you feel about yourself, your mistakes and your victories.

Often times I hear women say that they don’t like the way they feel about themselves, whether it is worrying about their looks or weight, or what they need and want to accomplish. Often I hear that they don’t feel that they are making the grade.

I challenge you to pay attention to your self-talk for 24 hours.  Are you critical or are you kind?  Maybe you are kind and patient with everyone but yourself?  Or maybe your self-talk is positive and encouraging! Just take a day and listen to what your inner voice saying about how you’re doing…

If you find that there is an encouraging, forgiving voice sounding in your head, rejoice!  I’m so glad!

But if you find that there is a never-ending tide of “you should have’s” and “why didn’t you” and “you’ll never win” voice that you are suffering through, please ask yourself this:

What if the negative words you spoke to yourself, the words inside your head that no one hears, were turned into actual physical blows instead of just demeaning words?

Would you have bruises and a bloodied nose?

Is that what you deserve for being human?

Please, take the challenge to just listen in and hear what you are saying to yourself. This exercise can be the pivotal point of great personal change!

This is what I wrote years ago when I discovered negativity living in my thoughts:

The harsh, silent, voice that cut me down, stalled my plans and killed my confidence, at last

has been heard,

exposed,

forgiven and

dismissed.

All my best to you,