Self-care ideas

Ideas and inspiration about the need to care for ones self

Make Pudding Not Proof

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Kind of like saying, make love not war!

Only, we don’t really plan to create war when we think we have to prove ourselves to others. But that thinking does create contention, by inevitably, creating competitive situations with everyone around us.

Today though, I’d like to challenge you to stop competing with your spouse.


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Think about it for a minute. Are there ways that you have set yourself up to prove to him that you are smarter or more frugal or savvy….or, uh hem, righteous than he is?

Guess what?

Competition kills when it comes to creating a loving relationship.

Instead of trying to see who’s best, be on the look out for ways that you can compliment his efforts with yours; ways you can genuinely build him and stabilize his world.

You want an equal partner? Treat him like gold, be yourself, do your best to hold up your side of the partnership and he will do all he can to support you too.

Why do I say this with confidence?

Because men aren’t as complicated as we are! They want to be needed and appreciated and loved (kind of like what we want, right?) and they respond to sincerity and loving behavior quickly and happily.

Don’t make this anymore complex than it needs to be.

Drop the proving and competing and, well, make some pudding instead.

Seriously! Here’s a little recipe I use.


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It is my mother-in-law’s pie filling, and it is lovely.

I tweaked it just a little substituting sugar for a natural sweetener.

2 cups milk (I use all kinds, mostly rice and coconut, but of course whole dairy is lovely if you can handle it!)
2 Tbs cornstarch
1/4 tsp salt
2 eggs
1/4-1/3 cup honey
1 tsp vanilla

In a saucepan, heat milk until it is warm. In a mixing bowl, mix honey, starch and salt with the eggs and then add egg mixture to warmed milk in the saucepan. Cook and stir until thick. Makes one pie or about 5 small dishes of pudding.
I often add 1 Tbs cocoa to the egg mixture, and garnish with shaved dark chocolate and or freshly whipped cream.

Get creative– and whether you make vanilla or chocolate pudding, see what variations you can create! Strawberries with maple syrup, blueberries with coconut, peaches and nutmeg, chocolate pudding with slivered almonds or peanut butter or bananas whatever you can dream up!

Be well!

Love,

“The mission of Lioness at the Door is to uplift, strengthen and encourage women of all ages to magnify health, hope and happiness at home. We do so boldly, with humility and gratitude for the opportunity.”

Peace

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To quote my daughter,

“There is peace in decision.”

And it’s true isn’t it?


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When I find places for things that have been sitting around without a home; when I make a plan with a friend; when I decide what I’m cooking for the week; when I take action and move my thrift store donations to the box in the garage; when I throw away something that is broken or beyond repair; when I move through the laundry at the appointed time; when I decide to leave the house a little earlier than usual so I don’t need to rush; when I get ready for the day before life is in full swing…

It is peaceful.

And my peace spreads through our house and my people feel it, and they spread peace as they go throughout their day and on it goes.

I hope your decisions will fill you with peace and the enjoyment of knowing that your thoughts, turned to actions are rippling out to better the world.

Much love,

“The mission of Lioness at the Door is to uplift, strengthen and encourage women of all ages to magnify health, hope and happiness at home. We do so boldly with humility and gratitude for the opportunity.”

Gathering Light

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Keep trying.

Keep moving.

Keep asking.

Keep deciding.

Keep rowing.

Keep loving.

Keep growing.

Keep shedding.

Keep learning.

Keep evolving.

Keep praying.

Keep soaring.

Hope is smiling brightly before you.

Close your eyes and see her there!

With love,

“The mission of Lioness at the Door is to uplift, strengthen and encourage women of all ages to magnify health, hope and happiness at home. We do so boldly, with humility and gratitude for the opportunity.”

Think Process

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Do you ever get out of patience because it seems as though you are teaching and learning, but you don’t know if you or your children are making any progress?

Teaching and learning are kind of like growing out a bad haircut. It takes 1000 times longer than you want it to take!

And it happens so slowly, that you aren’t sure that anything is happening at all…


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But, if you measure your hair growth after a month or six, you’ll see that yes, it was growing all along though it was imperceptible day to day!

And if you look back at what you knew or what your children were learning a year ago, you’ll see that yes, you’ve all come a long way since then.

Teaching and learning are processes, not events.

If you taught or corrected or mentored or led someone today and you don’t know if it will help, give it a little time.

If you read and studied and practiced and applied some new thing you desperately want to learn, but you don’t yet have a solid grasp on it, give it a while. In time you’ll see that you were acquiring that new knowledge or skill all along.

Part of being patient with ourselves and with others is understanding this truth: teaching and learning are slow, simple, minute and sometimes unconscious processes that require time.

I hope you are off to a good start this week; that is, that you are full of love and patience for yourself and others.

Be well my friend!

Love,

“The mission of Lioness at the Door is to uplift, strengthen and encourage women of all ages to magnify health, hope and happiness at home. We do so boldly, with humility and gratitude for the opportunity.”

The Gathering

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I love baskets.

There are so many things you can organize and carry and make beautiful with them!

And it seems that we women are drawn to the process of collecting and storing whether it be food for a family or fabric for a new project.


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Some gathering can become troublesome though can’t it? The gathering I’m most concerned about for myself and others is the kind that keeps us reading and collecting ideas and skills. That in and of itself is a good thing! But what if the gathering feels so productive and takes so much time, that we quit there and never come around to doing what we know?

Can we really learn without the deepening wisdom that comes from experience? Is it possible to be immersed in information so much and so often that it keeps us from learning? I think so!

Hence, we may have baskets full of very good ideas to try sometime, while our basket of tried and true may stay closer to empty.

And that feels exhausting!

The joy and transforming energy comes in actually doing the work!

Doing the brainstorming. Actually making the list. Participating in the discussion. Feeling the pain of change. Confronting old patterns of belief. Taking the risks. Possibly appearing foolish while starting at the beginning of a new endeavor. {Did I mention pain?}

So here’s a challenge:

If you read or hear an idea today that sounds like something that would bless your life, I challenge you to stop gathering long enough to put that one thing into action.

Consider setting a goal to work on only a handful of small things at once and limit your gathering activities, or at least be extremely selective about the sources to which you will give your precious learning time.

There is great joy that comes when we hear and do. Great learning. Great wisdom. Great progress, even if the things we do are very, very small.

When you feel the triumph of doing the next baby step, it is exhilarating! That is because our joy comes as we take the tiny, incremental steps learning requires!

While on the other hand, gathering turns into pseudo-learning if we stay in that preliminary step, telling ourselves that we are being productive! We are kept from the joy of action because the time we need to practice is already spent in gathering more.

It’s wonderful to have a file for ideas to try later! Or for ways to get a regular shot–in-the-arm to stay motivated and on task; a place for recipes, hurrah for Pinterest! But— learning will be joyful when we actually start cooking. And don’t forget the eating!

I’m sending you my love. You’re doing far better than you know! I hope you will enjoy your life in this day; slow down {at least find quiet moments}, hear the birds and give thanks.

Love,

“The mission of Lioness at the Door is to uplift, strengthen and encourage women of all ages to magnify health, hope and happiness at home. We do so boldly, with humility and gratitude for the opportunity.”