Day 22- On Leadership


Self-care for a parent is critical! It takes so much energy and grit to lead doesn’t it?

We need to give ourselves every possible advantage in part because of the fact that being a family leader means learning how to deal with disappointment.

We all know that in families, things can get complicated, frustrating and downright difficult!

But because they can be difficult at times, does it mean we abandon our dream of a fully functioning family?

Do we allow ourselves to become discouraged when the activity we planned goes south or the cake falls or the fun ends with a quarrel or when others don’t seem interested in our vision of a goal setting conversation or in pitching in to help when all hands are needed on deck?

{Yes, yes sometimes we do, only to look back later and see the waste of time it was!}

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There is a mental toughness required, to keep moving forward even when things seem to be falling apart. And developing that toughness comes with practice and time!

The ability to keep your faith alive, even when others are allowing themselves to be discouraged and doubting that your family’s evolution is possible.

So, maybe the greatest way we can lead is to cultivate our faith. {And that is an act of self-care.}

Faith in God, in each other, in our ability to grow together.

The evolution of a family is often imperceptible. Sometimes, in fact most often, you don’t recognize the ways that you are becoming a strong unit until you hit a milestone of some kind and look back at where you’ve been and realize how far you’ve come!

So, don’t quit. Keep taking care of yourself. Keep building your reserves. Keep believing and lead out by pushing the restart button every time things get tough!

Building a family takes time.

And I’ll bet you are further along than you know.

Be well!


Day 21- Faith to Knock


We have been promised that if we seek, we will find. If we knock, the way will be opened. If we ask, the answers will come.

I believe it.

Many, many times I have knocked, sought and asked. Many times I have been answered, the way has been opened and many times I have found what I needed in order to take the next few steps into the unknown.

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I love this quote by C.S. Lewis from, The Great Divorce:

“There are only two kinds of people in the end: those who say to God, “Thy will be done,” and those to whom God says, in the end, “Thy will be done.” All that are in Hell, choose it. Without that self-choice there could be no Hell. No soul that seriously and constantly desires joy will ever miss it. Those who seek find. To those who knock it is opened.”

It seems that the alternative to putting forth the effort to ask, seek and knock is to become complacent, or worse, discouraged and stop trying.

I hope you will feel able this week, renewed in your strength, to keep doing your best. And most of all, continue to choose joy!

“I pray for strength when I am weak.”
“I feel Love lifting me up.”
“I forgive myself and others.”
“I love my life.”

My best to you!

Day 20- What Do You Need?


I’m so glad you are here taking this self-care journey. Good for you! 20 days down and only 10 to go!

Today, I’d challenge you to take a few minutes to think about what you need today. Asking the question is part of knowing how to care for ourselves.

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Could you use a brisk walk?

A nap, even a 20 minute rest?

A break of some kind? Maybe time to focus on finishing a goal? Or tearing into a project that has intimidated you for too long?

{Sometimes it’s the things that are undone that are the most draining right?}

Or maybe it’s time for a good, solid, simple shift in perception, the kind that comes from shifting our focus to see someone else’s needs. It’s as good a medicine as anything can be!

What about acting on a charitable thought that came to you this week? Something that would help a friend or a neighbor perhaps?

Once you know, take decisive action, and move ahead.

Always, always remembering that every single baby step counts!

Be well my friend.


Day 19- Speak For Yourself


Hello! Welcome to the 19th day of our focus on self-care. I’m so glad you’re here!

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Today, I’m posting the script of the declaration video so that you can speak them aloud for yourself. I would suggest that you even go a step further and record your voice speaking them, then listen to these truths in your own voice as often as you can!

“Firmly rooted in truth, 

I stand safely in my appointed

time and place; daily, I 

absorb Living Water; grounded in earth;

Connected from afar to it’s red, living core,

I am strong, courageous and whole.

As a sparkling, living, sunny gem, my

Soul is God’s creation, my life a

Gift; I discover, and

Determine my divine path; shining, 

Rising, in the light of each new day,

creativity is my birthright.

I claim the power of my voice; 

the power of decision; the power of 

action; the power to change. I am the

Captain of my soul; on my finger, gleaming and bright,

I wear the Captain’s glistening, golden ring.

As wrapped in silken emerald down,

I am enfolded in divine

Love and abundant grace; In turn, 

My heart flows over with 

streams of

Mercy and Peace.

Safely, I speak- petitioning- 

my wants and needs are

Heard, are honored; effortlessly, with respect and

kindness, I speak my mind in the crisp

blue sky. I decide with

ease and delight!

As lavender gardens reflected in still and quiet pools, 

my tranquil spirit listens for the divine; It’s voice 

prompts my hands to lift, to bless; my

Mind to learning and forges my spirit-

Connection to all living things.

In beauty, my head is crowned with heaven’s sparkling,

diamond light; with face up-turned, 

I give thanks! For each day,

strengthens and instructs;

I act with dignity, for my soul is

Divine. In joy and grace, I wear the

Crown of Creation.”

I wish you heath and happiness that spills over to bless your family and friends.

Be well!


Day 18- Wash Your Mouth!


Ever make your own body care products?

Here’s a simple idea for mouthwash that works well!

Fill a plastic squeeze bottle with water. Add 5-10 drops of a high quality peppermint essential oil.

Just shake, squirt into your mouth, swish and spit it out.

No chemicals. No medicine taste. Just nice and clean!

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Take good care my friend!